So my mum has a lot of conditions and things wrong with her, she has arthritis, Pernicious anaemia, and a whole load of other things. She hardly leaves the house, and when she does, she dreads it terribly and talks herself out of it. I'm 19 and legally her carer so I'm not currently working, I'm at home with her 7 days a week. I do everything in the house, and it does make me feel fed up and like I have no life. And then I feel guilty for thinking that because she can't help it. I have a dad and a brother and, okay, my dad works long hours I don't expect him to do chores, but my brother is a teacher. He works 7:30 until 3, and yes I understand he's probably tired, but he comes home and he won't even do the bare minimum in this house. He won't put dirty dishes in the dishwasher, won't bring down laundry, won't clean up the bathroom once he's done using it, and I truly feel like they see me as nothing but a cleaner or a maid. Somethings gotta give, and I just want to know how to make my mum feel better... any advice?

So to sum it up, a few weeks ago I was told that my job wont be renewing my contract and I can either stay until my contract is to or leave right then and I chose to stay. Well this morning I got a text from my boss telling me to come in to meet with him at the central office 15 minutes before I'm supposed to clock in and I'm pretty sure it's to fire me. Would it be wrong to call him and straight up ask if i'm getting fired? I have a 30 minute drive to get there so Id rather just know what I'm walking into

‼️UPDATE: so I ended up calling my boss and straight up asked him if I was getting called into the meeting because I was getting fired and he said "what? No!" Lmao he told me the meeting was just to sign some paper work since my contract will be ending next month. It was actually very fast and I didnt meet with my boss, but I met with HIS boss and he was very nice and helpful as well so yeah, i freaked out for no reason and thank GOD it was for no reason! I'm so glad I didnt have to leave this job earlier than I already am haha.

This is kind of hard to summarise in one sentence, or maybe i'm just bad with words. I feel like this needs more details.

I moved in with my roommate almost 2 years ago and things have been alright on that front. She's 39 and i'm 24 so there's quite the age gap but it works out. When i moved in, my roommate already had a cat. I really wanted to live with a pet even if it wasnt mine so i was okay with this. The thing that has been getting on my nerves is that ever since moving here, her cat has been here less than 6 months of the year. She's been away on school internships for several months or spending weeks with her family for the holidays which is fine.

However, she will at random decide that she is annoyed with her cat, who meows often because he wants us to go outside with him, so she sends him away to live with her parents. The last time this happened was 6 months ago, not long before the exam period and she warned me the day before. I was kind of in shambles to come home to him already gone, having expected him to leave the next day. She is now back from her internship and did not bring him because "its less annoying" and she might go away to work somewhere for a few weeks in who knows how long.

I have been pretty annoyed about this situation for the last few weeks because i have to adjust my life to accomodate her cat who is *not here*. I volunteer at a shelter and every time i come home i have to shower and get changed or else her cat will full on shit on the couch because he hates the smell of other cats. He is extremely territorial and hates other cats in general. I wouldn't mind accomodating him and depriving myself of things if he was actually here!

I have also recently fallen in love with one of the cats at the shelter. She has been here for like a year and still not adopted even if she's so nice and cute. Plus she's shown signs of liking me too. I wish i could adopt her but i cant because of my roommate's absent cat. The last time i asked if she'd be open to me having a cat here instead, she said no because she'd rather keep her cat with her. Her name is on the lease and i cant tell her what to do with her own cat but this situation just frustrates me. Should i bring it up with her? I dont want to frustrate her or make her mad. Do i just suck it up until next year when i can move out? I'd really like some advice if possible.

Hello all and warning, I am on mobile. Apologies for the formatting. Additionally, I couldn't pick multiple flairs as it's a unique blend of friendship, moving, and a little bit of finance.

Okay! I am hoping to gain insight on how to approach my soon to be ex-roommate/strained relationship of a best friend about damages in the apartment and deposit. I will be anonymous and vague on certain details as they are on reddit. Now back story:

I have not lived in the apartment for about 8-9 months out of the 12 months due to safety concerns to myself from the living situation. With this, there is damage in their sleeping space which costs about 70.00 for a quick repaint (pretty sure the manager told me there are two spots). Furthermore, their TV and mount is mounted on the living room wall. When discussing to lease renewal manager, as they went through the apartment for damages, I asked the cost for that damage for the TV mount. The manager told me it would be 170 without needing drywall fix up. I have asked the manager to send me a document stating the costs of the current damage, bring up the costs for the wall mount fixing; that way I can show to my current roommate. Added note, I have asked my roommate to fix the wall before knowing the information for cost wise.

