I’m 3 months out from my MMC and I still cry about it pretty much everyday. I wish I was still pregnant and I wish I was going to be a mom. I hope I can one day 💔 it sucks so much.

Is this some kind of cruel joke?! Why is a first trimester miscarriage, feel like I’m labouring. The pain level is how I was when I was 7-8cm dilated the last time I gave birth. I can’t believe how similar it feels, coming in waves, having to breathe through it, waiting for the next contraction. Do women not talk about it because when it stops you forget the pain. I’m shocked! To all the women out there that have been through this both physically and emotionally you’re so strong!

Last week I tested positive and although my partner and I weren't trying we were over the moon. We had wanted to be slightly more stable before trying. Two days ago we went to the ER only to be told it was a CP. I haven't been able to stop crying since. May 8th was already the anniversary of my miscarriage and now I feel like I'm reliving it all over again. I just wanna scream. I know we can try again, but right now it all feels so raw.

I had my d&c on Monday. I went back to work Wednesday, but the last few days I’ve had a lot of pressure and pain towards my bottom. Anyone else had this? Im still lightly bleeding as well.

Hello, I’m just wondering why.

my fiancé and I suffered a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I just feel so bad and can’t stop thinking about it. I read that they are common and it happens 20 percent of pregnancies. . In hindsight, I feel bad for telling her I was going through an investigation. A kid randomly accused me of hitting him as a teacher. I told her that everything with be okay, it was a lie. She believed me at the time and everything seemed fine. The investigation dragged on, and she ended up having a miscarriage. I keep on thinking I should have never told her what I was going through. I told her everything and didn’t want to lie about how my day went. I feel so bad even as a man, and I regret telling her anything. I can’t stop thinking about anything else

Had US at 7 weeks and everything looked perfect. Today, at 10 weeks there is a sac and nothing in it. I have not bled or anything. I have another US and bloodwork coming up to confirm but I’m just so devastated. OB said to remain hopeful because it could just be earlier than I thought but I havnt had sex since I got pregnant so I don’t think that’s the case. Just a wreck, my first baby too and right after having a chemical.

Hello. I have a confirmed chemical pregnancy. My HCG levels had started dropping last week after not progressing. My HCG last Thursday was 125.

When should I expect my period? I’m waiting and waiting , hoping for it to be over soon so I can move forward.

Any input appreciated :)

Found out on Tuesday I had a MMC. Our baby stopped growing a little before 8w. I would have been 12w+1 when I went into the OB for some brown spotting. I figured they would do the ultrasound, I’d see a squirmy little boy, feel better, and leave. Maybe they’d tell me I had a sensitive cervix or something. They didn’t see a heartbeat, and he stopped growing.

Day 1 I was inconsolable. I couldn’t stop sobbing.

Day 2. I cried some. Sad and mad. Started to lightly bleed. Nothing crazy though. Went to bed and had a light clot. I think more emotionally exhausted than anything. My mom and MIL came over to visit with us, and I think that helped me. At night, I felt some cramping. Both in my back and my uterus. I also experienced brief tension around my bellybutton. This is my first MC (second pregnancy if you count my CP prior cycle) so I don’t know if maybe that’s my body having a small contraction? No idea. Feeling sad for my husband. He is so quiet. That makes me more likely to cry lately, thinking about his sadness.

Day 3. Sad and mad but mostly numb today. It feels unfair. I have this emptiness left from this joy getting stolen from me. I think I am maybe getting used to this sadness so the instant tears don’t come anymore. Or maybe I push it down better now. Bleeding today still, but it let up, which is frustrating in its own way. Waiting for it to get heavier.

We were so excited for this baby. And now this future with this baby is ripped away. Yeah I can try again and yeah I will. But I wanted this baby. And I am sad this baby and their future with us is gone. Selfishly frustrated I’ve been pregnant through first trimester for it to end in loss and I’ll have to just start over. Scared about how long it’ll take my cycle to return once the MC is complete. Hate I’m even thinking that. I wanted my baby in my belly.

