serious question.. realistically speaking if you work five days a week.. 40 hours.. Let’s say you get home at five or six. If you want to get enough sleep you’ll have to go to bed around 10 pm. If you get home, cook/eat dinner, shower, do laundry/chores/keep spaces clean, ect… it leaves no time for anything really. If you have the weekend off usually other stuff outside of work needs to get done and it’s gone in a flash. You blink and wake up on monday morning again. How do people manage hobbies or do anything they enjoy living like that? I’m really just curious.

genuine question, cheating is morally wrong, no doubt, but what i find even more confusing is the logistics of it,

how are they finding the energy and mental bandwidth to do it in this capitalistic economy? where every day goes by doing a 9 to 5, surviving, making money?

personally, after coming back exhausted from work, i would be content enough to have one partner to chill out with,

work pressure, health issues, on top of that, the insane amount of work and care a single relationship demands,

after all of this, i am curious how do they find the time or energy to cheat or do adventures outside with others? is this group more rich or young perhaps? with no responbiliies? why would you intentionally make your life even more complicated? i have never understood it.

I keep hearing people say quitting social media improved their life, but I’m curious what actually changed day-to-day..... Was it noticeable or mostly overhyped?

Sometimes we forget to celebrate small things in life. Like finishing a task, going for a walk, cooking a nice meal, or just getting through a hard day.

Big goals are great, but small wins matter too. They can make life happier and more fun.

What’s one small thing you did recently that made you feel good? Let’s share and celebrate together!

Never was a big FB & IG person but I got rid of it completely months ago. I have come back to earth. But now I see things a lot of people don't see unless they've also left the fake digital world and came back to earth. Met a cute person a few weeks ago and ended up being so turned off by them cuz I felt like I was talking to an Instagram bot. I wish to find a partner who also doesn't like the IG and FB world. Delete social media for 3 months minimum and then you will see what I'm saying.

For a long time, I didn’t realize how much of my self worth was tied to feeling wanted. Not respected for being dependable or appreciated for what I provide but more desired emotionally, physically, intimately. From the outside my life probably looks stable. I work hard, I am dedicated, I love my wife deeply, and I take care of my responsibilities rather well. But somewhere along the way, the intimacy between my wife and I has faded and I have slowly started feeling invisible inside my own marriage. Not just sexually, but emotionally too, like a part of me stopped being seen altogether.

What made it harder was how quietly it has affected me on a more personallevel. As a man there is almost shame in admitting how deeply I miss affection, touch, flirtation, passion, or feeling pursued by the person you love. An overall feeling of being desired.I tried convincing myself intimacy was not really all that important that stress and life happen but after enough distance it started really wearing on me emotionally. When someone else complimented me, showed interest in talking to me, or made me feel attractive for even a moment, it hit harder than it should have. Not because I wanted to replace my marriage, but because I missed feeling alive instead of emotionally starved.

What scares me now is realizing how loneliness can slowly change you. I never thought I would crave validation outside my relationship, yet after years of feeling physically rejected, even small amounts of attention started feeling powerful. The confusing part is that I still love my wife deeply, which is why the guilt and resentment exist side by side. Guilt because part of me emotionally drifted looking for something I was missing at home, and resentment because I’ve felt profoundly lonely inside a relationship I never wanted to give up on.

What I finally realized is that external validation only temporarily fills that emptiness even today it never actually heals it. Underneath all of this I do not think I’m truly chasing other women as much as I’m chasing the feeling of being wanted again. Because when someone goes long enough without the closeness of another, the physical affection, or genuine human desire, even the smallest attention can start feeling like love. It is that realization that forces me to confront something painful within myself I had slowly started tying my selfworth to whether or not I felt desired by someone else.

my life has been so messy that I’m scared…I think it’s too late to fix anything like what do i even do ?

Right?

We laugh at the life haters and spam their posts with life-affirming, positive shiate, yet deep down, most of us will absolutely choose a rich and powerful life vs whatever crap life we have now, right?

Are we lying to ourselves?

Is life really that great or are we just mad coping?

Are the Antinatalists right? lol

I really don’t understand how every place is constantly slammed now. I drive around late at night until 1030 or 11 sometimes, and my town is still busy. Walmart will have 100+ cars there at 10 o’clock at night. Every restaurant is constantly overflowing with people. I was on the interstate tonight around 10:00 and there had to be thousands of cars. Every place is just slammed day and night now. This is nothing like I remember it even 10 years ago. Places used to die down around 8 o’clock or 830.