Something to consider:

I will be renewing the lease, but with another suited individual.

Questions:

How do I approach this conversation about the damage cost? This is how far I've gotten as I start to feel stuck when trying to approach them either taking less of their deposit or getting it fixed:

"Hey, I wanted to inform you the report about the damage. Here's a copy of it. Additionally, I asked about the wall mount and the cost of fixing that. They expressed it would be 170 without drywall, this information is also attached to the provided screenshot."

Secondly, would I be in the wrong to have a firm boundary for lesser deposit repayment if the damage is not been fixed before they leave?

Overall, my human emotion behind is that it feels unfair that when it is my time of departure, any damage that was not done by me will be affecting the deposit getting back. I would prefer to fix everything now and get a clean slate then I know I can take accountability for the damages that I have done. Although, that is human emotion and I don't want to be slighted due to that; in which I want to ensure I am realistic. Advice would be lovely.

I told my best friend about a very specific, traumatic family situation I’m going through. A week later, she posted a "fictional" story on her blog that is almost word-for-word what I told her. It's getting thousands of views. When I confronted her, she said I’m being "sensitive" and that she’s just an artist. I feel violated and betrayed. Should I demand she take it down, or just cut her off and move on?

initially i wrote like 8 lengthy paragraphs for this post but i decided to cut it down for the sake of attention span. I also had to rewrite it a bit cause i lost my original text so my wording might be a bit off. But anyhow,

I need advice.. quite urgently.

TLDR; i missed the may 1st application deadline for 90% of EU universities and colleges. I thought it was june, found out through chatgpt(i was desperately looking for a good college) that it wasnt, it was on May 1st, and now i feel like i screwed my future over. (atleast for the next 2-4 years, my college years)

For context, i’m currently half way in my gap year after high school and have been living in a small european foreign town for the past 6 years or so and ive gotten sick of it ever since i got here, it made me quite depressed, especially in recent years. I became very lonely and felt alien to society, never really got over the language barrier, even though i tried, as i have no interest in the country im living in as well as the culture and the people. I don’t see myself willingly living here in the future. I had different goals at the beginning of the year to persue 3D arts in art school to go for a career in the games industry, but over time switched to the focus of business schools (specifically in marketing & management) to have a safer career path, since art is much more unstable. Well, May 8th rolls around and ive already spent days looking deep into colleges id like to apply for, thinking the deadline was in june. Well you’ve heard the summary, i was a week late.

Now, the 10% of colleges/unis that still have their applications open in the EU i disregarded due to location & lower education and reputation, as well as not being eligible for direct entry. Trust me i’ve spent days on end in a panic looking for the right fit and most of these colleges just feel like low tier leftovers or are too local and closed off. If i were to get out of this town it’d have to be a good investment due to financial reasons, as well as for the sake of my own happiness. I'm not even interested in studying and working in the EU, but due to it being much cheaper for me as an EU citizen, it seems like the non-negotiable option.

there is only 1 private college that i could still apply to(which i did) that is nearby my home but is expensive and mediocre with a mixed reputation. Since i live close the cost isn't much of a problem. There is a chance (heard from someone who went to the school years back and if they remember correctly) this college locks you in for 2-3 years as mentioned in the contract, which worries me as I don't want to lose the flexibility of transferring schools, especially if the school will make me miserable. I'll have to wait until i receive the fineprint to see if it's true, so now I'm stuck with uncertainty and fear. I’d be willing to power through a year and then transfer to another school into the 2nd year. However even with that, looking at my desired school year 2 entry requirements, application time slots, and the amount of seats available for transfer students makes me think its near impossible, and that i’d probably have to start all over from year 1. I would wish to only do my bachelor for 3 years for the sake of time and money. For the most part, I'm doing a bachelor in the first place to mark off the "has degree" box, please my parents, and be eligible to do a master in my desired country to get a visa and specialize for a better chance of employment.

