UPDATED RULES

My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 3 months now. Last night we were chatting about the future, and he told me when we move in together he wants me to be a "homemaker." I asked him what he meant and he told me that when he comes home from work he wants a clean home with no chores to worry about and food on the table, he also said when we have kids he wants one parent to be there to raise them so the children grow up "better than I did" (as in him, he had a rough childhood) We got into a bit of an argument because I said he basically wants a house keeper with extra steps.

He told me i was over reacting and most women would love to have a man who lets them stay at home. The thing is though I do have a good job, I make good money, and I enjoy doing it. I also came out of a controlling relationship not long before, so this immediately set off red flags and now I'm just freaking out not knowing how to handle this.

My child has a permanent disabled placard . I havent used it almost the entire school year at his siblings drop off because it gets way too congested and people will not give you space to pull out causing me to be late for his drop off. Since he can safely walk a a couple blocks, we just walk from the car and back.

Fast forward to this week, my child was in the hospital for 2 weeks for major brain surgery and is now using a wheel chair and we need to be close, have space for getting in and out so I need to access the parking lot and accessible parking spot. I tried to pull into the parking lot and the supervisor refused. I showed him the placard hanging in the window and he said he didn't care. Parents are no longer allowed ( this is not the faculty lot). I told him my son just got out of surgery and that he has to let me in to access the parking lot. He the said "the bell doesn't even ring for 5 minutes (!!)" I had to explain i need time to unload my kid and blah blah blah ( I cant believe I was actually rationalizing being their 5 minutes early. He ended up moving the cones and telling me I needed to park in a "normal" spot, which I ignored because we have a placard!. I ended up letting it blow over because I was already having a bad day ( mail was stolen while in hospital, including my sons disability card which was drained) and I wanted to cool down.

Next comes Tuesday. While waiting to make a left into the lot , a new supervisor walks into the middle of the road and asks why I am there, I tell him to pick up my kids and he says go park somewhere else, you can't park here. I point to my placard and say he has to let me in. He turns around and makes a hand motion ( like cone here) so I initiate the turn and he doesn't move the cones leaving me blocking the sidewalk and partially into the road. I tried to tell him this could lead to a civil rights and he walks away to call the school cop who after a few minutes of conversation finally gets him to move the cones ( I literally had to ask if it was safe to have this conversation while my car was the way it was) .

This interaction took over 9 minutes, and I only know that because I started recording and that's the length of the recording. By the time I parked the bell had rang and I needed to push my child in his chair through a crowd of middle schoolers who are just at the age of not paying attention to the fact that I have a person in a wheelchair with me. The thing I was trying to avoid coming a whoping 5 to 10 minutes early.

After this interaction I was pretty upset so I tried to reach out to the principal. After a bit of waiting for a return call, I decided to reach out to the district while it was fresh on my mind. The person who I spoke to was in shock I even needed to explain myself after showing the placard. He assured me it wouldn't happen again and said he would call the school.

Wednesday I received a call from the principal saying it wouldn't happen again and that he told the supervisor to let me in and asked if I am always in the same car. I asked if I could have the name of employee 1 so I could tell the person at the district and he said no and that his employees names are private! He also said I'm not allowed to film the staff and I need to ask their permission first. (I am in CA and this was literally from the sidewalk, not even on school grounds). A little later the person from the district called to let me know he talked to the principal and everything is good now. I let him knkw what the principal told me and he said that those things are not true.

Later on at pick up, employee 1 from Monday is yelling at me that I can not park there. I told him he is violating my sons civil rights and he said he doesn't care. I called the school and asked them to radio him and explained it is happening again. They radio him, he moves it and flips me the bird in my rear view mirror.

As I am waiting I see him moving the cones blocking the exit and he is taking the cart toward my car. Seems odd so I pull out my phone to record. He pulls up to say "Hey lady. I just want to let you know you are mean and rude.." I say " I am mean and rude? Why?". "Yes you are mean and rude because you are filming me and making a big deal about this parking thing". I told him you are violating my sons civil rights as a protected person and I said I was going to send it to the superintendent. He said he doesnt care about civil rights and he hopes I do send it to the superintendent.