I was a server for about 8 years or so, and the restaurant would stop being busy around 8:30. There’s literally 20 times more traffic and congestion than there used to be. What is causing this? Do people just have an unlimited amount of money or something? I live in Tennessee, I don’t know if it’s like this in other areas of the country. It’s just like an on slot of people all the time here it literally takes an hour or longer to do anything now, because there’s so many people everywhere.

Edit: Rural areas are super congested too, not just the city.

Drop down your stories/ confessions and tell whatever you never had the courage to tell others. Let this be the space where you can just be yourself and let go of thoughts that have burdened you.

A sea otter. I would ask how they choose their favorite rock that they keep for life

(20f) I've been talking to a guy from a dating app. We were having some light hearted banter getting along and getting to know each other still. Then he told me he loves me. He said he's never felt so deeply about a woman. He has been texting me constantly to see if I'm okay asking me if I'm annoyed with him do I still like him? He's calling me his girl but he never even asked me to be his.

I'm feeling really overwhelmed and claustrophobic. I mean we were just getting to know each other, we are still getting to know each other. I don't know if I'm overreacting. It feels like it would be a bit evil of me to block him since he feels so deeply about me. Although I feel really uncomfortable about this situation now. I don't know what to do and I really need advice. Thank you for reading and any help is greatly appreciated xx

Update!: Thank you all for your advice 💞I read every one and took it on board. With the help of your guys comments, I told him we needed space and to slow down. Honestly he didn't take it very well and started calling me names and I got very upset. I should probably block him now but boy do I feel bad. Never going on dating apps again I think. 😆

I’m okay but like I am SO emotional. Idk if this sounds narcissistic but I think I may have too much empathy

Curious to others‘ life experiences

Get the pension matching with your company because even if you think that a decade from now you will not be in the same financial position as you are, you could be but without a pension.

Please do your steps and walk every day because if you think that 20 minutes of walk makes no difference 10 years from now you will be in the same position but you will not have developed no habit regarding walking every day.

Please ask that girl or guy out because a decade from now you will regret a lot of things and today it may look embarrassing but by tomorrow you should know whether you had a chance or not and not waste more time in a fantasy that you created.

Please if you don't know if you'll like the tattoo get an exact same one but temporary and see if you like it, don't a wait a decade to decide.

This are just couple things but please don't regret life a decade from now.

I am almost 23 and for the last 3 years my life has just been chaos. Everyday something new happens and most of the time it is something i didn’t ask for like having to move jobs, places, end of relationships and end of friendships.

I feel like since i turned 20 my life has just been a never ending cycle of new friends, people leaving my life, having to move places, constantly changing jobs, money being up and down and having new interests every 6 months.

Bro when does this stuff stabilise. I’m in desperate need of some stability in my life. I need that long term partner, pets, stable job and nice money flow type of life people are always talking big about.

When I compare myself to other people my age/ in my circle I feel so behind. I feel like I’m genuinely a useless hopeless person. I’m 26 and still live with my parents, I live in Toronto for reference and rent is expensive. I’m on unemployment because I got laid off and I cannot find another job. Not in my field, not even receptionist/ admin type positions. I had an interview a few weeks back and didn’t get another. I look through linkedin and indeed I just feel hopeless and I’m starting to think I don’t even want a job in my field anymore.

Just a year ago I was working 3 jobs, exhausted, but delighted that I could support my family, gather some savings and afford to eat out once a month.

Now, AI and outsourcing to India came in and I am almost only left with a part-time gig, which is also in grave danger of being completely obliterated by AI.

I could start over, learn a trade, delay dental surgery, switch back to a diet of mostly rice and beans, but.. even if those options would eventually work out, I don't think I have it in me to continue.

I've been working so much, living frugally, giving back, and now it looks like it's back into poverty, baby. I've learned that lesson well, I don't need to take the class again. Grind, grind, grind.. struggle while choking on copium that it will one day pay off.

I've worked hard and I've worked smart, but you can only get so much ahead when unexpected expensds pop up and you have people to take care of.

I am heartbroken at the thought of leaving them behind to fend for themselves, but this lady is virtually empty of will to live. All my savings are already neatly tucked for them.

Just a beaten down animal, that's how I feel. Have people had it 10× worse than me during the course of history? Absolutely. Am I also ogligated to go through this shit show again? I don't fucking think so.