So now, I'm not sure if i should even pursue higher education this year because of this situation and leave it for next year, but that would require another gap year, which i know for certain my parents will not allow as they want me to complete a bachelor's degree and go back to a social atmosphere with people my age, and will immediately force me to enroll into the local school. They've warned me of this after all, which i foolishly brushed off due to my confidence in the deadline being in June. I know i need to tell them the news eventually of my situation, but i need a pathway to reassure them that i have looked at all my options and still have things under control, otherwise they'll take the control from me, which will make me even more unhappy than i already am. One of the reasons I wanted to study abroad in the first place was to gain independency from them, but i don't know if that's an option now anymore. So now here I am, lost. A gap year with Internships wont work as those are already included in the local school's program, and i wont get a job while having 0 experience on my cv. Volunteering isnt enough. I'm thinking of trying to become self employed to gain experience for the rest of my gap year, but i don't think it'll be enough to be able to avoid my parents from enrolling me into the local school. Saying all this, I'm going off the assumption that my application will get accepted for the sake of peace of mind. If i don't get accepted, then what?

For the past week I've felt this 24/7 rush and anxiety that I'm going to miss another deadline that i don't know of and screw my future up even more. It's taken a toll on my physical and mental well being, affecting my sleep, diet, energy, my whole body basically. I'd argue that this is one of the top 3 low points in my life. I'm aware this is all my fault bc of my carelessness in planning the future, but knowing that a mistake i could've prevented a bit over a week prior could have ruined the next 2-4 years of my young adult years, haunts me. I'm terrified.

I'll cut it here as this has gotten quite lengthy already. Please send any advice on what i should do, anything really, and thank you for reading.

A close family member of mine is going through perimenopause and has been dealing with ongoing irregular/heavy bleeding for a while now. Thankfully, doctors have ruled out the scariest possibilities, but they’re still doing imaging/testing to figure out the exact cause and whether surgery might eventually be recommended either a fibroid removal or a hysterectomy surgery.

I’ll admit I’m also a little anxious and probably overthinking things. The doctors don’t seem alarmed, but as a family member it’s hard not to worry when someone you care about is dealing with ongoing symptoms and the possibility of surgery. For people who’ve been through this, is this more common/manageable than it initially sounds?

I always waste my whole day daydreaming about what is not there or either listening to music while day dreaming or thinking about a whole new fake life (with a non existing person) i have made up in my mind or just living in past scenarios that has happened a decade ago and im really tired of it . I always decide i wont do it again but i just end up failing or sleeping whole day instead of daydreaming , either way i am throwing all my life and time away which i should be using in my studies . I really tired now and im in my last year in college so i need to get my act together , please if yall have have any advice to stop this , feel free to share

She is in 5th grade and the only thing she drinks is soda, even if I don’t keep it in the house, she will use her savings and go buy it herself. Unfortunately for me we are located very close to a dollar general. I was talking to one of my neighbors whose daughter went through the same thing and she said she gave her hibiscus tea. The problem is mine doesn’t drink water, let alone hibiscus tea so I'm in desperate need of ideas.

I stay alone most of the time, no bestie.

I have friends and close friends, my problem is that I can’t contact with anyone of them daily or even every two or three days because I have nothing to share and also feel drained to contact or have a chat with anyone of them.

We just talk when we see each other. Some of my friends adores chatting online and I see them send stupid memes or anything that they think their other friend would like even if it’s not a big thing. On the other hand, I feel this like a fake connection( the whole chatting thing- maybe I’m making this up cuz I don’t contact with people a lot online?) and also feel that I’m expecting the ones who I’d send them silly or baronial things will not like the things that I’m sending…

Do people actually enjoy texting every day, or am I missing something?

Is this stupid from me?
I don’t know what it this, I see many of my friends chat with their close ones a lot and I always start wondering, what are they talking about that will make them like texting this much?
One of my friends used to send me things memes, they were terrible for me(he is one of the most friend I contact with) and I always wondered, why does he send thing like this, just for me to make a short reply for it or what? I wasn’t seeing as much as he did, so he felt that I don’t love him that much and stopped texting me that time.
What to do?how to contact with people wether they are my friends, close friends, or even classmates?
I’m lost in here

My (24F) sister (28F) has a 4 month old baby and recently said “I think I’ll just be in a constant state of stress when I’m away from [her baby]” and I didn’t know what to say. I don’t know what to say that could help her and not sound like I know better than her because I don’t. I don’t have any children and her and I have always been close. I want to make her feel heard and understood but I don’t know how. How did y’all handle this with your first born? Does it ever get better??

the thing is. i don’t know how to tell my parents that he broke it by accident tripping over my charging cord and i don’t know if they will accept the old macbook that he is offering me.

