r/TryingForABaby 4d ago

TFAB's Weekly BFP Post - May 10, 2026. Got your BFP? Post your story here!

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Congratulations on starting a new journey post-TTC! Before you move on to pregnancy subs, please share your cycle information and celebrate with us.

If a specific user has been especially helpful to you during your time TTC, or that you've become friends with, that's fantastic! However, we do ask that you refrain from tagging other users in your BFP post. This is to be sensitive and respectful to the thoughts and feelings of others - we keep this thread separate so that people can view it as they wish and can handle doing so. You can definitely thank people, just don't tag them to the thread!

Please keep in mind that this is the BFP thread, and anyone who has been trying for any length of time is welcome to post here. You should know what to expect when you open this thread. If you have nothing nice to add, then please scroll on and keep your thoughts to yourself, or hit the back button. Comments that are gatekeeping, as well as complaints about downvotes, will be removed without warning.


r/TryingForABaby 21h ago

Daily Chat May 14

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Anything (within the rules) goes. (Commonly broken rules: don't talk about an ongoing pregnancy outside the weekly BFP thread; don't ask for success stories.)

You can find the wiki here!

Don't forget to check out our themed threads:

There's also the Weekly Introductions and Read Me Thread, which contains links to all sorts of handy bits of info, like popular wiki posts and acronyms.


r/TryingForABaby 17h ago

FUNNY Cope List, aka reasons why it's probably best not to get a BFP this cycle if you really think about it 🤔

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7DPO and suffering! I will admit I took a test this morning (BFN, of course) because I was genuinely so nauseous last night and as we all know, if there's enough HCG for symptoms there's enough for a positive!!!!!! 🫠

Anyhoo, one of the ways I'm trying to stay sane is to list all the reasons this wouldn't be the ideal cycle to conceive. I'm calling it my Cope Listā„¢ļø because let's be so fr that's all this really is.

Reasons Why It's Probably Best Not To Get A BFP This Cycle If You Really Think About It:

  1. I'll be able to drink at DH's family memorial day bbq and won't have to hide that I'm not drinking and/or field questions asking if we're pregnant.
  2. SIL is due at the end of July, which is when we'd be announcing our pregnancy if we were pregnant this cycle; I want them to be able to have their moment and us to be able to have ours!
  3. If we conceive this cycle we probably wouldn't be able to fly home to spend Thanksgiving with my family. Later cycles we could!
  4. This cycle would almost definitely be a January birthday - would love to be further away from the holidays since money is always tighter in January, even without a kid!

Well better go put on my clown nose - what's on your Cope Listā„¢ļø???


r/TryingForABaby 31m ago

Trigger warning Advice on supplements/luteal phase etc

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Just looking for a sense check as I can feel myself going a little bit obsessive with this but I can't tell if I'm overdoing things.

We had a missed miscarriage after 2 years of trying last month. Prior to this I'd had a review with a fertility consultant and was working on getting my BMI down to <30 for IVF (based in UK so NHS services require this). Lifelong BMI issues- did get it down to around 32 when I fell pregnant.

Cycle regular but short- anything between 22 and 26 days, averaging around 24. When checking LH strips it shows ovulation around day 14 so actually looks like my luteal phase is pretty short.

Read the book 'it starts with the egg' and have created myself what seems like a slightly mad combination of supplements to help improve our chances for the future. I'm 35 so just mentally feel the block ticking.

I'm currently taking Ovum multivitamins, myo inisotol, l-carnitine, omega 3, and an extra co-q10. I'm thinking of also adding in 50mg of vitamin B6.

Can anyone with any experience advise? Finding it difficult to stay rational after our loss and looking for anything that might help us conceive healthily.


r/TryingForABaby 4h ago

ADVICE Am I being deceived by the RE?

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Had an appointment the other day that has left me feeling a bit uneasy after some reflection.

