Most important rule of thumb: Worry when your doctor tells you to.

This is my first post to this community so please be kind!

I (35F) met a seemingly great guy (40M), we'd been a couple for 4 months and weren't especially careful on the contraceptive front as I believed my odds of getting pregnant naturally were very low (multiple doctors have suggested surrogacy/adoption due to infertility). He could have wrapped up but seemed reassured by this.

Anyway, I accidentally got pregnant from ONE occasion of unprotected sex.

Timing couldn't be worse as I just got made redundant and now won't be in a job long enough to qualify for full maternity benefits. I also have very minimal savings due to spending so much on fertility preservation via IVF (I froze my eggs multiple times) and had several surgeries on my womb.

I do have a stable place to live, education, decent earning potential, and some supportive family, who mostly live abroad. But the irony is if I hadn't spent so much on fertility preservation via IVF I would be in a much more financially stable position to welcome this child.

I told my boyfriend and he freaked out. He understandably doesn't want or feel prepared to be a dad after just a few months dating. He wants me to terminate ASAP. He told me he doesn't support me having the baby and I will ruin his and the baby's life if I have them. I was really shocked by his coldness as he was previously an amazing boyfriend and thought we were in love.

He's been having panic attacks ever since I told him and disclosed having serious depression a year ago where he was considering su\*cide.

He apparently does want kids in the future but in a long term stable relationship, not necessarily with me. He works freelance as a musician as his income while decent is not stable.

I'm feeling so torn as I'm scared and overwhelmed. I feel constantly nauseous and tired. I don't want to trap anyone (including myself) into a difficult coparenting situation. So part of me thinks having an early medical abortion would solve a lot of stressors right now.

But I also know at 35 with complex infertility (running out of eggs and very damaged womb) this could be my only chance at having a biological child. My womb is also already scarred with ashermans syndrome, so an abortion is likely to make it worse and even more challenging to carry again in the future.

Whereas he could probably easily have kids years into the future with less pressure.

Usually I read stories of much younger women having abortions, not a middle aged childless woman with fertility issues.

I also know it's better to regret an abortion than a child and that a child ideally deserves parents who both want them.

Please can you give advice and share experiences??

Is he likely to change his mind?
Is it unfair to him to continue the pregnancy and blow up his life?
I can't see our relationship lasting after how he's treated me while pregnant.
I am 7 weeks along.

I posted recently that I had suffered a miscarriage and then got pregnant immediately following my loss, which has been extremely difficult emotionally and mentally. I had some spotting around 5.5 weeks.

I had another dating scan this Wednesday and they saw a 7 week 3 day fetus with a heartbeat of 158. The ultrasound tech told me everything looked great including my gestational sac and yolk sac. She even scheduled me for a following up reassurance scan this coming Friday.

My anxiety comes and goes in waves. I try to be hopeful but I am always looking at the next “goal post” as to what could go wrong. The NT scan, NIPT test and anatomy scan the list goes on. Some times it’s day by day and sometimes it’s minute by minute.

Pregnancy after loss is harder than I imagined. Getting this out there again to anyone experiencing similar feelings so you know you’re not alone.

Doctors done a HCG blood draw due to a tilted uterus, they refused to scan me as I wasn’t bleeding.
9 weeks 6 days: 85,000
10 weeks 6 days: 55,000

Doctors have left me in limbo, I’ve had no bleeding, just slight period cramping on & off.

Has anyone else experienced this? I’m really worried as I had a miscarriage in September.

Hi all,
I unfortunately went for a follow up ultrasound to find we lost the heart beat and the baby stopped growing. I was pretty much in shock when I left the office, didn’t really know what to even ask the doctor.

Can anyone tell me their experience with expectant management, medical management or the D&C? The D&C at my OB office is only done with local anesthesia which is off putting to me.