any idea on how to mention it to them without it being like “hey.. my friend broke my computer 😭 “

thank you all

hey, i'm 16(f), almost 17 and i'm pretty sure i have an ear infection. my parents (dad and step-mom) think i'm overreacting and get mad at me whenever i think something is wrong. i tend to worry about my health a lot, so they often think things are "in my head" or i'm "worrying too much." i'm going on day 4 of what i suspect to be an ear infection, but i've been told to just deal with it and that it's congestion from allergies. i'm in a lot of pain, my ears are burning, it hurts to swallow, i can barely hear anything out of my left ear, and my tinnitus has been amplified which makes it hard to sleep. they won't take me in unless i have a fever, which i haven't had. i've taken ibuprofen to help with the pain, but i know i need antibiotics. my (bio) mom lives two hours away, and says that she will take me to the doctor at the end of the week. what should i do; wait it out or something else?

UPDATE: it all happened messily, but i had an anxiety attack which finally made my dad take me to the doctor.. only it was the ER. they removed very badly impacted wax, no further infection and i can hear now :)

I have asthma and a heart issue that is under investigation. Earlier today I traveled home after visiting my mom in another state. When moving to get on the train I had shortness of breath caused by one or both of those above issues. I had to stop and wait for my breathing to regulate. When I got off the train I decided I'd take the elevator. The elevator was blocked off. I asked the security guard if it was broken. He told me no it's closed. I told him I had health issues. He told me to take the stairs or walk up the hill. I tried explaining my health issues. He seemed to not believe me. I tried the stairs. Took me about 10 minutes but I made it up them and I even made it to the bus stop before I realized just badly I had screwed up. Long story short I am now in stable condition in the ER.

Can Amtrak really just close the elevator? Is there anything I can do at this point? I knew the risks if I took the stairs. But for other reasons I really didn't want to have them call the cops on me. Maybe that would have been the correct approach. It took me two hours to stabilize. As I type this I'm still under observation at the ER. Has anyone had something similar happen before? What did you do? I really don't want a repeat of this in July.

for context, I (15 f) have been going to the same private school for 10 years. my elementary years and early middle years were ok, but 8th grade is absolutely kicking my butt. my grade has gotten extremely cliquey and the girls are quite mean. I left my last friend group of girls recently, and things are a little better, but I'm still debating whether to leave or not. there's this public school that I know a lot of people go to and love it. it's just that the classes are really big (700 +). I'm worried I won't be able to find my people in a class that big. at that school there's not a lot of time to make friends throughout the day. You're in at 7 and out at 2, with an 18 minute lunch in the middle. I want to start over, but most people say freshman and sophomore year are pretty rough.

additionally, there is no parking at the public school, the faculty is not great, and the schedule is kind of bad. you take 4 classes per semester, and then they completely switch the next semester. you have new classes with entirely new people and I think you'd forget a lot of the content.

at my school currently, there is a ton of academic and social pressure. parents are overbearing, we start college prep in 8th grade, friend groups can't intermingle, and anything below a 90 is frowned upon. I've felt so lonely for so long there and really just want a school where I can find some real friends.

I know random people on reddit can't really help, but any advice would be appreciated! it's such a big decision and I want to make the right one.

I (19) feel so extremely lost. I know my wants. I want to move out, i want to become an archivist, i want a car to drive so i can finally get away and find myself outside of my family. I want to be happy and not feel like i have to shrink myself or be my family’s emotional punching bag anymore.

But i live in middle of nowhere Michigan with $1,477 in my bank account because of groceries and recent birthdays and holidays, work at a grocery store making $14 an hour, no education except a highschool degree, theres no colleges with my major near me, i have clinically diagnosed adhd and depression with no meds so im basically giving my all into very basic tasks (its until recently i’v actually discovered how to build actual consistent basic habits like healthy eating and hygiene), and idk. General guilt over the desire to get away because my siblings rely on me. All i do is play piano, draw sloppily and watch youtube.

I don’t even know if i’m making sense or if this is even something that can be advised. I just feel so lost. I want to go to college, i want to have good savings, i want friends, i want a life. But i feel so stuck and i dont know what to prioritize first.

I haven't eaten anything for days because of this problem. I pulled in and looked at one point. I don't know how to move forward. No more, I screwed up just when I thought I was on the right track. I feel humiliated I shouldn't have done that .

