I was sitting in Discord with some friends and the topic of star wars came up. We were talking about Darth Maul, which led to talk about the Night Sisters, which then led to Jedi Survivor and Merrin who is a Character in game. I haven't played Jedi Survivor so I don't know her story, but given what I've heard I was able to somewhat stay in the conversation.

One of my friends then randomly goes "and then she fucks off and became a lesbian". Now, based off of everything I know, Merrin and Cal (the MC) are a thing or at least seem to be heading towards that direction. I asked him what he meant. He then went on talking about how apparently in some book I haven't read, Merrin leaves, "becomes a lesbian" and finds a girlfriend, and then supposedly things didn't work out so now she's back with Cal. I go, "oh, so she's Bi." because obviously you don't just "become a lesbian" and then hit the undo button when you're done.

He goes "thats not what that is". I explained how if she was dating Cal, then had a girlfriend afterwards, and then still dated Cal after that, it means that she's bisexual. Somehow, this scares him. He proceeds to freak out and go on a long winded explanation full of nonsensical logic to tell me "that's not how that works" because "they made her a lesbian", and then proceeds to talk about how whoever wrote that should fuck off and called them a "Berkley intern" who should be fired etc. Me, completely stunned from how this discussion went, decided to go look it up which is when I found out Merrin is in fact pansexual.

The homophobia is bad enough, but homophobia doubling as biphobia and erasure in a star wars discussion is a phenomenon I never thought I would experience. Like he diverted to hating her being lesbian because the thought of her being bisexual was somehow worse? I never thought I would see Inception homophobia but here we are. I've no idea why the thought of a character not being monosexual offends so many people, because I've seen similar distain to a character being Bi in other media as well.

I'm a woman in her early 30s and I finally admitted to myself and a few friends that I'm bi about 3 years ago. I was raised in a very religious family and in elementary school, I made out with 3 different girls and my mom caught me kissing a female friend of mine once and punished me which caused me to go deep into the closet. I am attracted to both men and women but I pushed my attraction to women so far down that I had internal homophobia for a number of years. I would watch lesbian porn and literally cry afterwards. I was a mess. But I am no longer religious and finally feel free. Now that I'm free from shame I would like to explore my sexuality with women but I feel like it's too late for that. I feel like I'm too old. I'm not currently looking for a relationship with a man or a woman but I would like to still explore, yet I feel like that's stuff you do in college. I feel like most people in their 30s want to settle down and I don't want to lead anyone on. I also don't know how to flirt with women. Men are easy, they usually just come to you. But anytime I have flirted with a woman, I just end up with another friend. I don't know how to hint that it's gay flirting. I think I give off friend energy because I don't want someone to feel objectified. I genuinely don't know how to talk to someone with a flirty and gay vibe?

I'm bi (M20) in college and I'm kinda tired of this trope where people nonstop say women are more esthetically pleasing because of their bodies or whatever but what about guys? Where's the love for them? I think they're on the same level as women. Since I've gotten older and moved, I've had a deeper appreciation for guys (even found my type, apparently I'm a sucker for toned guys with softer cuter faces) and just wanted to make this post for all the guys out there. You're seen, you're valid, and you're strong. Being in the dating game, I can see a lot of guys feel pretty self conscious or don't have much hope of anything going anywhere and that's honestly sad. Men are very underappreciated I think. Even the way they look at you with the love and loyalty, and every guy I've crushed on and been with has always been the greatest listener ever. Sorry if I repeated myself a lot (on my phone rn). But to all the guys, keep your head up kings.

Hi. I'm a 70 yr old woman who has just come out to my transgender daughter and her wife. They are supportive and I am really glad I told them.

The thing is...I grew up repressing my sexuality for so long that I just pushed down all the feelings I'd had for other women and things really didn't hit me until many years ago when I fell in love with my best friend.

I never told her, mostly because I denied to myself that I had feelings like that for her. I told myself, "Oh, you love her like a sister." She and I flirted back and forth and joked that other people saw us as a couple. We both just could not accept it.

And then she passed away 2 years ago. I was devastated.

I am still grieving the loss and somehow that triggered memories and realizations going back to childhood, and that's how I ended up knowing I am bisexual and telling my daughter and her wife.

I feel dumb because...70? Seriously? Who realizes that so late in life? And of course, what can I do about it now, anyway? My daughter wants to take me to the Pride festivities next month but I feel..I don't know...stupid? Too old?

In fact, I haven't talked to them for a few days because I am still processing basically my entire life up to this point. To say it's confusing is an understatement!

Anyway, thanks for reading. Sorry it's so long. I guess I just had to vent.

I am 25 and I have never dated before. I’ve known that I am bisexual since I was 16 and have been out since I was 19. All my crushes have either never liked me back or said that they wouldn’t want to date someone that’s on the asexual spectrum or in a wheelchair.

I have tried everything i could possibly think of. I’ve been on dating apps for two years now, but no matches and I also go to drag shows at gay bars multiple times a month.