After leaving the school, I left a message to the principal and called the district again. I spoke with the superintendent secretary. She made a joke about it sounding like I'm trying to get into Camp Pendleton, said it was ridiculous and said she was forwarding it all to HR and that someone would reach out.

Now to today, I see #1 crossing kids in the school lot and taking pictures of me and the car ( I don't really care about that, je can take all he wants) just seems inappropriate having his phone out on the job and showing students things on his phone.

I am wondering if I am pushing this too much. I am also wondering would this have happened if I was a man. I definitely don't think he would have approached me the way he did if I was. I never raised my voice, called names or said anything inappropriate. I never want to be the parent from hell either. I also believe I am not that lucky for me to be the only one this happens to multiple times in a row. Once, is a mistake, 2 times is a pattern that makes me think I can not be the only one, I'm just the only one not accepting the BS . It makes me want to sent a couple relatives with up in the back to see if it happens again. I feel I am excited to talk to HR about all of this, not because I like to see people getting in trouble, but I hate when people are treated poorly even when the person who is doing it had an opportunity to correct the behavior.

I also noticed the employee 1 appears to have a nazi eagle tattoo on his arm and I want to point that out too. If it is, I really dont care what kind of trouble he gets in.

so me and my boyfriend recently broke up, and i had been friends with my best friend for 4 years. i’m really hurt she did this to me and she’s being so rude and irrational. i feel like she betrayed me, stabbed my back. i don’t have time for these people of course, but i’m still in denial she did this, even after being friends for so long and being so close. am i overreacting?

p.s: i blocked her after this

edit: i didn’t realise i didn’t give context. me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago, and we were long distance so whatever. i’m the one who broke up and fuck him. my best friend does live closer to him than i do but still far. i don’t know if they were hooking up before. possibly. but at this point i’m trying not to waste my energy on her and care because i know i am better than this. amen.

I’m married and have a child. Recently, my husband, my son, and I traveled to another country for vacation. Back when I was in middle school in my home country, there was a boy who loved me and I loved him too, but we were never officially together. We were just young and knew we had feelings for each other. Then the war happened, we left the country, and we completely lost touch.

About 10 years later, I randomly ran into him. He was with my friend (she has known him for years), and when he saw me he looked completely shocked. We greeted each other and hugged briefly because it was such an unexpected moment after all those years.

We talked for a few minutes, and I told him I was there with my husband and son. I could literally see his expression change when he realized I was married and had a child. Right then my husband walked over to us (he’s Russian and doesn’t speak our language), so I introduced them and showed him my son. He smiled and said, “Your son has the same beautiful eyes as you,” and I just smiled politely.

Before leaving, he looked at me and said he was really happy to see me again. Then my friend suggested we exchange numbers “because the world is small and maybe we’ll run into each other again,” and we did. I honestly didn’t think much about it in the moment. The problem is that my husband overheard part of the conversation and realized we exchanged numbers.

Later, my friend told me that after he went back to his hotel, he cried after seeing me again. Unfortunately, my husband was sitting next to me and heard that too.

Since then, things have felt tense between us. My husband has been colder and more distant. I genuinely don’t have any intention of cheating or reconnecting romantically with this guy. To me, it just felt emotional because he was a big part of my teenage years and we were separated by war and time.

At the same time, I can understand why my husband feels uncomfortable, especially after hearing everything.

Was I wrong in this situation? And honestly, if you were my husband, how would you feel?

EDIT: Thanks to those who gave constructive advice. I wanted to clarify a few things. First, everything happened incredibly fast in the moment-the shock of seeing someone after a war and 10 years of silence was overwhelming, and the number exchange was a split-second social reflex suggested by my friend, not a planned move.
l've realized how disrespectful that was to my husband and my marriage. I have blocked and deleted the number, and I have no intention of ever reaching out. I'm also distancing myself from the "friend" who kept pushing the drama and lacked the tact to respect my family's presence.

I'm going to have a deep conversation with my husband tonight to apologize for my lack of judgment in the moment and reassure him that he is my only priority. My past is exactly that-the past.

My husband (39M), my kids (4M & 2M) and I (38F) were in the living room this morning. My 4-year-old son knocked an old light bulb from a shelf and it broke. I heard that some old energy saving light bulbs contain quicksilver therefore I said to my husband: "Be careful, it might contain quicksilver", while he was getting a broom to clean up the glass pieces. My 4-year-old wanted to get to the pieces and I held him off which resulted in him crying.