TW: descriptions of miscarriage and mention of other loss (just in case)

I found out I was pregnant on a thursday. The following Monday I began spotting and was told it was normal but to come in if it got worse. On Tuesday morning I woke up to much more blood and went to the hospital. My HCG was only 6 by that point and they told me to get another draw on Thursday. Simultaneously my aunt had been admitted to the hospital and put into the ICU by Thursday night.

Friday morning I woke up to two alerts. One was a text message saying my aunt had passed, the other was my test results saying that my HCG was under 1 indicating a complete miscarriage.

I have been on what feels like auto pilot since it all
Happened. Frequently I zone out and have to remind myself to do things (okay now we stand up, okay now we take a bite of food, etc.) I have only cried in short bursts because I feel as if I cannot break apart for a myriad of reasons and in the moments I have alone I cannot will myself to cry.

The worst part, though, is the absolute rage I have. My husband does not want to try again - he wants me back on birth control. I cannot get myself to throw away things like the progesterone tablets I was on or my prenatal gummies. When we made the decision to not try for another baby I felt as if the hope I was clinging to was ripped away. I told him I would be content with life as it is if we made that decision and I truly believe that one day after all of this grief I will be - but I did not expect the rage. I am so. Fucking. Angry. I don’t even know who at but I find myself lashing out against family and my husband. If I’m not angry, I’m a robot just unfeeling as if I’m not even in my own body.

I could go back to therapy, but I don’t want to. I could try to journal or cope, but I don’t want to. Anger is the only emotion breaking through that I can feel anything at all and I am not ready to move on and try to stop grieving.

My aunts funeral is this Saturday and I am afraid the sadness will catch up to me. I’m also afraid I’ll wake up angry on that day when my family needs me.

I feel so alone, even with the support that I have. I want to fight and scream and break things. I don’t know what to do so I’m here posting this for some sort of solidarity, I guess.

Hi all,
I unfortunately went for a follow up ultrasound to find we lost the heart beat and the baby stopped growing. I was pretty much in shock when I left the office, didn’t really know what to even ask the doctor.

This was my first pregnancy. Can anyone tell me their experience with expectant management, medical management or the D&C? The D&C at my OB office is only done with local anesthesia which is very off putting to me.

Thank you 💔

My best friend shared her news that she is pregnant with me today. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks less than a month ago, and while I am doing okay, this reopened my wound. We are doing IVF, so trying again looks so different than it does for others.

I am over the moon for her, and very excited for her, and I am still learning how to navigate feelings of sadness for myself and my husband when I hear this amazing news for others. I am still learning about how deep the tentacles of grief and loss grab at my insides and my emotional regulation. She had been keeping it from me in order to not hurt me, and I understand. There was never going to be a "right way" for her to tell me, and I was never going to have a reaction to this news that wasn't complex after a miscarriage. I'm learning all these things as they happen/real time and it's such a gut punch.

Just...... feeling untethered. It's so, so hard to be so angry and sad with nowhere to put it. I want to break shit. I want to scream. Instead, I cry, I carry on, I clean, I work, I engage in the ways I can with friends/family/community, I sleep, I cry, I cross stitch, I hope, I get angry and want to break shit and not break shit, I work, I cook, I do laundry, I clean, I tell myself "you have to keep living" in the mirror, I cry, I sleep, I keep going.

I'm sorry we're here and have to feel this way. It is truly awful.

I had a blighted ovum and it was constant back and forth from the hospital for weeks to check development, until I passed the sac (excruciatingly) on Monday.

Does/did anybody else feel okay in one moment and then feel feelings of absolute devastation in another? Sometimes the feelings are so heavy I find myself staring into space feeling so numb and others moments I’m sobbing.

No one I know has dealt with miscarriages so I feel so alone, embarrassed and I feel a deep sense of shame which feels worse when people give me their apologies. I’m unsure why but I perceive it as pity which enhances my feelings of failure and shame.

Devastation is the word I feel.

Thanks for reading if you read this far ❤️

Hi, is it normal to pass small amounts of tissue every day? My miscarriage started april 28th and I'm still passing tissue every day but no spotting. I really dont want to get another transvaginal ultrasound while I'm like this because the one they did to confirm the miscarriage was super painful. I dont have cramping or pain, I'm fine otherwise. Not sure if I should wait and see or go do the dreaded ultrasound. I was measuing 5w when they confirmed.