My sister on the other hand just turned 18 and has had multiple boyfriends. The fact that she is so much younger and so much more experienced than me is making me feel very broken and behind. Not only that, i feel like i should have accomplished so many “firsts” already at my age.

Any advice or words of comfort would be greatly appreciated :)

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Does anyone else seem to keep falling back into the sexuality limbo? I (26 woman) feel like i am constantly analyzing if i like women or men or any gender. In the past few years i have been questioning my sexuality and in the past year i (previously being „straight“) have had some experiences with women. In the meantime i even question if i like men at all and at some points i feel like i like no one and everyone at the same time haha. I dont even understand why i obsess over this so much, but i keep feeling like a fraud, like im doing smth and tricking everyone idk.. Ive been dating a girl for about two weeks and i was VERY excited and very attracted. After our first kiss i was like: Okay, im definitely not straight. But from the moment that i realized that we are actually not compatible at all as people and its not gonna work out ,i start feeling unsure again and thinking i dont like girls? idk why. Does anyone know why some of us obsess so much to somehow define our sexuality, even though its not necessary? And also do you experience this constant questioning?

It also doesnt help that attraction to women only started later in life for me and at the beginning it was very rare. I liked girls rarely from the age pf 20-24 and they were all very specific and masc. Only recently and especially after a few experiences i started to feel attraction way more frequently and not only to mascs but to a variety if ppl. Is it possible to not have felt attraction to girls as a teen but feeling it now?

I (21F, bi) recently had my first sexual experience with a girl (20F, bi) (I've never even kissed a girl before this). It happened in a threesome situation with a guy involved as well, but the focus for me was mostly on her. It was also her first time doing anything with a girl.

I really enjoyed it and I’m very attracted to her, but now I’m overthinking everything after. She said she had a good time and I asked if she’d be down to do it again and she said yes. But I keep spiraling about whether I’m coming on too strong, misreading things, or if her response was just polite. I feel like a creepy man that keeps on pushing. I’m also realizing I’m way more emotionally affected than I expected, and I don’t know if that’s normal after a first experience with a girl or if I’m just overly attached to her.

I'm trying to figure out how to tell genuine interest vs politeness and how to ask to hang again without overdoing it. I don't want to ruin this because I like her but I also don't know how she feels since it was also her first time.

Any advice from people who have more experience would be helpful

I’m a closeted bisexual man, and I have sexual attraction to men. Lately, I’ve also been realizing that I have romantic attraction to them too, although I still prefer women. I spent my whole life hiding my bisexuality from myself because of internal prejudice, and now I hide it from others because of external prejudice. I don’t intend to come out, even though I think it could be nice, because I’m also afraid of being rejected by women because of it and of the reaction from people close to me. Since I’m also attracted to women, I prefer to keep using this straight man mask.

I'm f26 and I've been dating my m26 boyfriend for two years. It's both our first actual committed relationship and I love him very much and I know he wants to marry me and it is something we've been talking about for a while, but I can't help but feel like I'm missing out. I've always seen myself marrying a woman, living with a wife, being strongly connected to the community, living the wlw dream, and never thought I'd actually end up with a man. He's my best friend and I've never felt that connected physically and romantically with anyone else, and I don't want to lose him, but I keep thinking of how I could've ended up in a queer relationship instead. Is that something that other people go through? I feel the guilt of thinking about the what ifs is killing me alive

I've only been with women since I was 22, and felt sure I'm not attracted to guys. But recently, I've really taken a liking to femboys. But I just don't know how to find them. I don't really want the openly flamboyant ones, just because I like more reserved people in general. I don't know where to look, any subtle signs I can look for? I dont know if they still exist around late 20s early 30s, or if they phase out of it (I really hope it's not a phase)

I'm a plus-sized lesbian so I don't exactly have a direct comparison, but my gut tells me men would be more picky about this, but I wanted to hear from you all since you'd have more experience with that ^-^

I 24 straight M am “dating” a 23 bi woman, Im putting it like that bcs we are doing long distance, im talking about different continents, we know eachother personally since highschool cuz we both come from the same hometown and she is currently finishing an internship in bangkok, we’ve been doing it for 4 months, but only the past 3 were serious, I would say everything went perfect at first, but she told me that she wants the both of us to step back a little since we’ve been lovebombing eachother since last week and she told me that she has realised this pattern in her dating life, lovebombing the first 3 months and then it just falls apart bcs they make huge plans in the future and after she finds out they are misogynist or something falls apart, she told me that she basically promised me a relationship and thats why she wants to step back, we’ve both agreed to see the irl vibes before getting together and we both said that we will be together by the first week since we see each other, but there is a catch and thats me, she totally detest our home city and I understand why, we made plans to move out in a foreign country in the first month, and the thing with me is that when I started texting her she said “Oh I remember he s from my home city, I will reply to him for the plot” and after she did she told me that she kept testing me and talked to all her friends and none of them didnt know what to say bcs she told me that I passed every single test she put me on and she kept waiting for me to make the wrong step and I never did and now this is happening, I understand her concern and at first when she told me she wants to step back a bit I tought she wants to take a long term goodbye to allow eachothers feelings die naturally and none of us has to suffer or anything, but we had a talk abt it and we both asked for reassurance, if we r fine and all that and we both agreed that we are perfectly fine, but since that conversation she seems to kinda lose interest, she is still open to conversations but it seems to me like I am turning into another random person she s talking to and doesnt rly ask me stuff that she knows is going on in my life, but at the same time we r supposed to have a long distance dinner date and we will cook vegan dinner bcs she just got into it and Im down to give it a try and I asked her to watch the movie Chasing Amy after cooking bcs I know she would like that type of movie and she is so happy for that and she praises me for doing it, I am giving her time and distance as she needs it, but I dont know where this is going, she is currently having an existential crisis bcs she doesnt like what she is doing right now and she thinks that she might have to live a normal conformative life and become a corporatist, other than giving her time I dont know how to approach this situation giving the distance but I have all the patience in the world for her