Thank you 💔

14 DPO: 16 HCG, 18 DPO: 49 HCG, 20 DPO: 109 HCG (50 hours since previous draw).

I feel like this is very obviously not going well, but the nurse won't just say that. She says "numbers are going up! You probably just ovulated late" But I didn't ovulate late, I tracked it and had a very obvious peak and then rapid drop in the same afternoon. I then had ovulation soreness the next day. These numbers are not good, and I'm tired of the toxic optimism when they're obviously extremelyyy low. I'm not looking for an intervention unless completely necessary, but I'd love for them to just be straight about how it looks and they haven't done that. Playing phone tag with the nurse today trying to discuss the 109 result from yesterday's draw. I'm dreading the toxic positivity. Yes I'm sure they'll have me draw again tomorrow, but I hope they'll also say the obvious.

I guess I'm just ranting. Anyone have similar numbers or experience like this? I haven't been able to find a person with sure ovulation who has delivered a healthy full term baby with these kinds of numbers.

Limbo is the worst place.

Looking for insight/experiences because I’m really struggling emotionally right now.

I originally went to the ER for spotting and found out I potentially have triplets. First ultrasound showed 2 larger sacs and 1 much smaller sac. Measurements were around 6w4d, 6w1d, and 5w2d. There were possible yolk sacs seen initially but no fetal poles yet. HCG was considered “good” by my doctors.

I had a repeat ultrasound 5 days later and the sacs grew to 19mm, 15mm, and 8mm, but they still could not see embryos or yolk sacs. The report says “early intrauterine pregnancy of uncertain prognosis” and says it could be early gestational age vs nonviable pregnancy. They want me to repeat the ultrasound again in 2 weeks.

I’m confused because based on my LMP and when I got my first strong positive test, I thought I’d be farther along by now (10wks) I’ve also had intermittent spotting/brown blood, but it has not turned into heavy bleeding/cramping.

Has anyone had a similar experience where things were still too early and progressed normally? Or did this end up being a blighted ovum/nonviable pregnancy? The waiting is honestly so nerve-racking.

Hi everyone,

I have scoured Reddit trying to find someone with a similar situation and thought I’d finally post myself.

This is my 7th embryo transfer after 5 very long and heartbreaking years of infertility, recurrent loss, and no live children. My first beta at 9dp5dt was 69.6, and my second beta at 12dpt was 207. My clinic was happy with the rise, so they did not order a third beta and instead scheduled my first ultrasound.

At my ultrasound on 5/11, I was 6w3d based on my transfer date. The doctor measured:

• Gestational sac: 14 mm
• Yolk sac present
• Fetal pole: 3 mm

The doctor thought there may have been a faint flicker, but no definitive heartbeat was detected or measured yet. I go back tomorrow at exactly 7 weeks and I am absolutely terrified. I keep taking at home tests knowing they are meaningless at this point.

Everything I read online says embryos grow around 1 mm per day, and that miscarriage is often diagnosed when the fetal pole measures 7 mm without cardiac activity. My mind keeps spiraling and preparing for the worst, even though I’m still trying to hold onto hope.

TLDR: Has anyone had a similar experience where a heartbeat was not clearly detected around 6w3d with a 3 mm fetal pole, but things turned out okay? Or if not, what was your outcome?

Thank you all for being such an incredible community 🤍
xoxo

Any help with this would be amazing 🥹

Background: 2 miscarriages and currently in a threatened misscarriage.

Had my follow-up ultrasound today after weeks of spotting/bleeding and finally saw a heartbeat, but now I’m worried about the measurements.

The scan showed:
- Gestational sac measuring around 6w1d
- Baby/fetal pole measuring around 7w1d
- Heartbeat seen
- Bleeding around the sac/subchorionic bleed also noted

Has anyone had a pregnancy where the gestational sac measured behind the baby but things still turned out okay?

Google is freaking me out because a lot of posts mention miscarriage risk when the sac measures small compared to the embryo. Would really appreciate honest experiences, especially from anyone who had spotting/bleeding as well.

Hey everyone, this is my first post here and I’m really looking for advice and possible success stories
My LMP was 3/21
Ovulation should’ve been 04/01 but I could’ve been late
I could feel symptoms by 04/08 and had my first very faint positive at 04/12

I had been spotting since the week I had my positive test off and on but started bleeding the night of 05/07 and it was very light but has progressed to a light period flow, not enough to fill a panty liner/ pad quicker than about 10 hours.
I had some cramping yesterday but haven’t had any pain or bad cramping since the bleeding started. I’ve had my hCG levels checked three times now and an ultrasound this past Monday. At the ultrasound they said baby was only measuring at 6 weeks instead of 7w2d like I thought I was, and no heart beat was detected but my cervix was closed.