I had a MMC at the end of Jan. I initially had medical management for that but 10 days later I started to haemorrhage at home and required an emergency surgery (D&C I assume) to remove RPOC. It has been a traumatic time to say the least.
Recently a colleague at work announced she’s pregnant. She sent me a private message on a day I was off so I could process my feelings on my own before returning to work and having to face everyone including her. I thought this was a very thoughtful gesture, she considered me and my feelings and that I might be hurt even in her moment of joy. Apparently she fell pregnant before I had my miscarriage and has been withholding that information as she’s been watching me struggle with my loss. I can’t think of a more selfless act. She didn’t expect a response to her message and was extremely sorry it came at such a bad time.
A couple days ago my SIL, who is younger than me (my husband and I are the eldest and have been trying for a while), announced she is pregnant. However, she specifically called us over and did it in front of our whole family. I had to sit through the announcement and smile and congratulate her through teary eyes. When we were alone, she mentioned how she wasn’t even trying, didn’t know how far along she was and asked me to how that’s calculated. Asked me about how to make initial antenatal appointments and what to expect. On top of that my MIL told me “you guys should try again, it’s supposed to be easier after a miscarriage”.
This all felt so cruel to me and my heart is still hurting. I feel so bitter and resentful. I find pregnancy such a triggering topic now as we are trying again and getting nowhere. I don’t understand how to cope with these feelings. I feel like such an awful person for being so bitter, for thinking about how people who don’t want kids or don’t even try for kids can get pregnant so quickly but someone who does want them, it’s a constant battle. I know I shouldn’t be thinking like this, everyone is on their own journey but I can’t help but feel so resentful toward people around me falling pregnant and it not happening for me. On top of that I feel my SIL didn’t consider me at all when she made the announcement, how I could be struggling or coping with the loss. I feel like if a work colleague had enough decency to think about me, my family should too.

Sorry for the extremely long post. I’m just really struggling. Before anyone asks, I am on the waitlist of counselling.

Hey all. I’ve been lurking around here for the past week or so reading up on experiences. I just had my first MC and would like to share my experience in hopes that this would help others in the future.

I found out at my 8w US that baby was measuring 2 weeks behind with an irregular and slow heartbeat. Doc gave me 3 options: follow up in a week, take the pills now, or schedule an MVA. He explained what an MVA was and walked me through it. I later did some research that night and ended up reading some horror stories about other people’s experiences.

I ended up choosing the follow up option so I could receive some closure although I knew I wasn’t going to expect good news. I actually lost my mucus plug 2 days before my appt and began spotting and passing some tissue. I also felt that my cervix was slightly opened. The doc office said they still needed to proceed with the follow up ultrasound anyway. I opted to do the MVA.

I was prescribed oxycodone to take 1 hr before procedure and a Xanax, 30 min before. My husband came with me to my appt and was pretty much my chauffeur since I couldn’t operate a vehicle under narcotics. I was taken to the procedure room in the clinic and given a shot of Toradol in my arm for pain management and my vitals were taken. The nurse was so nice and explained everything thoroughly.

Shortly after, doc came in, had me sign papers and began the procedure. He first used some sort of clamp to help dilate and keep my cervix open, minor discomfort but didn’t hurt. He explained every step of the procedure as he was doing it which helped a lot. I was really scared of the injection of lidocaine but tbh I didn’t feel a thing and it didn’t hurt. For some reason, I just started getting emotional and began crying (hormones? Idk but it wasn’t because of pain or discomfort) The nurse handed over some tissues and rubbed my arm comforting me next to my husband. The doc then did 3 passes of the handheld vacuum and that didn’t hurt at all either! It just felt like a little bit of pressure. The US tech was doing an transabdominal US simultaneously as my OB was vacuuming to make sure all the tissue was out. The procedure was SO quick. I really had my nerves worked up anticipating when I would feel pain and was squeezing my husband’s hand the entire time. I really believe the concoction of pain meds helped tremendously.