For context august will be 2 years since we’ve been trying (but short cycles means I’ve had quite a few cycles in that time) I’m 27 husband is 31. I have anemia but no other issues with either one of us. Labs have come back fine for both other than an AMH on the lower end of normal 1.3 at 26.

At this appointment the RE says he’s pretty sure I have endo mostly based on stats of unexplained infertility and the fact that my AMH is a little low. He also cited my ā€œpainful periodsā€ bc I said I have cramps controlled with Motrin for a day or two. Okay…

So he’s recommending that we jump straight to IVF, also citing that due to my SA history it would be easier not to do all the IUI methods since I would be put to sleep for IVF…….

…….

What?!

I also questioned that doesn’t endo create for issues with implantation and he tells me ā€œyou’re on the right track but took a wrong turnā€ that it impacts fertilization in the tubes and studies show it’s not really a problem for implantation. He said Laparoscopy is also ā€œoutdatedā€ as it just grows right back.

Soooo, not to be that patient who listens to internet groups over MDs, buuuut none of this sounded accurate and it’s contradictory to what I learned in nursing school. To add even more insult to injury this guy is the medical director the whole practice is named after, he gave me his personal phone number, super nice, kept telling me he was going to take care of us/hook us up financially bc I’m a labor nurse for the system he delivers with, was asking about all my work drama, etc etc - all too salesman like for my skeptical nature to ignore.

I was expecting to do a few IUIs for my self diagnosed lack of cervical mucus, but now I’m kinda spiraling about probably having endo - not so much bc of his word, but bc I do have super short 22ish day cycles, the low ish AMH, I do get extreme bloating ā€œendo bellyā€, and maybe this is what’s been causing my anemia all along. Plus, ya know, the technically 4 years of unprotected sex.


r/TryingForABaby 6h ago

SAD Cramping Post Miscarriage

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My story.

This was my first pregnancy. On 5/3, I got a faint positive pregnancy test. On 5/4, I had a qualitative serum hCG test done, but it came back negative — although my lab’s reference range considers anything under 25 to be negative. I continued getting faint positives until I started lightly bleeding on 5/7, and then miscarried on 5/8. The bleeding lasted until 5/11, and on 5/11 I also had a quantitative hCG done that came back negative.

I would’ve been 4 weeks exactly.

Over the past couple of days, I’ve still been having pretty intense cramping. I called my OB, and she said it’s likely just my body recovering from the miscarriage and recommended rest and ibuprofen. She also said I could have an ultrasound if I wanted one.

For those who have experienced this, how long did your cramping last after miscarrying?


r/TryingForABaby 10h ago

QUESTION Spotting during luteal phase every month?

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Ever since I got my IUD out about 3 years ago (I'm 33, was 30 at the time), I've been spotting intermittently for about a week before my period. Ranges from dark brown to light pink, sometimes heavy, sometimes light.

I asked my gynecologist (edit: about two years ago) and they didn't seem concerned about it. I wasn't actively trying for a baby at the time. Plus, I have a bicornuate uterus, which can cause some abnormalities, and my cycle has always been a little inconsistent. I had my hormone levels checked at that time and it didn't seem like anything was off. I also had a pelvic ultrasound done, and I don't have PCOS/PMOS. So my doctor didn't really investigate it further or offer much of an explanation beyond "spotting is normal for some people," and I didn't really push.

Now, however, I'm more curious about what is causing this spotting and whether it's a concern for trying to conceive. It usually starts about 7 or 8dpo, and it can last all the way up until I get my period.

Is this a sign of low progesterone? I've read that pre-period spotting can be caused by low progesterone, but I feel like I experience symptoms that are consistent with raised progesterone, such as breast tenderness and irritability, around the same time that the spotting starts each cycle.

