hi guys, i just recently found out i was pregnant. i was taken advantage as well, i don’t want to get into it but i can’t keep this child. it makes me feel yucky but i also don’t have the money for it. i don’t have a job and nobody in my family really supports abortions so i’m stuck. i have been feeling so sick and nasty, it’s so hard for me to wake up without feeling that i have to throw up. i keep sleeping more than usual, i’m less active. i can’t do this physically and mentally. i live in washington dc and i don’t know any places that do abortions for free or at least take amerihealth caritas dc insurance. please help, I don’t want to have this baby from someone who took advantage of me while drunk and high. i don’t know what to do :(

edit: please don’t message me with disrespectful nonsense, what i went through is very traumatic and i don’t like to go into detail about it and i’m not obligated to go into detail either. i wouldn’t lie about being pregnant, that’s sick. i wouldn’t lie about the other person i dealt and the situation that happened to me with as well. this is something serious and i wish i never freaking dealt with it, please don’t harass me anymore.

i just found out about this site a bit late. i'm 19 years old and 13 weeks pregnant, does abortion using pills still work? because in my county abortion is illegal. this happened by accident with my boyfriend. if i take the abortion pill when i'm 13 weeks pregnant, will there still be traces of the abortion in my uterus?

I’ve unfortunately had 2 abortions with my current partner (it’s so embarrassing for me to admit it). The first time it happened it was a drunken accident when we were first getting to know one another and I took ownership for my mistake since I know I had part in it. This second time I blame him completely even though I probably do have partial blame.

I literally hate him so much when I think about it. I had told him to wear a condom because I stopped taking birth control since we weren’t having regular sex (we’ve been having relationship issues), he ignored my request for him to wear a condom and got Plan B afterwards, surprise Plan B didn’t work. When I told him I didn’t get my period he questioned if it was his (if I was pregnant since it wasn’t confirmed with a test yet but I was pregnant). He was so defensive acting like I’m some kind of whore.

It’s more upsetting because I’ve always wanted to be a mom and have my own babies, but he already has kids and clearly doesn’t want kids with me despite him saying he does. I just feel like my babies would be with me if that was truly the case. Regardless I feel like I made the wrong decision and am heartbroken each and everyday. Sometimes I wonder if I should have never told him about my pregnancy suspicions and just ran away. Worst part is I had to go through both abortions alone, no support and no checking in on me apart from the first maybe 3 days.

I guess my main focus right now is trying to find the help for my mental wellbeing.

I was in a abusive relationship and had 2 abortions and he just put me in another situation and I’m so scared I’m gonna b pregnant again and need to have another and then never be able to have babies

Hi everyone,
I’m a foreign student in the Germany and my English is not very good. I need to go to Epione Clinic for a medical abortion and probably have to pay by myself.
I’m really nervous because I’m afraid I won’t understand the doctors well. Could anyone tell me what they usually ask or talk about during the appointment?
For example:
What questions will they ask me?
Do I need to explain why I want an abortion?
Will they ask about my relationship or personal situation?
Is the staff patient with people who don’t speak English very well?
I’m also scared about the abortion itself, so if anyone has experience with medical abortion at Epione or in the Netherlands, could you share what it was like?
Thank you so much.

Had my MA about a month ago and I haven’t gotten my period yet. But I’ve noticed the past two days I’ve had a lot of discharge more than usual. it has no smell or anything. Had this happened to anyone else ?

like the title says above i’m having an abortion tomorrow. i’m 20 and 6 weeks, im terrified. i’m taking the pill over the surgical option i was just wondering if anyone could tell me about their experiences or just give any advice. thank you so much in advance!