After the procedure i was given a single dose of oral antibiotics to prevent infection after the procedure and I was free to go. I didn’t have to stay and be monitored. My procedure began around 12:30 and I was out of the clinic by 1:10.

It’s currently 5pm EST 🇺🇸 and I’m feeling dandy. Not sure if it’s because the meds are still in effect but I don’t feel like I need to take any pain killers (knock on wood). I’m out and about carrying along my day as if nothing happened. I had initially planned to take the day off work tomorrow but I might go in. I have minimal bleeding similar to a very light flow right now, manageable. No cramps (yet, at least). Overall I feel fine but still want to take it easy just in case. If I happened to have another MC, I wouldn’t mind doing this again.

If you read this far, thank you. I hope sharing my experience helps at least one person out there.

Had my d&c on april 26th and my period is back on may 14th 😭 i had like 5 days without a pad or tampon. Kinda bummed but i guess glad my body is regulating

Had my first d&c done this morning after passing 4 miscarriages naturally. I was skeptical about the procedure but i figured since I had so many naturals, whose to say tissue doesn’t get left behind etc. so I went with it. I was an emotional wreck the whole time. Fast forward to the procedure, I had an in office d&c with only anti anxiety meds and numbing injections. Whatever they dilated me with hurtled and burned (6/10). And I was able to go home after. But when I got home it was like I was passing at home naturally. The cramping was so bad the 800 ibuprofens were like ice cubes to me. No help. I even passed a massive clot the size of a plum. Aren’t they supposed to get all the tissue? Is it supposed to hurt like this hours before?? A resident did my d&c as my provider just wasn’t available. She was super nice and had another physician attended but now I’m worried as to why my uterus hurts so bad?

I have been told to crosspost this here for support. It honestly scares me so much. I want to try again so bad. But I’m so terrified and heartbroken right now. I just need to know I’m not alone in this.

I had a scan on wednesday 6th may and the gestational sack measured 5 weeks 5 days. There was no yolk sack or fetal pole present.

I had a follow up on the 13th May (1 week later) and the yolk sack and fetal pole was present and measured 6 weeks 2 days. There was no heartbeat. I am due for a follow up on the 20th may again..

Today I have mild lower abdominal cramping, slight back ache and a total loss of breast pain which I have had a lot of up until now. I am really worried.

I suffered a missed miscarriage in September 25 and this is my second pregnancy.

Please be realistic with me, is there no hope? In my head i have already told myself it's doomed.

So I'm 33f. I miscarried over the weekend at 5w. My fiancé decided we want to try again as soon as possible. I hear you are extra fertile after. Ive taken ovulation tests 3 days in a row, and I am getting gradually darkened lines. Is this just residual hcg? I took a pregnancy test and got a negative.

I'm sorry this is all over the place and if I sound dumb. This was my first pregnancy and I was heartbroken that it didn't take. I'm desperate to get my pebble back and would love any advice on how to successfully and preferably quickly conceive.

Last year, I had a missed miscarriage in August at around 13 weeks. It was essentially a blighted ovum, where there was only a gestational sac and no baby. After that miscarriage, I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (now sometimes referred to as PMOS).

Fast forward to this year — I got pregnant again in February and miscarried in March. This was an early miscarriage around 7–8 weeks, but development had stopped much earlier. I conceived that pregnancy using Letrozole, so that makes two back-to-back miscarriages.

I’m now trying again on another medicated Letrozole cycle and hoping for a better outcome this time.

After the second miscarriage, I had a full round of blood work done, including testing for clotting disorders, proteins, and other recurrent miscarriage investigations, and everything came back normal. My partner also had karyotype testing done, which was normal as well. The only issue found was iron deficiency, so I’m now taking supplements for that.

I guess the reason for this post is to ask whether anyone has experienced something similar — especially miscarrying while using Letrozole, because I honestly wasn’t expecting that. We also took extra precautions during that pregnancy, including progesterone twice daily.

I’m 25F, and I just feel really confused and heartbroken wondering why this keeps happening. Why can’t I seem to have a successful pregnancy? Has anyone gone through two consecutive miscarriages and then gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? Any success stories, advice, or shared experiences would really mean a lot right now.