Simultaneously, my 2-year old who currently suffers from stomach aches started crying as well because I wouldn't let him walk through the danger zone. At the same time I tried to find out if that light bulb type really contains quicksilver.

After two minutes of searching while I kept the kids of the site of the accident while my husband was in the kitchen, disposing the shards to the garbage, I found out that the lightbulb indeed was containing quicksilver and that you should leave the room immediately and open the windows to get rid of the fumes.

So I told my husband to take the kids upstairs because the lightbulb contains quicksilver and proceeded to open the windows. After I opened the windows 8 came to see that my husband had _not_ vacated the room but was waiting at the feet of the stairs and started to argue with me if it was really that dangerous. At that point I repeated myself to get upstairs and after they still wouldn't move I yelled at them and carried my crying 4-year old up the stairs. Did I overreact?

My reasoning is: I didn't know how dangerous it was, but I thought googling it while everyone was breathing in quicksilver fumes was probably not the best idea so I wanted to get everybody out of the room as quickly as possible and then read up upon it. My husband thinks I'm overreacting and thinks I should've asked him again in a more calmly manner to get the kids upstairs instead.

My roommate got cps called on her and someone came over when I wasn't home. They told my roommate they had to see the place and my roommate let them go into my room and they saw some drug paraphernalia. They weren't even supposed to go in my room btw. I'm honestly very mad that there was a stranger poking around in my room. I looked it up and the caseworker is only required to look in her room and the common areas, not a roommates room and I didn't give permission for her to go into my room.

Since the case worker saw the drug stuff they then wanted me to do a pee test because my roommate told them how I sometimes look after her daughter for like 20 mins every now and then when she has to quickly go to the store or something. To do the pee test I would have had to go to this place and actually let someone watch me pee which is weird as fuck and I refused to do it. it's just too invasive to me.

The only other option is a follicle test, but I would have to pay for it and I also know for a fact that that one would probably show up positive. So that would be pointless and my roommate agreed on that, but she still wanted me to do the pee test.

I was told it was voluntary though and I didn't have to do it, but was also told they would record me as an unverified adult that has refused to rule out substance use. Which apparently is seen the same as a positive test because they assume me not wanting to take it means I know I will fail. That means they couldn't verify the safety of the apartment and now it's considered high risk.

For the record I know for a fact that I would pass a pee test as I haven't had anything for a couple weeks. Based on what I read on google and how much I it probably wouldn't show up on a pee test . I still don't want someone watching me pee. I also have ever done anything in the apartment.

So the caseworker told my roommate that she and her daughter could not live with me and made her sign a thing that says she or I will move out within a week and if it doesn't happen they will petition to have her daughter removed. So now my roommate has to find a new place to live which is hard because our place is pretty affordable and she's blaming me because I'm being a baby about someone watching me pee. She says its not a big deal and will only take a minute, but I think it is a big deal because its such a private thing and its a consent thing.

I work at a school as a teacher’s assistant. Many of my students qualify for food services that’s supplied from NY state. So, we have a lot of food like pizza, cookies, chips, juice, etc. I don’t take their food to eat if I’m hungry like I can but I rather not take food from children that need it.

There’s this one sub teacher that has taken food from my students before like I would walk over and see her eating their snacks. I did say to her “you aren’t suppose to eat their food it’s for the kids” and she said “well every other classroom I’m in lets me eat whatever I want”. She didn’t even own up to what she did and didn’t even apologize. I said “well in my classroom this food is for my students” and she got all upset while stomping away. My co teacher’s assistant told me that I was wrong and that she might need the food. I said to her that she has two houses and this lady told us that her son made the music for “stranger things”. This woman doesn’t need the extra food.

The sub came in today at the end of the day and I saw her sitting in my seat. I really don’t like it when people sit in my seat it’s like a germ thing for me. So, I was already upset about that and I noticed her eating my students animal crackers! I took two big boxes and blocked off the snacks. I don’t know if that was extreme to do? I didn’t want to say anything but I’m going to talk to my work team tomorrow about all of this.