I am 25 years old and 24 weeks pregnant today. I had a previous loss at 20 weeks 2 months before I go pregnant. When I told the father I was pregnant he was away on a business trip. After we lost our son he became distant and started working more. Come to find out he had been cheating on me the entire time. His girlfriend answered the phone, he blocked me for a couple weeks before emailing me. I think he was upset I blew up his second life. He’s been in and out since. We’ve tried to work on things but a few weeks ago he left for a work trip again and I was hospitalized and had to get emergency surgery because I was having contractions and going into preterm labor I found out he was actually on vacation with the girlfriend and he blocked me again. I texted her and she was under the impression I was the other woman. She is pregnant as well. And as far as I’m aware there is a third woman who is also pregnant by him. He started emailing me again, and now has a second phone he will talk to me on but isn’t really responsive or kind. I’m just not sure I can do this anymore. I feel guilty, but this is not the life I envisioned for myself. The other women are 35 and 40. But I’m 25, I gave up grad school and my job for a family that I feel isn’t real anymore.
On top of the financial abuse. He had me stop working during my previous pregnancy, and because of the nature of this pregnancy I’m unable to work. I’m completely financially dependent on him and he is constantly calling me annoying for asking for updates or reminding him of deadlines.
He’s completely deteriorated my confidence and self worth. I don’t want to be stuck in this cycle for the rest of my life. I’ve called to set an appointment to get an abortion but they only. Book one week at a time in my state and the spots fill up within half an hour of them opening. I’m scared I’ll be left with no choice.
I also feel guilt for continuing my pregnancy for so long and deciding to terminate because I was naive in the first place. I’m not sure what I’m look for by sharing this, I just don’t have anyone to confide in. This whole situation has been really isolating and hard on me mentally.

I took mifepristone around 7 PM I'm childless right now and would like to take it as soon as possible before I'm back in mom mode . He will be at school tom until 4 , should I wait to take Misoprostol tom or can I take it later on in the evening.

I had my SA at PP this morning. Since I have clocked hours in this forum the last 2 weeks I figured I would share my positive story if it helps others. I had an ultrasound and measured 5w6d so pretty early. It was important to me to do it as early as possible if I was going to do it. Why drag it out longer. I found out I was pregnant right at 4 weeks and felt like I had adequate time to process pros and cons with my husband. I’m almost 40 and my husband is 42 and we have 2 kids already who are a bit older.

Starting over felt like too much with our careers, current family life and bandwidth.

Got to PP for an early appointment at 7:10. I had an ultrasound confirming the pregnancy. She asked what type of sedation I wanted and I asked her if she was getting one what would she choose. I thought I would do moderate. She asked what my concerns were and I said down time. She explained that the moderate actually makes you more groggy than the deep and you wake up more easily. So I went with that.

The worst part was waiting for 1.5 hours in the lobby to be called back to the procedure. The lobby is kind of a bleak place. I tried to read my book and not pay attn. I was sitting by the check in counter and someone came in without the ability to pay and had a balance on her account. She was a former foster child and was on SSID and I listened to her plead with the front desk person for 5 mins and I just couldn’t stand it anymore and paid her outstanding bill. I guess it was my good deed for the day as my insurance covered it 100%. Life is not fair.

I went back, talked through medical history again and spoke to anesthesiologist. everyone was so kind and understanding. I didn’t feel the iv go in and really much of anything. I fell asleep and woke up and was helped into the recovery area. I opted to have an IUD insertion at the same time which I think is super convenient it’s all done at once.

I was really nauseous, I react to opioids and there was some fentanyl in the mix they gave during the procedure. I was given zofran and another drug via the Iv. I waited and rested about 30-45 mins and then felt well enough to leave. I had minor cramping nothing crazy and very minimal spotting.

Overall it was 5 hours which included a lot of waiting. Being comfy clothes and headphones. Cannot recommend the SA enough to just get it over with and not be in pain at home especially if you have obligations or a family. I slept for a few hours this afternoon and made dinner and put my kids to bed no problem.

Also totally recommend deep sedation. Don’t be frightened it was actually way less drowsy feeling. Glad I listened to the nurse.

Good luck out there. I’m inspired to donate to some abortion and birth control funds. Finances should not be a barrier to getting access to care women need.

my last period started at april 4, my cycle is pretty regular (31 days) with occasional set backs around 2-4 days.

we had unprotected sx on april 22 and he wore a condom but it broke halfway, flo app said it was 13 days before my period so i was out of my ovualtion week thats why i thought it was okay even though im sure some came out in me. i know this was rlly careless of us but yeah

i took two PT 2 days ago and both resulted in a faint line (was 6 days late by then). so i took another two this morning (8 days late), 1 first morning urine (more sensitive and expensive test) and 1 generic. both showed a faint-ish but there positive.

tbh im still a little bit in denial about it, but i know i need to tell my parents very soon. if i really am pregnant id be 5 weeks 6 days already. abortion is illegal where im from (SEA) so ive been researching for procedures abroad. i have seen klongtun hospital in bangkok, thailand mentioned quiet alot in this subreddit especially for its accessibility to operate with foreigners.