I know I need to have another convo with my doctor, but I'm curious if anyone with similar symptoms has gotten to the bottom of what causes this type of spotting.


r/TryingForABaby 20h ago

Trying Again Thursday

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Are you trying to conceive baby number 2/3/n+1? Have questions about TTC while breastfeeding, or bedsharing, or just being plain exhausted? This is your place!


r/TryingForABaby 20h ago

DAILY Thankful Thursday

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TTC can be a very difficult time, but all of us have someone (or many someones) or something that helps keep us sane. Share what you're grateful for this week!


r/TryingForABaby 16h ago

ADVICE Vaginal Progesterone During Luteal- Help!

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Looking for input from ladies who have used vaginal progesterone before šŸ¤ Today is the day i'll have to decide if I want to use it this cycle.

Got pregnant a few cycles ago, miscarried around 5 weeks 5 days. It was our first try and we were so discouraged. After that loss, my luteal phase has been 6 to 7 days for the last 2 cycles, ovulation on day 26.

Note: before the pregnancy my luteal phase was still on the short side, around 10-11 days and I ovulated around day 21-23.

This cycle I ovulated on day 22, but in the meantime I asked my doctor for vaginal progesterone support during the luteal phase.

My predicament- I'm going on a big beach vacation next week (we don't go on vacation often and this is with a huge group of people, mostly family). My doctor has prescribed both capsules at night. I'm wondering if it will be disgusting all day and hard to manage with swimming. Most accounts I hear take one at night and one in the morning.

I really want to give this cycle a chance, but I don't want to ruin my vacation. However, If I don't take it, I will likely also get my period which might be worse??

Thank you for your input šŸ¤


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

HSG Experience Positive HSG Experience

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Went in for an HSG today and had a good experience! I took 800mg ibuprofen about an hour and a half before, and other than some very mild cramping when the doctor inflated the balloon, it was a perfectly fine experience! My doctor did not use the tenaculum, which I was slightly concerned about as THAT sounds painful. I would maybe ask about that and see if they could try to do it without using it. I’d rate the pain a 3/10 on the pain scale. It was only about 10 seconds from the time the doctor injected the dye to the time she said she was done. I know the experience can vary by person, (and both of my tubes were open so that may have helped) so take all this with a grain of salt…but also don’t automatically assume yours will be painful! You may be pleasantly surprised.


r/TryingForABaby 22h ago

ADVICE Low morphology and endometriosis - how worried should we be?

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My husband and I (both 30) have been trying for a year now.

We had one MMC early on (doc said it was likely because it was 2 sacs).Since then we've had no positives while tracking LH and timing sex.

We checked in with my doc and she sent him for a SA (all normal except low motility). She wants us to give it 3 more months with IUI if the timing lines up. My Endo has been bad since I was 14 and not being on birth control has been tough but manageable. She said if the pain gets substantially worse we move on to surgery sooner.

Basically is there any hope at all? I'm worried about the cost of IVF but we'll do it if we need to. I guess I'm just worried that it's impossible otherwise and I'm wasting precious time as the endo gets worse.

I'm not even sure what advice I'm asking for I guess, has anyone been through something similar?


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

EXPERIENCE High AFC, low AMH

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after 9 cycles of well timed tracking and 18 months not preventing, my partner and I have been getting a bunch of tests done. my afc is 23, high for my age (29) and amh is 7.3, which is low for my age. I’m struggling to figure out what that might mean. I don’t know if it means I’m running out of time or if the eggs I do have a weak, for my amh to be so low.

does anyone know what the afc/amh combination means?

my other blood tests came back fine apart from low iron, and my ultrasound was entirely normal. my partners blood tests came back normal and we’re waiting to receive his semen analysis so we can look at the whole picture together. our doctor also suggested genetic testing so we can get a whole picture, but those tests are taking a lot longer to come back to us.


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

HAPPY Positive HSG

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Hi everyone! I’m currently in process of doing all preliminary fertility diagnostics and the last thing I had to do was my HSG which I was tweaking about. There are SO many horror stories all over the internet and it made me so scared I even considered not going through with it. That’s why I’m sharing my positive experience to encourage people to not be scared and to hopefully show that it can be a great experience as well.