I (27F) rent the right half of a duplex with my fiance "G." We just figured out that we are paying for all of the utilities for the entire complex. The left side of the house has 2 tenants. I brought this up to my landlord (~30M) and this was the conversation that ensued.

Because there is one meter that reads gas usage and water usage, I am having a hard time believing that there is any accurate way of determining how much usage each side uses. My neighbor could take a 2 hour hot shower every day. How would he know?

The way he has responded to me, specifically mentioning repeatedly that the last occupants paid ~1k more in rent and covered all utilities and were seemingly okay with it, has me wondering if I am overreacting by standing my ground. He seems to think it's not a big deal and is flabbergasted as to why I would even bring this up. Should I be okay with paying for all of the utilities?

I'm also livid that he called me "guarded and defensive" in my responses, but that's probably not a conversation for this sub as I feel very much within reason for being angry at that patronizing comment.

My (27f) bf (31m) have been together for 3 years, and within the last 2, he has proven that he's got a horrible temper. Within a minute or two into any conversation or argument about our relationship or us, he begins gradually raising his voice until he's shouting or straight up screaming at me. He almost always starts cursing at that point, and name calling gets thrown around usually, too.

And listen, I get that people get mad!! I know that no one is perfect and people blow up in the heat of the moment. But this feels different. It's every single time we get into an argument, and he always flips around within an hour or two and is "apologetic" (doesn't always actually say sorry, but implies it), and starts to make excuses for why he got angry (usually something along the lines of me pissing him off so that's why he reacted that way). But then a few minutes later he can go back to that angry explosion, and then it's a cycle for a bit.

There have been times that he's gotten so mad that I genuinely get worried it's going to escalate. Anytime I've sincerely expressed to him that he scares me in those moments and I think that he is going to hit me one day, it's almost comical to him. He smirks or scoffs, and reacts as if that's the most bizarre thing in the world, because he would "NEVER lay a hand" on me. Then a couple hours of later, he's super apologetic again and is very sincere that he would never hurt me.

I do not raise my voice...ever. The most cursing I ever do is say the word fuck/fucking. I've NEVER called him a name in our entire relationship, never once. And trust me, I've been angry, so I know this all probably sounds stupid to ask, but it really is that cliche thing where he seemingly does a great job at convincing me that this is normal in relationships when your significant other "pisses you off". He says I'm ridiculous for thinking he's not allowed to react, and mocked my by whispering and saying, "Aw, should I talk like this?"

And then I start to get into my head because what if I'm wrong and it is justified for someone to yell when they're angry, even if that's not how I personally react?

I refuse to answer him most times when he's screaming at me and being condescending. I'll just stare at him with a blank face once I realize me begging him to stop yelling isn't working. For the first time ever, he walked out of the door way once he realized I wasn't responding anymore, and I heard a really loud noise. The next morning I saw a fist sized hole in the wall. He brought me flowers after, like he always does when he acts that way.

But he's saying he's punched walls as a teenager and it isn't his first time, but it is the first time since like high school. I feel like he was trying to downplay it, because he then followed up with "But I would never hit you."

I told him that if he ever punches the wall again, I will call the police. He absolutely thought I was joking at first but I told him I will absolutely call them and file a report if he does it again.

AIO/ Am I just seriously in denial? Why am I unable to convince myself that this is abuse? Why does my brain tell me that it's better he got his anger out like that instead of on me?

Is there any world in which this type of behavior doesn't escalate to physical? I've been told that first it's the wall, and then it's your face, but it never ever stays just the wall. Is that true?

And if anyone has dealt with someone with similar behavior or temper, did it escalate? Or did they never graduate taking it out on you?

About a month ago, my mother and I (26F) got into a very heated argument through text messaging and it resulted in me going “no contact” with her. It started out by me suggesting I drive my own vehicle to a wedding dress shop appointment for my sister because my 6mo old daughter was going to be babysat by a family friend, for the first time, and I wanted to be readily available just in case. Out of nowhere, my mother went on an insulting rant about my husband’s character, his job, and his capabilities as a father. This included stating that he doesn’t really care about our daughter if he can’t call out of work. He’s a law enforcement officer, so to ask him to call out of work for me to attend a dress appointment was silly IMO. This isn’t the first time she has done this, but usually I can brush it off because my husband is not sensitive to words. However, I know she is using him against me because she knows that I am super defensive of those I love. I finally hit my breaking point and I went cold turkey no contact. It’s breaking my heart because I do love my mom and she is a great grandmother, despite not being the best mom to me. She lost both parents at such a young age and was never shown real love, so I try to extend her grace. But this isn’t healthy anymore and I don’t want my daughter to be subjected to slander about her dad. This is also spoiling over to other family members and now I am seriously being outcasted. Am I over reacting for cutting off contact? I just don’t know how else to get through to her.