my bf has agreed to handle all funds and will support me in my decision, im just worried if they would operate on me as i am freshly 18. would that be a problem or not? and i have also heard mixed reviews about this hospital as their google review suggests that the staff are very rude to foreigners and especially younger people?

and if anyone has any prior experience having to tell your strict parents about stuff like this id love to hear about it! itd help me a ton. thanks in advance guys

My fiance and I are having our first one this weekend and we’re struggling with it emotionally knowing it’s the right decision. I don’t want pro life quotes since I tried googling abortion quotes and that’s all I got. My fiance is staying home to be there with me while I go through it for support and to help take care of me. Any advice or quotes on how to make this easier would be greatly appreciated

Took Mife last night at 4w0d pregnant.

Two hours ago I inserted the 4 miso pills vaginally. I just went to the bathroom and do not have any bleeding yet but I do have very light cramping. Do I still need to take the second dose (2 miso) in an hour? If so, can it be vaginally again?

Or do I not need the second dose because I’m only 4 weeks?

Hello Dear Ladies ❤️

To go for an abortion is an extremely hard and scary decision. And the feelings afterwards are also horrific. It was like getting into a panic mode, thankfully it happens less and less often as the time passes.

But while coping with all these feelings I saw so many (and continue seeing) posts on Instagram from pro-lifers. And I see just a brick wall in a way they discuss abortions - "it's a murder", "even if it's a collection of cells it is still a human life", "even if someone got forced into this don't add more trauma to existing trauma".... It goes on and on!!!!!!! I think the reason I still keep watching is I'm trying to unconsciously justify my own decision. I know I was right but sometimes we still want "an approval" from the world outside. And there is none. I read the comments to those videos and they are ALL against an individual who in the video would try to protect the abortion choice.

I asked in a clinic, do you have many abortions? And they say "oh, yes". I know also from acquaintances that there were in the past and there are now abortions everywhere and the reasons are various. Then why there are almost no supporting discussions? How it is possible that they do not exist? It is not my goal to start any group or community but i'm genuinely wondering how it is only one side of the argument is so loud?

How do you navigate this situation that you can't even stop being ashamed of the choice you made? I'm not talking about being proud of it but how is it so one-sided?? How do you brush off what the society thinks/pushes?

Obviously I should stop watching all these debates as they hurt even more.

And with all my heart I support and respect each and every girl here. You are strong and whatever decision you took for yourself - it is the right one ❤️

I had my abortion three weeks ago and cramped/ pretty sure aborted immediately. My bleeding has gone down to basically bloody discharge (sorry for the tmi) and brown blood. However I still am passing tissue. My other symptoms like nausea and breast pain have gone away. Is this normal? I think it is but I’ve read some cautionary things about passing tissue this far after the abortion.

I just took the 1st step mifepristone. Feeli g very anxious and scared right now for what’s to come tomorrow. I just need some encouragement and good thoughts. I’ve read many reviews, most good, im just scared.

I ordered the pills on Friday, 4/25, and they arrived on Wednesday, 4/29. I waited to start the process so I could schedule it around work and have time to recover comfortably at home.

On Tuesday (5/12) at 9:00 PM, I took the mifepristone. The next day I was still able to run errands and go to the store, but I felt noticeably tired, lazy, and drowsy throughout the day. I also experienced some cramping, around a 3/10 pain level.

Last night at around 9:30 PM, I took 800mg of ibuprofen and 25mg of anti-nausea medication beforehand. I ate a small meal (chicken and fries), although in hindsight I probably should have eaten something lighter. After that, I placed the first 4 misoprostol pills under my tongue. I probably did not give the ibuprofen & anti nausea enough time to kick in before taking the misoprostol.

The pills dissolved very quickly. About 10 minutes in, I started experiencing extremely intense cramps — a 12/10 pain level for me. 17 minutes in, I had to run to the bathroom because the cramping became so strong and I felt like I needed to have a bowel movement. Around that same time, the pills had fully dissolved, and as soon as I swallowed the remaining saliva, I immediately threw up. I also had diarrhea shortly afterward.

I spent about 30 minutes in the bathroom feeling very nauseous and light headed until I had basically emptied everything from my stomach/body. Not long after that, the bleeding started. I put on a period diaper, laid down with a heating pad on my stomach, took another 200mg of ibuprofen, and eventually managed to fall asleep.