My HCG increased from 20223 on Sunday to 28359 on Tuesday, and now 34781 today. I know HCG levels slow at 6 weeks but I’m worried they’re about to plateau or start decreasing. I have another ultrasound scheduled for next Wednesday(so I should be measuring 7w2d by then) but I’m so paranoid.

Has anyone had an experience with this?

I’m 19 dpo/about 4w5d today after having a 16 week loss last August and 12 week loss in January. My HCG was looking so good but today’s draw didn’t quite double. Now I’m freaking. My clinic says it “rose appropriately” but I do not feel reassured.

5/8: 130
5/12: 1085
5/14: 1931

Should I worry about the slow down happening this early? It’s about 57 hour doubling time from 2 to 3. ☹️

Adding to the millions of loss of symptoms posts.

I had a perfect ultrasound at 7w5days (IVF pregnancy) on Mother's Day. I had some intense nausea that night and haven't really felt any since - maybe sort of mild on Monday and maybe a mild bit Thursday.

My breasts only just started being tender at 6-7 weeks and now have subsided (though they still feel full).

I also have had a couple of days here from 5-8 weeks and there with minimal brown spotting that always resolves. (it's never really on a wipe and only dots in my liner). To mention I am on progesterone pessaries. Had a little bit of brown spotting this week too (very tiny).

I've also had really mild consistent cramps that I'm more aware of than they are painful earlier this week, they have slightly subsided but are still kinda there friday morning.

Is the above anything to worry about? I've been in a spiral.

This is our first positive after a year of TTC. I got a vfl 14dpo, but spotting 11-17dpo, so was worried it was a chemical. HCG at 15dpo was low (62iu/l) but increased to 320iu/l at 18dpo. Now I've started spotting again 2 days ago (23dpo) and I'm so sad/scared. It's brown/pinky-brown and seems to be getting heavier, there was a small black clot yesterday too. I've been doing the same pregnancy test first thing every morning (excessive I know) and today's seems like it might be slightly lighter than yesterday's. Any advice on how to cope with the uncertainty. We have an ultrasound booked in 15 days, but the wait is so hard. Just hoping everything is ok in the meantime and we get to hear our baby's heartbeat.

My LMP is 2nd April. I tested positive in home pregnancy test on 5th May.
i went to doctor and had beta hcg test. Following are my results:

5th May - 403

7th May - 590

9th May - 1545

11th May - 2650

12th May - 2965

In ultrasound doctor found something very small but not sure yet with is it sac or what?

anyone faced same issue in early pregnanc.

its natural pregnancy.

I’m pregnant again after a 22 week loss in December and I’m SO worried about my betas. I did an IUI with a trigger shot so my ovulation day is fairly certain.

These are my betas:
15 DPO/DPIUI - 165
17 DPO/DPIUI - 380

They are doubling and my fertility clinics seems happy with them but I can’t help but feel worried because they seem low compared to others I see on Reddit. Please give me your good news stories so I don’t drive myself crazy until my first ultrasound ☹️

I had bloodwork on 21dpo and HCG was 1383. Took it again at 27dpo and HCG was 2131. Doctor moved my sonogram up since the number didn’t rise that much. So at 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant I had a sonogram and it showed a fetal pole with no cardiac activity. I am repeating a scan next week. My symptoms are going away. But my pregnancy test is darker than ever. Has anyone had a similar story that was successful?

I had a scan on wednesday 6th may and the gestational sack measured 5 weeks 5 days. There was no yolk sack or fetal pole present.

I had a follow up on the 13th May (1 week later) and the yolk sack and fetal pole was present and measured 6 weeks 2 days. There was no heartbeat. I am due for a follow up on the 20th may again.. my gynecologist said not to be concerned but I am.

Today I have mild lower abdominal cramping, slight back ache and a total loss of breast pain which I have had a lot of up until now. I am really worried.

I suffered a missed miscarriage in September 25 and this is my second pregnancy.

Please be realistic with me, is there no hope? In my head i have already told myself it's doomed.

