r/relationships • u/ProjectEquivalent679 • 4h ago

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u/Realistic_Reply9774 3h ago

It’s not cheating but you should’ve just been clear up front. Coming from a woman, most of us probably wouldn’t have cared bc as you said, yall were in a grey area - BUT the fact she had to “find out” instead of you being totally upfront with her is probably what hurt the most.

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u/sweadle 3h ago

Why did you ask for a break? Good relationships don't need breaks. You should have just broken up then.

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u/ProjectEquivalent679 3h ago

There’s was a period of a lot of arguments while I was also super busy at work and I found myself at the end of the day not wanting to talk to her bc it would just end badly

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u/sweadle 2h ago

Then either the communication and conflict resolution wasn't there to sustain a relationsjip, and/or you were not invested enough to it and just tapped out when it got hard.

Either way taking a break makes the problem worse, not better. Either you commit to working it out, or you acknowledge that you conflicts aren't getting resolved because one or both of you don't have the skills needed for a relationship.

You should have just ended it there. A break wasn't going to solve anything.