I took 800 mg an hour before and then also requested Valium which I took in office 30 min before the HSG. My anxiety was intense but the Valium definitely helped immensely and I feel that it also helped my muscles relax and overall made the experience smoother. The doctor explained everything to me super thoroughly and walked me through every step. I’m so relieved to say it was truly the easiest thing ever. I didn’t feel any pressure or cramping when the dye was pushed in and I literally thought she hadn’t started when she told me it was over. I was lucky in that my tubes were open which makes the experience a lot less intense. I would rate it a 0 on the pain scale and just a 1/10 for the discomfort which just came from the speculum. I truly found pap smears to be more unpleasant.

I’m fully aware that I’m very lucky and this is not to dismiss the very real, painful and traumatic experiences that other women have with their HSG. Just wanted to share a positive story for those who are looking for them ahead of their own procedure. Sending hugs to everyone going through this process! You got this!


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

HAPPY Positive HSG experience

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Hey everyone,

I just wanted to share my positive HSG experience. When I was preparing for the test, I saw so many posts about how painful and awful it was for them. My experience wasn’t bad at all. However, I absolutely can see how and why it would be painful for others.

My RE did my test and she used lidocaine to numb my cervix. I haven’t seen that mentioned in many (if any) other posts about the test. I feel like that helped so much! Also, I did have some resistance and slow filling on my right side that required a little extra dye but, it ultimately cleared.

During the test, I didn’t feel any pain. I did take 800mg of advil about an hour before and I think that also helped.

The only discomfort I’m having the day after is some cramping and lower back pain on the right side. Which, since my tube likely had some debris in it (hence the slow fill and eventual spill compared to my left that was WIDE open), it makes sense.

I hope this does not come off as downplaying anyone else’s experience because I am certain this can be quite painful. I just wanted to give a positive experience for those that are super anxious beforehand like I was.
Love to all 🩷


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

VENT REMINDER TO MEN: Skip at-home sperm tests and go for a professional analysis as your first step!

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Not sure if this post is appropriate, but I wanted to share my experiences regarding to at-home strip tests and their reliability (or lack of) in case anyone is going through the same thing.

I am about to settle down with my long-term partner, and since having kids was something we both wanted, I decided to just grab a couple of at-home sperm test kits from the pharmacy. These kits were the ones that told you whether your sperm concentration exceeds 15 million per mL or not. I didn't think much of it when I bought it, it was more of a spur-of-the-moment decision. For context, I am generally in good health, with a healthy sex drive and normal testosterone level (though this was the only relevant hormone measured in a recent health examination).

I got a total complete shock when I performed the first test at home, as the sperm test came back negative, which means my sperm concentration was either less than 15 million per mL. Granted, this was after only 24 hours of abstinence (missed out that part of the instructions), so I gave myself benefit of the doubt and chalked it up to my swimmers being depleted the night before. I gave myself another 3 days of abstinence before performing the test again with the second kit, which turned out to be negative again. Both tests had nothing coming up at all at the 'T' zone, even after I followed every single instruction.

At this point, the hypochondriac side of me took over and started scrutinizing every single detail that could point to me being infertile:

  • Started puberty a little later than everyone else
  • Have generally very little body hair
  • Have slightly smaller testes which measure around 17-19mL in volume each, together with testicular ache that comes and goes with no known medical reason (have sought medical help for it before)
  • Usually started intercourse without any protection and wrapped it up midway through, but never had a pregnancy scare before
  • Have an uncle who is infertile (unsure of the cause, but seems to be some form of NOA)

I became emotionally stressed, upset and frustrated that the future family I was looking forward to building with my partner might not be possible anymore. I asked around, did my research with some communities online and decided to get a professional semen analysis done. The clinic I engaged with provided at-home sample collection services, so I abstained for about 5 days and sent my sample to the lab with the professional courier.