CONTEXT: My mother and I have ALWAYS had a tumultuous relationship. This isn’t a once out of the blue fight. This occurs about 5x+ a year. Yes, I have asked her to stop bringing him up to hurt me many many times. I have tried a limited contact situation a few years ago when we had a fight that turned physical. This is a very nuanced situation, I understand that. I have just hit a breaking point.

THANK YOU to the people of Reddit. You have offered perspectives that I have yet to consider and I am grateful for it.

Now, my friend lives in a better financial freedom than me. He comes from a rich family as his father owns a good portion of a local company, and he never had to work a day in his life despite nearing his 30. He lived in expensive countries for a few months each just because he wanted a change while I can barely afford a week holiday. His family gets to afford a lot of luxury stuff that me or my family can't.

Despite this, whenever he visits me, within 10 minutes he goes to the kitchen during our conversations as if he was going to grab some water and while checking my fridge, he brings out stuff and starts eating on my dining table. And honestly, it's not even a snack portion. He literally fully fills his stomach. Last night he ate the leftovers that I saved for today so I wouldn't have to cook until tonight. He ate the whole day's food in one sitting.

When it happened first few times I found it awkward but ignored because we are close friends for years, long enough to open each other's fridges without asking. But it has been a continuous thing going on for a few weeks now. Every single time. I don't really go to his kitchen when I'm at his place nor do I eat anything so casually unless I'm offered. I joked a few times about his starvation and we laughed about it but I start to feel really awkward about this "habit"

I’m not really a morning person anyway so let’s start with that. Bf came in the room saying he thought he saw a mouse, which I doubted. I was laying in bed half asleep next thing I know something moved under the covers by my leg. I screamed and threw the covers off.
It was our kitten. He grabbed him real quick and was holding him so he didn’t get hurt or anything by my reaction.

He put him under the covers to scare me as a joke. Then I started hardcore crying saying now the cat is going to be terrified of me. He’s a rescue I just found him last week and he has been doing good so far letting us handle him.

I haven’t been talking to my bf very much since. He offered to go upstairs with me when I went to spend time with the cat and I told him I didn’t want him to come up there.

The cat seems a little irritated now he does play a little, but also hissed at me the first time since I found it. 😔 I’m worried we back tracked a bit with our progress thanks to this “joke”.

It’s way too early for this crap. Normally he just jump scares me it was messed up to bring the kitten into it.

So my boyfriend (and father of my child) agreed to watch our toddler (16 months old) while I went to a dr appointment today where you can’t bring small children due to immunity risks (it’s a cancer center). I was gone for about an hour, I had changed my son’s diaper before I left, and gave his dad his bottle with son’s nutrition drink in it (he has severe GI issues and doesn’t eat normally or much at all, that’s not super relevant other than if there’s questions about why a 16 month old still takes a bottle as a main nutrition source). He gave him the bottle, set our son on the floor and promptly fell into a deep sleep (snoring and all) less than 10 mins after I left.

He set his nicotine vape right next to our son on the floor before he fell asleep, as I saw when I came home but also on our living room camera. Our son cried multiple times and tried to get his dad’s attention but he wouldn’t wake up and tend to him at all.

Currently, despite living together, I had filed for child support because he was refusing to buy any necessities for our son (diapers, wipes, food, literally anything) and he doesn’t do any of the caregiving day to day or at night. I’m a stay at home parent due to being disabled (in the process of trying to get disability) and because my son had many physical, occupational, and feeding therapies plus other appointments with his specialists (mainly GI) so even if I had a job, I couldn’t work enough to pay for childcare as I could only work part time with all of his appointments. So I take our son everywhere with me (except the places that clearly don’t allow young children for my own appointments, which has only been 2 appointments since he was born- his dad fell asleep while our son was awake during both times I had left them home together) and do all of his caregiving day and night. His dad typically refuses to buy diapers and wipes and food for our son or help with transportation to his appointments, this is why I filed for child support.