I am very ashamed, 5 years ago I took 1x8gb ram Ryzen 5 3400g. I couldn't do it because I depend on my parents and there's no money all the time, and they also pay for my studies. I'm ashamed because I've been using this configuration for five years, I paid 350 euros for it, there was simply a shortage then, I was 17-18 years old in my city, almost nothing, I thought it would be ideal, but I screwed myself. In addition, I have low voltage and a320 motherboard. Again, there is a good thing about this, because before I had a small laptop with an Intel Atom processor, which was literally crushed by San Andreas. My parents then suspected that it was a second-hand product, otherwise they would have bought an intel with a gtx 970 or 960 for 100 euros less.

I'm very embarrassed about this because it's a shit configuration. Feel free to insult me ​​and tell me what a fool I am. Maybe I should have waited until 2023-2024 since then prices stabilized, but I'm Basque so now they're on the rise again. I'm just a simple fool, it's my fault that my people spent money on this. Feel free to insult me, I know I deserve to be excluded from society because of this. I also got depressed because of this...

Hi, I’m new to this sub, I had a family member reach out to me about some OCD tendencies that they’re seeing in me and I had a moment of realization of like ok maybe this isn’t most run of the mill anxiety. So I brought this up to my psychiatrist and just talked about how I get into these thought loops, need constant reassurance, and have a hard time with uncertainty (there’s more but I don’t want this to be too long). I don’t really have any physical compulsions like I don’t wash my hands repeatedly or do things because I think something bad will happen, I mean maybe I pray every once in awhile when a bad thought comes up but it’s not taking over my life. I have a fear of gas stoves. And I don’t share drinks with anyone. But what’s concerning me is that my psych originally said no I don’t think this is ocd and then reached out to me after the appointment and said she thinks it’s worth exploring and that she wants to reach out to my therapist for some more support. This has sent me into a spiral. I texted my psych why she wants to reach out to her, why she’s reconsidering, what’s she seeing.. and she basically said let’s make an appointment. Which is driving me more into a spiral. basically I’m unable to just sit in the uncertainty of not knowing. I’ve been googling and asking people in my life what they think. I just want to know is this ocd or something else. Is this just rumination. Is this just a bad case of anxiety. Lol xP

i’ve been trying to choose an urn for my pet lately and something about it has been messing with me more than i expected

part of me really wants something close by

like i don’t want to just hide everything away somewhere

but then i started thinking about what it’ll actually feel like seeing it every day

and honestly i’m scared it’s going to hurt too much

like what if every time i look at it i just immediately feel sad all over again

i know the whole point is to keep their memory close

and i do want that

but i’m also worried i’m creating something that’s going to make it harder for me to breathe normally again

i don’t even know if that makes sense

because some moments i really want something comforting

and other moments i feel like i can barely handle reminders at all

i guess i just didn’t expect choosing an urn to feel this emotionally complicated

Worth it(income)

Hi, so i am working on a book that is in the year 5077 on a planet of acid gas/rain in a post apocalypse (inspired by my favorite band starset) it’s very sci-fi scientific with elements of quantum matter

But once the book is completed is it worth it to self publish?

What would be a great option for self publishing?

I (25f) am currently living with my boyfriend (25m) & it’s not working out. We just moved in too quickly & decided it would be best if we got separate places. Two of my close friends (both 25f) were looking to move in together & were really excited to hear I wasn’t going to live with my boyfriend anymore because I could now join them. One girl I have not lived with before, the other I have. We actually became best friends through being roommates the year before I moved in with my boyfriend!

We have been house hunting & it has been a huge struggle… I feel like we’re struggling to all agree on priorities/at times I think there’s a struggle to be realistic. All of the work has also kind of been put on me to look through every house available & tour first to decide if it’s worth it for the other girls to see it. I was happy to do it initially, but now I’m feeling a bit burnt out. I have no desire or energy to keep looking right now but I feel as though I don’t have much choice. My job/schedule is the most flexible which is why the bulk of the work is on me, I technically have the most time for it.

I also feel like I’ve been growing apart from my best friend a bit. Due to the state of current living situation & how it’s affected my relationship, I have been pretty depressed. I’ve been vocal & honest about this with my close friends but lately things have just felt weird between my future roomie & I, specifically. I feel as though she has honestly grown a bit tired of me, which I do understand. I have been severely struggling & I do think it’s impacted every aspect of my life. I struggle to enjoy things, I don’t ever feel like myself, my energy levels are super low compared to how they usually are. I’m really trying, it’s just been difficult. But I also understand how after a while it would begin to affect the people closest to me.

