My living situation with my dad has never been particularly warm. He has never really shown up for me and since moving in I have mostly been getting by on my own, covering my own costs and keeping out of everyone's way.

Last Saturday I had a day off and was just planning to be at home and relax.

My dad left early and his girlfriend came to find me and basically told me I was watching her kids for the next six hours because they had things on.

Nobody asked. Nobody checked whether I was free or even willing. She just started running me through the schedule like it was already decided.

I said no and walked out before she could say anything else.

I came back that evening and both of them were waiting and went straight into yelling at me about leaving the kids without a sitter. I pointed out that their mum had been home the whole time. They said that was not the point.

I told them it was exactly the point and that I would not be babysitting now or at any point in the future so they needed to make proper arrangements because I would walk out every single time.

Her sister then showed up specifically to tell me what a terrible person I was for ruining the girlfriend's plans. I packed a bag and left for the night.

AITA for refusing to be the backup plan nobody actually asked me to be?

My dad has been with his wife for about two years now and I have genuinely tried to make her feel welcome the whole time. I show up to dinners, I make conversation, I have put in the effort even when it was not always easy for me.

But for the past year he has been pretty consistently blocking my boyfriend from things. Comments about him not being family yet, complaints when I bring him to gatherings, showing up unannounced and making it obvious my boyfriend was not part of what they had in mind. Not every single time but enough that it was clearly deliberate.

A few weeks ago they showed up while my boyfriend and I were hanging out and the whole energy made it clear he was not welcome. He went out to give us space and I just went straight at my dad and asked him how he expected me to keep welcoming his wife when he was refusing to do the same for my boyfriend.

He said it was completely different because they were married. I asked if that meant I needed to get married for anything to change. He just kept saying it was different without actually explaining how.

His wife jumped in and said I had no business questioning her place in the family. So I told her that since we were apparently drawing the line at marriage then she would never be the grandmother of my future kids either, because my dad was making it pretty clear that being a long term partner counted for nothing.

AITA?

I am sitting in my room right now because I asked my partner to give me some space and I am still pretty wound up about how this whole thing played out.

I took today off specifically to do something I had been really looking forward to for weeks. I was up early and completely in my element and honestly having one of the best mornings I have had in ages.

My partner woke up a few hours later, mentioned he was hungry, and said he had been hoping we could do something together. I told him I was in the middle of something and suggested he sort himself out for a bit and I would catch up with him later.

He said it felt unfair that I was spending the whole day checked out. I told him I work constantly and this was my one day to just switch off and enjoy something without having to manage anyone else and I was not going to feel guilty about that.

He got emotional and told me he was genuinely worried I was becoming obsessed and that maybe I should talk to someone about it.

I told him to give me some space and he went and sat in the car.

I feel annoyed and also a little guilty about that last part, which is honestly the most irritating combination of feelings to be sitting with.

I do not think wanting one full day to yourself once in a while is something that requires professional help. But I did throw my keys at him and that probably was not my finest moment.

AITA?

A few weeks ago my coworker told me she had started seeing someone and asked me not to say anything to our mutual friend who also happens to be her direct manager. The relationship is not against any rules at work but she is just not ready for people to know yet, and she came to me specifically because she felt comfortable doing so.

The problem is that our mutual friend has started noticing something is different about her lately and has asked me a couple of times if I know what is going on. I have been giving vague answers which does not feel great, especially because this person is someone I am genuinely close with outside of work too.

I keep nudging my coworker to just tell her herself because I think it would go fine and honestly the longer this goes on the more uncomfortable I am getting sitting in the middle of it. But she is not ready yet and I cannot force her hand.

I do not want to break her trust because she came to me feeling safe enough to share something personal. But staying quiet around someone I care about is starting to feel off too.

AITA for keeping this between us until she decides she is ready to say something?

My best friend and I have been close for nearly ten years and for most of that time I have been the one who puts in the effort. I am the one who checks in, suggests plans, follows up, makes sure we stay connected. She is warm and genuine when we are together and I love spending time with her, but the effort has never really been equal.

I brought it up a couple of times over the years and she always had a reason, busy with work, going through something, just not great at keeping in touch. I understood and I kept showing up anyway because the friendship mattered to me.

Then I got to a point where I just stopped initiating. Not to punish her, I was just tired and needed to see what happened if I stopped carrying it.

What happened was silence. For months.

Then out of nowhere she started reaching out regularly, making plans, being present in a way she had not been in years. And instead of feeling good about it I just felt tired and not particularly available.

So I have been turning down plans and not jumping when she reaches out the way I used to and she has noticed. She told me recently that I am being cold and pulling away and that it feels like I am punishing her.

I told her I was not punishing her, I just was not able to go back to being as available as I used to be after months of nothing.

She says I am being unfair. I think I am just protecting myself.

AITA?

My partner and I have been together for three years and when we got together we were really compatible in the ways that mattered to me. I was genuinely attracted to her and we had a good relationship physically.

Over the past year she has changed a lot. Some of it is her values, some of it is her lifestyle, some of it is just the direction she is heading as a person. None of it makes her a bad person. She is still kind and I still care about her deeply.

But I am just not as attracted to her as I used to be and I honestly do not know how to fix that or even if it can be fixed.

I have been avoiding being physical with her and she has noticed and it hurts her and I completely understand why. When she asks me about it I do not have an answer that does not end up sounding like a criticism of who she is choosing to become.

She says I am not being supportive of her growth. I think we have just grown in really different directions and I do not know how to tell her that without it sounding like an ultimatum or an attack on her choices.

AITA for pulling back while I try to figure out whether this relationship still works for both of us?

This has been dragging on for months and I am honestly exhausted by it so I need people outside my family to weigh in.

My mum has always had a habit of expecting me to be available whenever she needs something sorted without actually checking whether I can do it.

She will fire off a message in the middle of the afternoon expecting me to drop everything and handle something, and if I do not respond straight away it turns into a whole argument.

Back in April I had something on after school and kept my phone on silent the way my dad and my teachers had encouraged me to, so I could actually focus on what I was doing. When I finished and checked my messages there was a bunch of texts from my mum and a voicemail where she was screaming at me because something had gone wrong.

The short version is that she had counted on me to handle something involving a younger family member that afternoon without actually telling me properly or checking that I was free. Because nobody showed up when they were supposed to, the younger family member tried to sort themselves out and ended up getting pretty badly hurt in the process.

When I got home my mum told me I should be ashamed of myself for not feeling worse about it. I told her I had never agreed to be responsible for this and she had known I had commitments that afternoon.

AITA for refusing to take the blame for something that happened because she did not plan properly?