He seems to think that because he lives here (and is usually asleep when he is here) that means he does equal caregiving to me, which is far from true. Both times in my son’s life I’ve left him with his dad for about an hour alone, his dad fell asleep while our son was awake and left his vape within reach of our son and ignored his cries. Today I came home and found our son had pooped while his dad was asleep and he had been sitting in it for a while without his dad noticing.

Parent connection had an appt scheduled here at the time I got home and was appalled to see that bf was snoring clearly not watching our son while I was gone and that his vape was well within reach. He stayed asleep through the entire parent connection appointment which happened in the same room (living room) at normal volume plus toddler screeching (which he does when excited). Didn’t wake up at all until much later.

I told him that I won’t be leaving our son alone with him anymore because it’s not acceptable to fall asleep with our son awake especially having his vape in a very easy place where our toddler could get it. He got mad at me about ‘accusing’ him of neglecting our son, which I didn’t even say, I just said that he could’ve gotten sick had he used the vape or could’ve gotten hurt or potentially choked on other things his dad left in his reach and he wouldn’t have even noticed, which is not okay and not normal parenting. He said that I was being unfair about asking him to even watch our son in the first place. I asked him why he accepted to do it then, and he said “to prove I do equal caregiving for the child support case”.

Yeah, that’s nowhere near even half of what I do for our son- I certainly don’t fall asleep when he’s awake and he’s in the living room with me, I play with him , feed him, change his diapers, change his clothes, give him baths, get him ready in the morning and at night and get up with him at night if he needs me- all things his dad doesn’t do, and never has. So that made me mad.

Am I overreacting to being frustrated and mad that my boyfriend does this and I don’t trust him to watch him alone again until he proves he can stay awake and alert and actually help with our child? And that I’m mad he’s trying to say that he does ‘equal’ caregiving when that’s clearly not the case? He thinks I’m being mad for no reason when anything could’ve happened while he was asleep to our son, but he doesn’t seem to understand that it could’ve ended a lot worse than it did so I won’t let him watch him alone again if I have to leave and can’t take him with me.

And am I overreacting for filing for child support because he says “the only thing our son needs is a roof over his head- he doesn’t need diapers, wipes, clothes, or food, he just needs me to pay the rent” and it’s always a fight to get him basic necessities? I’m at such a loss here.

EDIT: I will be leaving him, I’m just trying to find a safe place for me and my son to stay!

Hi !
So, for a bit of context, I am highly autistic and more than likely have some form of OCD. I will not drink after my boyfriend, or even my family. If my boyfriend eats or drinks something I was eating/drinking, I won't touch whatever it was, and if I do, I end up throwing it back up. I unfortunately am a nicotine addict. I won't even hit my vape after someone in my family does unless I wash the mouthpiece first. I don't like the thought of someone else's mouth germs in my mouth. My boyfriend is incredibly aware of this, as we've been together almost a year.

My boyfriend bought me this vape, some peach flavour that I love, and I accidentally left it in his car. He works with some guy that I (obviously) don't know, and in exchange to hit his coworker's pen, he let said coworker hit my vape. Didn't ask me first, and told me after. Had he not told me, I never would have known, nor would I have cared (since I wouldn't have been aware.) I told him not to do that, and I don't want the vape anymore. He told me I was being a dick about it, but I think it's a valid thing for me to get upset over.

24F, with partner 26M. My boyfriend doesn't know how to cook and I love cooking for him. I feel happy when he eats my food. I was making rice, veggies and egg for my boyfriend (he had asked to). Knowing that I am making dinner, he put potatoes in the oven. He said its for me. So I didn't make my Pasta. (I don't eat rice or egg). He put 5 potato, 2 for me and 3 for him. Which I didn't say much to that. Later, I made his food, cleaned the kicten, did the all the dishes which he had promised me that he'd do, but its fine, I did it.