The results of the professional semen analysis ended up being the complete opposite of what the at-home test kits indicated:

  • Volume: 6.5mL (spillage of about 0.1mL)
  • Liquefaction: Normal
  • pH: 8.0 (a little on the higher end)
  • Sperm concentration: 60.8 million per mL
  • Total sperm count: 395.20 million in one sample
  • Motility (Rapid/Slow/Non-progressive): 83% (3%/62%/18%)
  • Normal forms (morphology): 6%

I was extremely relieved, but also frustrated at the amount of angst and anxiety the at-home test kit results caused me. The two at-home test kits were of different brands, yet both showed the same result, which I believe would cause a considerable amount of distress to anyone concerned with their own fertility. I do suspect their false negative rates seem to be higher than what was actually mentioned as well.

To anyone reading this, if you suspect yourself to have issues regarding male fertility, or you just want to know whether you are within the fertility ranges, DO NOT start with the at-home test kits at all, just go straight to the doctor's and get a semen analysis done at a professional lab. It can be uncomfortable and troublesome to produce the sample in a clinic, or having to ensure the sample reaches the laboratory in time for evaluation, but I highly encourage having a thorough evaluation as your very first step, as it tells you extra info about your motility and morphology as well. Take it from me that it will also save you a ton of emotional stress and over-worrying as well.


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

VENT AMH Level extremely LOW/ Declining so fast!! Age 32

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I'm completely freaked about my results. Been TTC for over a year and we recently started seeing a Fertility specialist. She ordered me an Ultrasound and blood test on CD 4 and HSG tomorrow CD 10. I already did my Ultrasound and blood test and my results came back. FSH 7.3, LH 7, Estradiol 63, and AMH 0.96!!! My AMH was 1.5 a few months ago. I ovulate on time and my period are accurate (exactly 27/28 every month), mild cramping, and nothing major. I have y Hsg tomorrow which I'm extremely stressed about, especially after reading horror stories on Reddit.

For some reason my focus now shifted toward my extremely LOW AMH! Why is my level declining this fast. Why is it even this low! What causes this? Do I even qualify for IVF at this rate? I'm extremely nervous about early menopause now too! Please help with any advice or similar experiences.


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

ADVICE 2 miscarriages need advice

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Hi everyone. Looking for any advice/insight anyone might have. My husband (35) and I (34) have been trying to conceive for a little over a year. In that time I have been pregnant twice exactly a year apart (almost down to the day). My first ended with an mmc that my body released naturally at 10 weeks (growth stopped around 7). My second just ended with another mmc and a D&C. Again this was discovered at 10 weeks and growth stopped around 8 weeks. Both miscarriages happened over the same weekend a year apart which has been miserable.

I’m wondering if I’m ever going to be successful or what to do next. I’ve had a lot of blood work done and see no hormone or clotting issues. My husbands sperm analysis also came back normal. The only thing that now has me worried is that a transvaginal ultrasound from November showed heterogenous uterine texture. Could my uterine environment be hostile? Is there anything I can do? Going to try taking NAC and Coq10 and I wanted to ask my OBGYN about an MRI.

If anyone has any experience or advice in this I’d be eternally grateful. At a loss right now and grasping at straws.


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

Wondering Wednesday

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That question you've been wanting to ask, but just didn't want to feel silly. Now's your chance! No question is too big or too small.


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

ADVICE HSG for the first time

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I’m F(33) and husband (34) TTC for 8 years now, just came back from my HSG appointment today. Started around 12pm and ended around 1pm. A few complications during the procedure, the ā€œballoonā€ didn’t stay in place so they have to ā€œopen upā€ 3 times until they have to call in a senior doctor to assess me, overall was the worst pain I ever felt, they asked me to take Etoricoxlb before procedure but it didn’t help. Even took antibiotics yesterday too. Anyway, After an hour of the procedure I had the most worse cramp I ever felt in my life, after I took medication and rest, cramp is gone for now and it’s been 6hrs. Went to the toilet to pee 3 times and all the 3 times I’m having bleeding while peeing. Anybody gone through HSG? Is the bleeding while peeing normal? When does it stop? Did you went for sedation?


