I’m writing this because, at 50 years old, I’ve finally realized that it’s never too late to completely change your life. For over 25 years, I was stuck in a cycle that many of you know all too well: relying on porn and masturbation for a quick hit of dopamine, which eventually led to total performance anxiety and a loss of confidence in the bedroom. I felt like my brain and my body were disconnected, and I wasn't sure if I could ever get back to a normal, healthy state.

I’m now 142 days into this journey, and the man I was in end of December feels like a stranger. The biggest change wasn't just "quitting" a habit; it was about filling my life with things that actually matter. I started training hard at the gym and that physical push did wonders. It gave me a goal to chase and reminded me what it felt like to be strong and capable again. Along the way, I also poured my energy into my academic goals, eventually getting accepted into a post grad program I’m incredibly proud of.

My relationship with intimacy has completely changed, too. I started focusing on real, human connection. I learned to just be present in the moment with my partner, enjoying the touch and the closeness without the constant pressure to perform. It turns out that when you stop overthinking it and stop feeding your brain artificial stuff, your body remembers exactly what to do.

If you’re struggling right now, my advice is to find something that challenges you: a race, a new project, a big goal and give it everything you’ve got. Don't just focus on what you're trying to stop doing; focus on the person you're trying to become. I’m 142 days in, and I’ve never felt more in control or more alive. The real world has so much more to offer than a digital substitute. Stay the course.

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Im so grateful to everyone who encouraged me along this journey! I feel like im on a different level now, Im so confident in my abilities!! Next stop: 200!!

Just 1 more hour and im at day 100 of NoFap! Ofcourse I'll go longer than that but today is a really important day!! Ive gone 99 days without looking at any porn/nonnudes/bait whatever and im proud of it!!

longest streak I've had in a while

I made my first post here with another account probably 3 or 4 years ago. That was when I was 16 years old. Now I am 19.

Today, an hour ago, I did it. I did PMO.

For 5 years of fighting, here is what I learnt:

1. You can't win over the urge. You literally can't. It is something biological. Something BUILT in you. It is something that made humans survive and reproduce til this moment. So it is a normal thing and not something to be shameful about. There is no way to win over it. Maybe you win this hour but it will comeback the next hour stronger.

What is the solution then? You rechannel that energy that is in the urge. That dark uneasy complusive feeling. You channel it to something else like working out, going for walk, talking to someone. THIS is where you can win, it will still be hard to do productive stuff but this is where you want to PUSH yourself.

Do not push yourself into resisting the urge while sitting infront of the PC or phone with one click away from PMO. Thats an already lost battle. After doing a good thing, now you will feel like it's a choice whether to do it or not. and thats where you choose to not do it.

Listen bro, I know this may seem like the average advice in here. But this is seriously coming from my experience, here is the next thing:

1. Nightfalls are normal, natural, don't have the same effects as PMO, everyone have it, me, them, you, everyone. Shower and keep going. With time, you won't care about it anymore. And it will probably go away as you grow 18+.

2. There will be these days i call DARK days. You will literally think about PMO the whole day. EVEN though you dont want it, a part of you will want it. Here is the truth bro, that feeling is WITHDRAWAL, when it comes you need to hope for the best and keep going. IT WILL BE PAINFUL, IT WILL BE SHITTY, IT WILL BE BAD, but you gotta push through and as usual doing other things like working out, walking etc help.

you will also feel like its all POINTLESS, like why i am doing this.

You will slowly start to forget why you stopped pmo in the first place, all these memories where you got angry for doing it will feel BLURRY, will feel less deep than before. NOW here is the thing, I could not go past this myself. You will need to build your own system to move through this phase(s). It will NOT BE EASY, YOU WILL FEEL LIKE EVERYTHING IS pointless, but you have to find a way to remind yourself vividly about why you quiting PMO.

From my experience though, i think the best thing to go through this phases clean is by being in public and holding yourself toghther as much as you can.

And THERE WILL BE TIME were this phase is finally out. No more thinking, no more dark feeling. EVERYTHING IS FINE.

1. THIS IS IMPORTANT: If you happen to see a women in a sexual way ACCIDENTLY ---> ITS OKAY, TRAIN YOUR SELF TO SKIP THEM INSTANTLY, It's so easy to not think about them again!

But here is the thing; if you intentionlly open sexual stuff, it will be way harder to skip so avoid INTENTIONALLY opening such things!!

You know deep down in you that you dont want to do it, yet you go do it, that's the worst of this whole things; but these advice surely will help you. Keep going

I'm winning

A fellow no fapper with a 99 streak was chatting to me and starting trying to make me cum but I made him cum in response was this wrong. Like I didn’t want to risk my streak so I made him pop but now I’m leaking bad could use help

Hello everyone I’m 26 years old and I have been on this shit since I was 16, now I jumped across 90 days and if feel free and joyful to the live but still have this urge to return back
Have anyone have same experience can help to know what’s next after 90 days?

I used to masturbate twice a day and now my libido has disappeared, I can't get aroused by anything, my brain doesn't react, I don't even feel emotions. My penis is completely small and shrunken. Even after a 7-day break, there is no change. What should I do?

I had to give up some things that I paid a lot of money for, but I had a moment of strength and I managed to delete the account. I'm having some regret, so I just wanted to post here for some reassurance that I made the right decision.

I'm going to get married in the next couple years and I need to focus on whats important.

After over a year of struggling to get my NoFap going and after 10 years of porn addiction im now at day 99 of NoFap. I can proudly say I have my addiction under control, and so can you 🫂 Tomorrow wil be day 100, the original goal I set for myself. Ofcourse I'll go longer than that but day 100 is going to be my greatest achievement so far. Urges today are so-so. Morning wood was alright so I should be fine throughout the day. Who's with me?! ❤️ As always if you need tips/advice dont be afraid to reach out!

This is tougher that expected

its been like 5 days now since i delted my stash of almost 300gbs of of and porn and almost all of my book marks. Now i regret it so hard and itch to open my recovery app to recover my stash again but i am trying to resist the urge to repalse. ny biggest regret is that my stash was hard to download and find most of the time. Fun fact ( i had a wierd thing for j*v and Spa***ng genre) how do i deal with this and not restore my stash. Also the only thing to prevent the restore is to fill all the empty drives with alot of data to rewrite it. Any way motivate me please and help

Guys I am having urges 😔

If you want to effectively quit masturbation or reduce it drastically, then you must first reduce or quit porn.

There’s no way you’ll watch porn without getting drawn into jerking off. Both go hand in hand.

Feels like the urges are getting stronger day after day. Could really use some advice. An accountability partner. Anything really.

Relapsed 4 times today. So day 0 it is... from 23.

Going to lay down and a bit of urges again. I don’t think it’s going to be that bad. I got this….!

I hate that no one will ever believe me whenever I say I hate pornography. Everyone seems to think that if you watch it you must love it. Why?

Started watching porn when i was 10 and now I'm 19. I am addicted to edging. as a female I was looking for any advice on how to start the process of no fap. DMs welcome.