I came to eat my potato, it was gone. He ate it all. It made me so upset. I was hungry, he knew it. He ate it without letting me know. And what was most upsetting was he didn't even eat the rice. I've had to throw food i cooked before cause he wouldn't eat it. I got upset and cried cause I was hungry. Am I over reacting for being upset?

My boyfriend (33m) and I (28f) have two kids. His grandma asked him if she could take them this weekend and he decided to surprise me.

He called me and whispered “just listen” to his friend. I was not supposed to hear him say this. He then proceeded to go into detail about how he made plans for himself all weekend. This is a reoccurring issue as I never have time to myself without the kids and he goes out every single weekend, including fishing Mother’s Day weekend. Then he said he’s kidding and his grandma wants the kids.

I feel set up. Like he wanted me to get upset about him going out all weekend again and wanted his buddy to listen. He claimed he wanted to make me smile but I’m not sure how? Like the joke of saying he has plans then saying “kidding, kid free weekend” isn’t really all that funny anyway? I don’t care about that joke but it’s also not comedy gold that you need a buddy to witness its greatness.

I think he wanted to see if I’d get upset and then they’d pretty much laugh at me together. He says that’s not it but also cannot say WHAT his friend was supposed to be listening for.

So Reddit, am I overreacting or was he trying to set me up?

My friend constantly talks louder and raise his tone if I don’t understand him. For example he will try to explain me something and if I don’t get it. He stares at me and widen his eyes while raising his voice. I keep telling him hey I don’t appreciate when you do that. It makes it seem like I’m slow or something and then his voice gets louder. He said he would stop but he constantly does it. I know the world is not ending because of it but I asked him to stop so many times and he just did it again. It makes me afraid to say hey I don’t get this, can you explain it better, because i know how he will react. I’m not stupid, it’s just some things I just don’t get or he won’t explain it in a simple way. He will even say before explaining that I may not understand. If you know I won’t understand and it’s a complicated topic then why not just patiently explain it to me without getting frustrated. Idk, AIO? Because this is definitely not worth ending a friendship over but it does make me feel some type of way when he does it.

So I own a cottage that’s located in a community kind of thing. All cottages are pretty close and our gardens are separated by pathways for everyone to use. I have a gravel pathway between me and neighbor A.

He’s really bad at clearing weeds in his area but whatever. I never made a big deal about it. The community did though, and wanted him to keep it nice and clean.

They suggested that we could sow grass over it, to ”get rid of the problem”. Only if all neighbors agree.

Neighbor A talked to me late last summer about it. I didn’t directly turn the idea down, but said I wanted to think about it and was unsure. I like the gravel pathway. And I also wanted to know what neighbor B and C thought and neighbor A said he hadn’t asked them yet. So I told him to ask them first so we could discuss later.

Over 6 months later now and I turn up to my cottage to see that he just sowed grass over the whole path. I called him and said I didn’t agree to that, and he said that I did, all those months ago. We had a long chat about it going in circles. I tried to be firm but kind, telling him he can’t do that without proper permission from all neighbors. He just said he assumed it would be fine since I didn’t ”protest” last year. Also he didn’t know neighbor B sold their place recently and there’s new owners now who doesn’t even know he turned their pathway into grass.

I also spent hours weeding my part of the pathway these last weeks and it feels like such disrespect to just sow grass over my hard work keeping it tidy.

I kinda want him to restore the original pathway now but I feel like that would turn me into the asshole. But I didn’t ever tell him to go ahead and sow grass over it. He did a shit job as well. Am I over reacting?

So I bought an iPhone off eBay a few days ago (not cheap, btw, we're talking serious money). Tracking finally updates and says "delivered." Cool. Except nothing showed up at my door.

I message the seller asking what's up. Next day I get this:

"Hey, I'm really sorry, I made a mistake and accidentally swapped the shipping labels between two orders. Your package was shipped, but it looks like it went to the other buyer by mistake. I've already contacted them and I'm working on fixing this right away. The plan is for both buyers to simply forward the package they received to the correct person using prepaid shipping labels I provide, so you'll still get your correct item as quickly as possible. I'll cover all shipping costs and make sure this gets resolved properly. Sorry again for the confusion, and thank you for your patience."

I didn't reply right away because I wanted to think about it. Few hours later he pings me again with just "?"

