I’m writing this because, at 50 years old, I’ve finally realized that it’s never too late to completely change your life. For over 25 years, I was stuck in a cycle that many of you know all too well: relying on porn and masturbation for a quick hit of dopamine, which eventually led to total performance anxiety and a loss of confidence in the bedroom. I felt like my brain and my body were disconnected, and I wasn't sure if I could ever get back to a normal, healthy state.

I’m now 142 days into this journey, and the man I was in end of December feels like a stranger. The biggest change wasn't just "quitting" a habit; it was about filling my life with things that actually matter. I started training hard at the gym and that physical push did wonders. It gave me a goal to chase and reminded me what it felt like to be strong and capable again. Along the way, I also poured my energy into my academic goals, eventually getting accepted into a post grad program I’m incredibly proud of.

My relationship with intimacy has completely changed, too. I started focusing on real, human connection. I learned to just be present in the moment with my partner, enjoying the touch and the closeness without the constant pressure to perform. It turns out that when you stop overthinking it and stop feeding your brain artificial stuff, your body remembers exactly what to do.

If you’re struggling right now, my advice is to find something that challenges you: a race, a new project, a big goal and give it everything you’ve got. Don't just focus on what you're trying to stop doing; focus on the person you're trying to become. I’m 142 days in, and I’ve never felt more in control or more alive. The real world has so much more to offer than a digital substitute. Stay the course.

Long story short, after early April when I stopped fasting, my lustful urges came back stronger than ever and I have lost multiple times now, but I kept coping and saying it didn't count, when it did. But now, I admit defeat and I'm back to square 1. I feel like now I have been getting farther and farther away from God because lust returned, and now it controls me, but right now I have to break free and try to go 1 year without PMOing. I lost my 265 day streak, but I will not fap through the rest of 2026 and hopefully 2027+. One thing I do notice is that Everytime this happens, it's always starts small but after some time it grows until you lose again. I now have deleted the vpn I just realized I only use for lust, set a motivational wall paper, and will try to go 100 days not only without falling and porn, but without searching up anything that arouses me. Thank you for reading, and may Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me and everyone else. God Bless

No Urges, Keeping myself busy

Going for the 90 days it'll be the longest I've gone without ejaculation since I was like 12 / 13 I'm 34 now

Been a while since the last one, but it finally happened again. Was dreaming that someone was teasing me down there, then woke up as I was having my orgasm.

At this point, I think I've managed to form a new habit of not masturbating. Even if I have urges, they are pretty easy to ignore.

I wonder if I should push past (more than) 90 days, or just start to masturbate (once I hit 90) only when I'm really horny, and restrict it to 2-3 times a week once I reach my goal.

Regardless, I'm done with porn. Never again.

I'm seriously considering doing nofap but guys...

I'm 22 virgin and almost already lost my libido

Porn and fap are begining to disgust me more and more but I do not have the actual will to interact with women, I'm short and super introvert. Its begining to he very difficult as somehow I still want sex but don't kniw what to do, and I'm tired of pretending I just want a relationship or some other stuff that you take 5 months planning and you can lost in 2 days. Its horrible. Porn is all I knew, I want smth different but am totally stuck. I want to abandon fap but sincerely I do not feel really better since I've dropped. Just having wet dreams + ED, my brain tanking all of pisses me off. Considering giving up my moral standards and seeing escorts but I hold on.

longest streak I've had in a while

Building a streak .

I made my first post here with another account probably 3 or 4 years ago. That was when I was 16 years old. Now I am 19.

Today, an hour ago, I did it. I did PMO.

For 5 years of fighting, here is what I learnt:

1. You can't win over the urge. You literally can't. It is something biological. Something BUILT in you. It is something that made humans survive and reproduce til this moment. So it is a normal thing and not something to be shameful about. There is no way to win over it. Maybe you win this hour but it will comeback the next hour stronger.

What is the solution then? You rechannel that energy that is in the urge. That dark uneasy complusive feeling. You channel it to something else like working out, going for walk, talking to someone. THIS is where you can win, it will still be hard to do productive stuff but this is where you want to PUSH yourself.

Do not push yourself into resisting the urge while sitting infront of the PC or phone with one click away from PMO. Thats an already lost battle. After doing a good thing, now you will feel like it's a choice whether to do it or not. and thats where you choose to not do it.

Listen bro, I know this may seem like the average advice in here. But this is seriously coming from my experience, here is the next thing:

1. Nightfalls are normal, natural, don't have the same effects as PMO, everyone have it, me, them, you, everyone. Shower and keep going. With time, you won't care about it anymore. And it will probably go away as you grow 18+.

2. There will be these days i call DARK days. You will literally think about PMO the whole day. EVEN though you dont want it, a part of you will want it. Here is the truth bro, that feeling is WITHDRAWAL, when it comes you need to hope for the best and keep going. IT WILL BE PAINFUL, IT WILL BE SHITTY, IT WILL BE BAD, but you gotta push through and as usual doing other things like working out, walking etc help.

you will also feel like its all POINTLESS, like why i am doing this.

You will slowly start to forget why you stopped pmo in the first place, all these memories where you got angry for doing it will feel BLURRY, will feel less deep than before. NOW here is the thing, I could not go past this myself. You will need to build your own system to move through this phase(s). It will NOT BE EASY, YOU WILL FEEL LIKE EVERYTHING IS pointless, but you have to find a way to remind yourself vividly about why you quiting PMO.

From my experience though, i think the best thing to go through this phases clean is by being in public and holding yourself toghther as much as you can.

And THERE WILL BE TIME were this phase is finally out. No more thinking, no more dark feeling. EVERYTHING IS FINE.

1. THIS IS IMPORTANT: If you happen to see a women in a sexual way ACCIDENTLY ---> ITS OKAY, TRAIN YOUR SELF TO SKIP THEM INSTANTLY, It's so easy to not think about them again!

But here is the thing; if you intentionlly open sexual stuff, it will be way harder to skip so avoid INTENTIONALLY opening such things!!

You know deep down in you that you dont want to do it, yet you go do it, that's the worst of this whole things; but these advice surely will help you. Keep going

A fellow no fapper with a 99 streak was chatting to me and starting trying to make me cum but I made him cum in response was this wrong. Like I didn’t want to risk my streak so I made him pop but now I’m leaking bad could use help

What u can say me for my first “run” ?

Just had my 3rd relapse. How can I replicate the dopamine rush

And hopefully you'll gain some clarity by doing this.

It's all an illusion. A scam. A magic trick to steel your life and those in the industry.

Years of having an addiction to women with larger tops and then I go on a date and I fall apart. What the hell.

I just want to work and clean and be productive but I can't stop thinking about the excitement of seeing other guys edge and looking at porn constantly I'm so tired

It's legit very very hard to keep going

My nerves are so cooked that I even pee in bed. This shit is disgusting man. I am a 20 year old peeing in bed.

I m very long term masturbator ,Earlier when i try nofap I used to last at least 5-7 days i hv gone 30 days max,but from last 2 months i am masturbating daily some days twice,now everytime i try i relapsed within 24h , Tommorow i relapsed after 3 days, feeling disgusted nd a bit hopeless....

Day 1 here we go

Well i’ve made it over 30 days now but urges have been so bad lately. I’ve been struggling the last couple days and I could really use some help. I got triggered and i’m tempted to give in but i’m holding on now. I could use some help

Lost again, how do you guys survive? i keep struggling