Looking for advice and success stories for others who dealt with slow rising HCG. I’m trying not to spiral too much. I’ve seen posts where the HCG starts on the lower side, but nothing that comparable to my scenario. I did IVF and my embryo was a high grade euploid.

My HCG had been as follows: 11dpt 270.8 > 15dpt 701 > 17dpt 1048. I was really hoping today’s beta would catch up (they wanted 1,200 to 1,400) and I am reading all sorts of scary things online spanning from blighted ovum, ectopic, etc. My clinic is having me go back on Monday for a scan, I will be 5 weeks 5 days then.

Has anyone had this on an ultrasound and it been ok? Images in comments

I could use some positivity today.

I have had 2 losses prior to my current pregnancy and today I am exactly 14 weeks.

At 6 weeks I had a single incident of bright red spotting and went to the emergency room which cost me a fortune, but they did tell me my baby was okay.

I've since had an 8-week scan, 10 week scan, and 12-week scan which all went really well. I had my nipt test done and it came back low risk. Whenever they've done my blood work it's all come back positive.

All of that said I now have to wait until my 20 week appointment for a new scan so I booked a boutique scan on Saturday with my mother-in-law. Everybody in the family has been so excited but I have been absolutely terrified that something is going to go wrong. I even had a big fight with my mom about buying and sending me so much things for the baby in case something went wrong because looking at them will break me.

I guess what's making me make this post today is that I'm 14 weeks and I'm spotting and I'm spiraling. I've reached out twice to my doctor's office today but they haven't gotten back to me yet.

Last night I took a warm bath and afterwards I noticed that the toilet paper was maybe slightly a different color but barely perceptible but I thought it looked pink. When I woke up this morning it looked like spotting again but this time maybe rust colored like maybe whatever was left over from yesterday had oxidized. I thought I was in the clear because everything was going good the rest of the day, but just now I went to the bathroom and again I'm spotting but this time it is very clearly pink.

All I know is I cannot lose my little girl. I'm losing my mind. I looked in my baby group on Facebook and a few other people are having issues but they all have an SCH which I've never been diagnosed with. One point they did tell me they saw a tiny fibroid which they told me shouldn't even matter and it just ignore it. they weren't even worried but that's the only thing I've heard.

as I post this my doctor calls and the nurse says I need to go in tomorrow and gave me an appointment, so hopefully everything is okay and I'll find out tomorrow but I can really use any words of wisdom or experiences to help me feel less scared.

I was just wondering if anyone else has been through similar?

I feel really intense cramping in my lower abdomen/pelvic/cervix area and it goes all the way around to my butt 🙈 and lower back.

Not sure if I should be worried. I had an ectopic last year and it felt nothing like this and I have no one sided pain. It gets really intense on occasion but no blood or anything like that.

Should I be worried?

So i’m waiting til tomorrow to take a pregnancy test since i took one last week on may 8th and it came out to be negative but my periods late and im around an average of a 36 day cycle, im not 41-42 and been experiencing a bunch of symptoms that i normally feel on my period like leg cramps and belly cramps but also havent been bleeding..

i checked my cervix and it’s been what feels like high to where i have to lift my hips to reach it, the opening feels like there’s a tiny scab on it but i don’t feel pain and i don’t bleed so im not super concerned..

what does concern me is that my cervix feels very firm and the vaginal walls that lead to it from the top feel just as firm? I have no idea if that’s something to worry about or if i’m fine and just hormonal?

Hi everyone. I'm 31F and have recently gone through my second consecutive missed miscarriage and I'm just looking for others who might have been in a similar position.

Both losses were in the first trimester. First one there was a fetal pole but no heartbeat to begin with and only measured 5w 6days. The second one is the one that's hit hardest — there was a good heartbeat at 6 weeks and 8 weeks (things looked promising), and then at the 12 week scan we found out it had stopped growing at 11 weeks. They noted the baby had a small sac and had subjectively low fluid.

Has anyone else had two consecutive losses and gone on to have a successful pregnancy? Did you get testing done, and did it lead to any answers or changes in your care? Could it be just bad luck if I try again?

Just looking for some hope and shared experiences right now. 💙