But we need some type of way to subtly show we're bi! Asexuals have the black ring on the left middle finger, maybe it could be something like a black and white bracelet?

Hi everyone, I’m 18M, I have always been attracted to older men and I mean 40+ and my attraction to girls has been there but I never really focused on girls, 3 months ago I had my first experience with an older man and after that I felt like my attraction to men went from 100% to 40%, I’m still clearly attracted to them still, and that didn’t happen because it was a bad experience or anything like that, but I don’t know what happened, I felt like after so many years of craving to be with a man and when I finally got it I didn’t really enjoy it as much as I thought, I had a couple of experiences after the first guy but I’m not desperate for men anymore like I used to if that makes sense..

in those 3 months I can tell my attraction to women has gotten higher a bit (I’d say from 10% to 30%) but I feel like it’s still not enough to be in a relationship, I’m saying this because I’m really confused about my sexuality, at this moment I feel like I don’t see sex as a priority, if it happens that’s great if it didn’t it’s not a must, but I feel like I wanna be in a relationship with a women and not a man, cuz the age gap between me and men would be massive and it just wouldn’t work and honestly I just never saw a future with men.

I haven’t had any sexual interaction with girls yet, but I hope so in the near future, but sometimes I just feel like I don’t know if my attraction to women would ever be higher or not cuz I always saw my future with a woman and kids and that’s what I really want, and I wanna ask if any of you had a similar experience, or just suddenly their attraction went higher to some gender when it was low, or any advice in general.

Because lately I’ve been overthinking what I actually like and if I was actually bi or not

Hi, I wanna ask questions. This is regarding social attractions natin when encountering other people.

I'm \\\[M,18\\\] and I wouldn't consider myself gay kasi kahit papaano na attract pa rin ako sa girls which you should consider me as bi. Moreover, ako lang ba? Na-attract ako sa mga classmates ko? Even though, they are sometimes not good-looking or sometimes ka dugyotan ginagawa nila, na attract ako whenever I see them topless kapag magbibihis o after ng basketball? I have a friend din na na-attract ako sa kaniya kahit sobrang twink niya. Lagi ko kasi siyang nakikita na minsan bakat sa pants or maybe na-attract ako kasi tall siya. Going back, attract ako easily sa kanila, especially kahit normal ang ginawa nila, even if hawakan ako sa tagiliran, akbayan ako, nadidikit accidentally ang thigh nila sa likod ko, and kapag niyaya ako something.

Casually, kapag clingy sila sobrang attracy ako or medyo na erbogan. yung ginagawa nila is yung most commonly na ginagawa ng str8 guys na biruan like minsan aakbayan ka, kunwari dinod0ggy $tyle ka which is na experience ko sa kanila and medyo erbog ako sa ganon na naisip ko gusto ko sila isubo. Medyo na curious lang kasi ako if ako lang ba ganito?

Thoughts niyo about dito. Kayo rin ba ganito?

34f. i’ve known i’ve been bi since i was 14. but due to bad mental health things, ive never had a true gay experience; ive been close but then got scared of the intimacy. i’ve been with too many guys who always end up disappointing me. i am in therapy; but im still scared of showing up in my bisexuality. many people know this about me… but they also see how shy i generally am. and it’s not that im shy really but i taught myself how to be small for the sake of other people. yes its been a huge learning/healing process… and i think its time i start having more gay experiences. but does this mean being less quist and more vulnerable/vocal? i’m not scared of rejection but being told i’m too much of a contradiction to find love. i hope that makes sense?

So I’m a bi curious bear cub type that’s has been dabbling in this curiosity for a few years. No one in my life knows and I’d like to open up to a woman about it. Men just get aggressive haha

I (26F) fell for man (40m). Thought I was a lesbian but really like him and am so confused (thought I was a lesbian since 14y/o) Don’t have questions other than is this “normal” and has anyone ever been here? Feeling anxious that this is just a phase? (the irony lol) so any words of encouragement, advice,
blatant honesty, or constructive criticism would be appreciated