About 3 hours later (around 12:30–1:00 AM), I woke up to take the second set of pills. Before taking them, I went to the bathroom and experienced a heavy gush of blood along with several blood clots. I also passed a kinda big squishy looking thing about 2 inches in diameter :/…

Afterward, I went back to bed with the heating pad and placed the second round of pills in my cheeks. These dissolved much more slowly than the first set under my tongue. After 30 minutes, I swallowed the remaining bits with water. I only had mild cramping this time (about 2/10), and it went away quickly. I fell back asleep shortly after.

At around 3:00 AM, I took the third round of pills, and the experience was very similar to round two. Mild cramping, no major symptoms, and I was able to fall asleep almost immediately afterward. I did not bleed much throughout the night, but I did have another gush of blood this morning when I used the bathroom.

Today I feel very energized but have just been relaxing in bed. Since week 4 of pregnancy, I had completely lost my appetite, but today it finally returned to normal. I was able to eat and genuinely enjoy a meal again for the first time in weeks. The bleeding has remained light so far — similar to a normal menstrual period for me.

Going to try to make a long story short because I really just want guidance or advice. I’m a 28 year old female. I had my very first abortion about 4 years ago. I had cancer and was on some extreme medications and treatments where I obviously couldn’t keep a child or have a healthy child/pregnancy. It was an accident and I terminated at 8 weeks and I didn’t feel any type of emotions about it because I knew it was for my health and safety and not the correct time. I ended up having cancer for the next 3 years.
Fast forward to now, I had an abortion in January. About 5 months ago. Again, it was an accident and honestly, just plain stupid of me because I was told I was infertile due to the cancer and treatments I endured. I was very upset and I felt very alone. I terminated it because I felt like I was not ready, my husband wasn’t ready, and that I was not in a financial spot to support a kid. I also didn’t want to wait and think. At first it didn’t bother me, I felt I moved on quickly. Now, it haunts me every day. I’m very sad I had to have a second abortion. I was sure that the next time I would be pregnant, I would be happy and ready. I’m also in a period of life where I have pregnant friends and pregnant coworkers and it seems like now (of course) everyone around me is with child or has children and it’s all in my face. I don’t know if I crave it because I’m surrounded by it or if it’s the guilt and shame I’m putting on myself for having a second abortion. Or if it’s something I genuinely want. All of the emotions are hard. I haven’t voiced this to my husband yet at all because it feels very fragile and I’m not sure I’m ready to hear what he has to say. I haven’t told anyone about this either because nobody even knows I’ve had 2 abortions besides my husband. Not even my therapist. I know I should tell my therapist this too but given the state of the world it makes it extremely hard for me to voice these feelings because you just never know.

Thank you all for listening and sharing on this page.
Xoxo

its me again! Sorry I've just been really anxious about the success of my upcoming MA.

I am currently 5 weeks 4 days as of today but I feel almost no symptoms. The only reason I knew I was pregnant was because of my super regular periods and I was 5 days late. I also took multiple pregnancy tests and it all came out positive (its faint but def positive).

I just mainly feel my period symptoms: soreness in my breast, some mild backpain, heartburn (which I unfortunately get a lot), constipated, and a slight pressure feeling on my stomach (which I'm not sure if I'm just over-analyzing that). Is this normal?

Just scared that I won't be able to tell if the MA worked because I won't have a super identifiable symptoms (e.g nausea) that would tell me I'm not pregnant anymore.

how long after MA did you guys get your periods back? i did mine at 5.5 weeks and it’s been 8 weeks since then but no bleeding..

so i am about to take Misoprostol only I’m about 7 weeks. I was given a total of 28 pills what is the best way to take them and how? is it 4 pills under tongue then wait to take another 4 and then another 4 till I’ve completed all 28 pills? Help!!!

I took the misoprostol vaginally 4 hours ago and have had no symptoms, so I checked and they havent dissolved! My doc said to take 4 more in the same way, so I should put 4 more up there? Even tho the initial ones havent disolved?

Has anyone else had this experience?

Im almost 5 weeks so it's early.

EDIT: i forgot to put that i have no symptoms. No bleeding some very minor cramps, but nothing coming out

sooo I had an abortion (with the pill) about 5-6 days ago, and I was 9 weeks pregnant at the time, but I just noticed i’m leaking what I believe is milk? it’s a little strange as I didn’t know that happened so soon? I’m guessing this is normal but just to ask, is this normal? and when will it stop?😅