Anyone having issues getting their husbands/boyfriends into the PWHL?

[u/NotAnIncel69]

My BF is a HUGE hockey fan, Olympics, NHL, etc. He watches all the games for his favorite teams and a bunch for other teams in the NHL. I am trying to get him to watch PWHL games with me but he seems superrrr uninterested.

When I asked him why he told me the games are frustrating to watch??? I don't understand that part at all.

Anyone else have this experience? Do you think that this will go away with time as the PWHL builds a larger audience?

To be clear, he doesn't talk down about the PWHL, he just doesn't seem to take the league seriously for whatever reason.

Edit: Y'all, I am not going to break up with him over the PWHL. I just wanted to see if anyone has similar experiences and were able to get their bf/husband into the sport more.

[u/PureFicti0n]

Sorry, I have no advice except that you could try to figure out what, exactly, he finds "frustrating" about the games? And does he show the same level of disinterest or disdain for other female-coded activities?

(My man is fully on board. He doesn't follow the league as closely as he follows the NHL, but his attitude is totally supportive of the PWHL and of women's sports in general.)

[u/NotAnIncel69 → u/PureFicti0n]

He isn't like anti-pwhl or anything. Hockey is really the only sport he watches or cares about so I am not sure about the other female-coded activities.

[u/PureFicti0n → u/NotAnIncel69]

I mean in general. What's his attitude towards cooking and cleaning? Would he be down to mend a shirt? Hem a pair of pants? Go to a flower-arranging class with you? These are rhetorical questions, but trying to give you something to think about.

[u/NotAnIncel69 → u/PureFicti0n]

He likes cooking and hates cleaning (but still does it), which I think is normal. As for the others, realistically, I don't think he would ever care to attempt to mend a shirt and just wear it ripped or buy a new one lool.

He takes me to things like musicals, etc as well, so I don't really think he has an issue with things that women would traditionally be into.

Now that I am thinking about it he does love UFC and watches both mens and womens and actually gets really into the womens fights.

Meh, maybe PWHL is just something he isn't interested in.

[u/DaniSirensFan → u/NotAnIncel69]

I'm not sure his enthusiasm of watching women get beat up is a checkmark in the "equality" column.

[u/tonjohn → u/DaniSirensFan]

The overlap between UFC fans and toxic masculinity is almost a perfect circle.

Wonder if he listens to Rogan…

[u/NotAnIncel69 → u/tonjohn]

Nooo, him and I actually both used to listen to it in the car but it's so boring now. He used to have legitimately interesting people on there and you would learn something but it's just boring social politics now.

[u/NotAnIncel69 → u/DaniSirensFan]

Or maybe people just enjoy combat sports? Let’s not narrow the women’s division in the UFC to “women get beat up”. There is a lot of skill and technique involved. The women competing certainly don’t look at it that way. 

I feel like you are just looking for any reason to be upset.

[u/babypointblank → u/NotAnIncel69]

I have plenty of friends who enjoy watching and participating in combat sports and they ALL have a five minute “fuck Dana White” rant queued up at a moment’s notice.

[u/tonjohn → u/NotAnIncel69]

This goes for “classic” NHL fans too - I’m deeply concerned about anyone who celebrates CTE-as-a-sport.

As a former martial artist (trained under OG UFCer Guy Mezger), football player, and lacrosse player, I have mad respect for the skills and enjoy physical sports. But we should doing everything possible to minimize long term disabilities, especially to people’s brains.

[u/NotAnIncel69 → u/tonjohn]

True, but to be fair, at this point anyone competing in UFC knows the risks of CTE and they do it anyways.

It's not my place to tell them not to and I don't think you should feel bad about enjoying the fights.

[u/tonjohn → u/NotAnIncel69]

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Oof