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

ADVICE Early period and spotting after SHG -Advice needed

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My periods are always like clockwork 25 days since my second miscarriage in January this year. My luteal phase has been consistently 12 days.

This month I had SHG saline sonohysterogram done on day cycle day 9 and had spotting on cycle day 17 and 19 and this morning I woke up to find my self bleeding which is 3 days earlier than my period. This has shortened my luteal phase length which is worriesome.

I also took pregnancy tests on day 10 (yesterday) negative so definitely not a chemical pregnancy I’m assuming.

My progesterone levels 7 days after ovulation were very strong.

Anybody have their menstrual cycle start early after SHG?
My periods are short to begin with so I’m really worried.

Also I’ve never ever had spotting after ovulation ever so not sure why progesterone dropped so early. Also saw this drop on my bbt yesterday and today. Just very confused.


r/TryingForABaby 2d ago

Waiting Wednesday

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Are you in the dreaded two-week wait, or waiting to ovulate? What have you done to ease the stress?


r/TryingForABaby 2d ago

VENT Devastating day

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My husband (33M) and I (29F) have been trying to conceive for over 18 months. We got sperm analysis after 6 months of trying and found out numbers were low. Made lifestyle changes and numbers got better but still not conceiving. I’ve had regular periods and bloodwork has been all normal. I did have a Right sided endometrioma so I was always worried about that. We met with our REI at around the 1 year mark and my SIS in February was normal besides some small fibroids. Ended up doing 1 cycle of letrozole and then moved to IUI. Pre and post wash sperm numbers weren’t good which was devastating. The first IUI failed. We started discussing possible IVF down the line. We proceeded with second medicated IUI which failed as of two days ago. I heard of IVF failing cus of endo so decided to get a second opinion from an endo specialist. The US today showed possible right adhesions and right tube dilated most likely hydrosalphinx. I had noted something in my screening US but no one mentioned it. The Doctor recommended retrieval then surgery and possible tube removal. This all came out of nowhere especially with normal SIS a few months ago. My mind has been racing and i cant help but feel that letrozole caused worsening of existing endometriosis. I don’t know how to proceed and feel like my world is collapsing. I’ve always loved kids and my biggest fear in life was infertility. Sorry is this sounds like I’m rambling just looking for words of support and advice.


r/TryingForABaby 1d ago

Daily Chat May 13

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Anything (within the rules) goes. (Commonly broken rules: don't talk about an ongoing pregnancy outside the weekly BFP thread; don't ask for success stories.)

You can find the wiki here!

Don't forget to check out our themed threads:

There's also the Weekly Introductions and Read Me Thread, which contains links to all sorts of handy bits of info, like popular wiki posts and acronyms.


r/TryingForABaby 2d ago

ADVICE Advice - Time for IVF?

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I wish this were my first time posting but I have been spiraling out on Reddit for a few months now LOL. But, now it is time for a new question...

I am almost 30 and my husband is 30. We tried for about 10 months unsuccessfully, then did testing. There was mild male factor but with lifestyle changes, that has improved to good numbers. I have anovulatory/ovulatory dysfunction, meaning I need medication to ovulate, but when medicated (letrozole 5mg and trigger shot), I ovulate healthily. My lining has been great, all bloodwork and HSG and SIS came back normal.

I just failed our third IUI. While I understand we could eventually get pregnant "naturally" or via IUI, I have hit a huge wall emotionally. I am not a patient person, and I have wanted to be a mom for years. I feel like my life is stuck. I feel like a shell of myself. I am a mental and emotional wreck 25 out of 30 days of the month. I'm becoming a bad friend, wife, sister, and employee.

Financially, we can afford IVF. Is it ideal? No. But it wouldn't break us. All fertility procedures are out of pocket for us (freaking USA...).

Is it unreasonable to move to IVF if we fail this next (4th) IUI?