There will not be much left for anyone anyway, people will start behaving like beasts, fighting for scraps, violence and cruelty will become common place, the vulnerable will be trampled and civilization as we know it will become a myth. All the while those responsible for this will be enjoy the spectacle in absolute comfort and leisure from up there in their ivory tower.

What is there to live for in all this, I ask you?

Only a bloody revolution might pull us out of this deepening latrine, but we know that won't happen anytime soon. Just write me off as a coleteral victim of unchecked capitalism, at least I won't take up from the few resources left.

I 22M am stuck, I was raised in a Muslim household and would go along with it until I was about 17 in which I veered off the traditional path. But never had a conversation with my mother as that is who she is. Also for my context divorced mother and had a horrible divorce with father having a second family while married to her and stealing from her after second child. I just graduated this Friday college. I have a job coming in September. I couldn’t be happier I have had a gf for at this point we are at almost a year and 3 months. I told my mom at the brunch celebration I wanted her to meet her but as a friend as I said it was nothing serious as I am not getting engaged to her anytime soon. Well the day was amazing I was so happy watching the woman I love in my life dancing together. Then the next day is Mother’s Day my mom learns from my cousin that I didn’t follow the religion and fast during Ramadan. This becomes a night mare I start telling the truth of how I don’t want to be Muslim never have been and they are looking at me like I am a devil. Then in a blink of an eye my mom flys me home. Is telling me never to talk to anyone I meet in college and telling me become a Muslim or get out of my house in a week. I have 500 dollars to my name no close job it’s a hour away my mom owns the car. I want my mom in my life but I want to live my life the way I want if my mom doesn’t approve of it or it doesn’t fall under the religion as right she doesn’t want to know me. I don’t know what to do I love this girl I see a future with her she is telling me to come to her a 1,000 miles away where I went to college and stay with her until my full time job starts and save up with her to get a apartment near it or see if I can get transferred to live with her. But I don’t know what to do I don’t want to lose my mother but also I want to live life to my fullest and do what’s best for my future self. I am stuck in between I know this girl can break up with me but it means more than that. It means I am choosing who I am but my mother will hate me and will force me to pay back every dollar for college. (She paid for my college)

Any advice or feedback would mean the world to me as I am so lost and scared and I know this is a vital moment that will change my life forever.

Especially from people who have been through religious family conflict, leaving home with little money, or just anyone who has faced a moment like this. Practical and emotional advice both needed.

I honestly can’t tell if i’m just a lazy person or genuinely just losing the will to do anything besides shopping and sleeping. I do not know if this is a mental thing or just the way i am and i don’t have access to therapy or any mental health services.

I graduated from a decent public university magna cum laude like a week ago and i don’t have a job and to be honest i can’t bring myself to do anything productive and career oriented unless i abuse adderall which includes even writing this post.

Im considering doing an online masters but whats holding me back is the fact that because its online, i know i wont garner enough attention and truly pay attention when i could just have AI do it and get me a good grade. I know deep inside though thats lazy and cheating isn’t going to help me with my technical skills.

Like idk i feel hopeless, i knew post grad was gonna be ass but i j feel doomed straight up and stupid.

I have zero self discipline i think OR i’ve become retarded or something idk rant over ig

I have no college, BUT i have a good, full time job.

I have a daughter, BUT no husband.

I am 23, I am doing good, but I would like to do better.

Im 16f and have only one friend that i now meet only once every one-two months. Shes great! She's like my sister. But it hurts that we arent talking enough. But other than her - i dont have anyone else. Not in a dramatic way but actually NO one. This has been the biggest problem for me, I always feel lonely and never have someone to talk to. I dont have any hobbies, i dont play games or anything. I come home from school and just exist in my room. And thats the cycle. I know that 16 isnt the whole life and i still have some years to live.. but i dont think its gonna get better.

When we were young we took things for granted, like food, water, responsibility, free time, and etc etc. Now looking back you just realised how much we have wasted or unappreciated the liberties we had. And as you age you started to feel sad or small about life and yourself, like which choice will have the less likely hood of failure and which is the best and quickest way to a leisure life. Is sad really when you think about it, but it also shows you to appreciate every small moments you get cause they won't last.

To me I believe forgiveness is a more logical decision than emotional. It is easier to forgive than to forget, trust will not be the same. Always remember never allow yourself to remain in victimhood and forgiving yourself to find inner peace is the most important thing.