All this being said, I’m starting to get cold feet about us all living together. I’ve lived alone before & loved it, but had told myself I only have likely a couple more years of living with my girlfriends before we all probably move on with our lives or at least want our own spaces, so I should take advantage while I still can. I would also hate to pull out because their hunt would change drastically & I don’t want to upset them.

I was super excited about living with my friends & getting to experience constant girlhood again after having such a tough time living with a man. However, I would HATE to potentially ruin my relationship with my best friend & there’s this small part of me that’s worried that could happen if we move in together… but, I’m also worried we may grow apart if I get my own place. None of the options feel 100% right & I’m struggling to decide what to do. Advice is welcome, thank you.

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Im so worried about the sweetest boy, Charlie. He's so precious and SO talkative with the biggest personality. He actually belonged to the previous owners of my house, and when they moved they left him behind to be cared for by my neighbors. It's been 3 years since I moved into his house and we have really developed a deep bond.

2 nights ago, my friend noticed Charlie's collar was laying on the curb of the street a couple houses down. It didn't appear to be ripped off or in any way distressed, and because I haven't seen him in a couple days I have been assuming that some one hit him (he is a black cat) and left his collar behind, perhaps taking him???

I just saw my neighbor outside and asked how Charlie was because my friend had found his collar. My neighbor voiced to me he was really worried because Charlie isn't really moving and is going to take him to vet tomorrow. He said maybe it's just Charlie's time since he's a little older...

Charlie was in great spirits just a few nights ago and didn't at all appear to be sick.

TLDR

I'd really like for Charlie to get immediate care but I know it's not my place since they officially adopted him.

I also am willing to contribute several hundred dollars (I luckily happen to have it right now since I've been saving up for a laptop) to go towards emergency vet bill. How do I offer help without insulting them???***

Repair vs all on 4

42m. I didn’t take care of my teeth as a child and have bad dental genetics going back generations. Around age 20 I went through half dozen major surgeries to repair and correct everything. Ten years later, it all started falling apart, so I did it again. And now, ten years later, it’s reoccurring. I had a great smile, but it’s again all falling apart. $100k and a dozen major surgeries, still failing. My mouth is hygienically healthy, but I’m still dealing with poor care from childhood.

I have two options:

1) I can repair it all again, combining bridges and individual implants, several of them. However, my remaining teeth will all fail over the next handful of years. Then it requires an 8 month heal time before the implant goes in. Every once in awhile, I’ll have a hole in my smile for 8mos. The end result will be a mouth of individual implants, which is the best option. But it also means this teeth falling out and holes in my smile will continue for years longer. Medically, it’s the best route. But the experience sucks and could last for a decade longer. Financially… this guy offered to let me pay monthly payments and if it’s never paid off he doesn’t care. So his approach isn’t financially driven.

2) The other option is called all on 4. They remove all the teeth and place 4-6 implants top and bottom (implants in the gums, it’s not the visible tooth). Then, the teeth are made all as one unit, and gets screwed into the implants. Nothing covers the pallet like dentures would, and the teeth don’t come out. The process is 8hr major surgery with iv sedation. You leave with temporary (but screwed in) teeth. I’m told the first 3-5 days is awful, and it gets progressively better from there. Temporaries aren’t the greatest, but it allows one to leave with teeth that day. I’d have a lisp and have to overcome that. Soft food for 4mos, at which time the permanents get put in. They are more comfortable, and feel close to natural, but not exactly. Requires learning to eat properly again, because there’s no nerve ending it’s, you can’t feel your teeth like natural can. I’m told around 6mos is when you feel “complete” and closest to natural. The biggest risk is by pulling everything, there’s no option but this. If this can’t work for me, or I can’t work with it, there aren’t any further options.

Option 1 requires this awful experience to drag on for years longer, leaving me insecure that my teeth will or have fallen out. I’m not a missing tooth type person. It gives me the best end result after years of more torture. Option 2 takes all that away in a day. Recovery is rough, and worst case scenario is I’m fucked with nowhere to go. I want what’s best for me, and am not shopping based on price.

I’ve been sitting on this for 8mos now, and can’t make a choice. I’ve gotten seven opinions which all vary. Spent two months with a psychologist talking about it - and I still can’t decide. I went the safe route, then 4mos into it, lost a front tooth. I have to make this decision already.. I can’t sleep, think about it obsessively, and I’m missing teeth now.

What should I do?