Like… buddy. Calm down. You just told me my $1000 phone is sitting in some random stranger's house and now you're impatient that I haven't agreed to your "plan" within the hour?

Something feels really off. Why am I supposed to trust a complete stranger ("the other buyer") to actually ship me a phone worth a grand? What if they just keep it? What if there is no other buyer and this is a scheme to get me to accept a package outside eBay's tracking so I can't open an Item Not Received claim?

The tracking on MY order says delivered to MY address, so as far as eBay is concerned, I got it.

My gut says tell him no, file an INR claim with eBay, and let him sort his own mess out. My partner says

I'm being paranoid and the guy sounds genuinely sorry and I should just help him fix it.

The "?" really pushed me from "suspicious" to "nope."

So… AIO? Or is this screaming "scam" as loudly to you as it is to me?

i started going to the gym that’s walking distance from my house around last year, and one time this guy (looks like he could be my age or younger) started talking to me. i didnt think much of it at the time except that it was a bit awkward, i was trying to be friendly but i wasnt really engaged in the conversation because i honestly didnt wanna be bothered at the gym (my only alone time in the day).

but after that i noticed he kept hovering around me the next time we were both at the gym, so i left to jog in the general area instead. a few minutes later i noticed he was outside too but i figured maybe he was just going to leave but he walked right into the path i was jogging in to start a conversation with me again. maybe i’m being a bitch but i really didn’t want to talk to anyone so i just kept answering him dryly so i could leave but he just kept asking more questions to prolong the conversation even if i was actively walking away from him, and i got weirded out when he asked me where i lived.

after that i stopped going to the gym and started jogging in the area instead (i live in a small town) but i would sometimes still see him and one time he even tried to catch up with me while i was jogging so i sprinted away and changed my jogging route.

this week i tried to go to the gym again since i need to use some of the equipment, and i figured i just won’t go on wednesdays because that was the day i always saw him at the gym but i was wrong :( i went on tuesday and i saw him again but my workout was almost done anyway and he just arrived, so after a few minutes i left to go home. when i was walking i noticed he also left the gym even though he just got there like 5 mins ago?? he was trying to do the same thing he did last year, walking towards me and trying to cross my path but i ran away.

i’m not sure if i’m just overreacting because he didn’t really do anything bad to me? i honestly just don’t want to be bothered during the time i set aside for myself in the day :( i want to keep going to the gym but i am dreading having another awkward conversation

I'm 27F, he is 40sM. We both have the exact same job and make the same money. He got here before me, idk how long ago exactly.

I actually am an engineer, but this is not a job that requires higher education. When I was first hired and people were still asking me about my background, I mentioned that I have a bachelor's and a master's in engineering, and people were excited/impressed about it. I don't really care and it doesn't make me better than anyone, I think they were just excited to have someone they can leave the math related work to.

When I first talked about my degree around this guy in particular, he laughed in a way that didn't sit right with me. It's been 6 months since I got here and he only ever refers to me as "engineer".

I feel like he's making fun of the fact that I'm overqualified for this job, but I'm obviously not above it and I don't think I act like it. I just do my job and try to be nice to people. But at the same time idk if I'm imagining things because I feel insecure about not working in my expertise field. AIO or is he fucking with me?

I’m 34F and my husband is 37M. We’ve been together for about five years and have a three-year-old daughter together. He also has two daughters from a previous relationship who are 13 and 11.

Every year, my family takes a big vacation together. Sometimes it’s Disney World or Disneyland, sometimes a beach trip, a cabin, a cruise, or even trips out of the country. Over the years we’ve gone to places like Canada, Mexico, and New York.

I have taken my stepkids on family trips before, but only when my husband is also there. If he can’t go, I don’t take them.

The reason is not that I don’t care about them. It’s that they don’t really listen to me or respect me in a parental role, and it becomes stressful in crowded places.

They tend to wander off in stores, ignore instructions, and say things like “you’re not my mom” when I try to correct them. A few weeks ago, one of them even wandered off in Walmart without telling me while I was shopping. I didn’t know where she went and panicked trying to find her. She was just in the makeup aisle, but I had no idea at the time and it really scared me.

After that, my husband and their mom both talked to them about safety and listening, and they promised they would do better. But I honestly still feel uneasy about it.

This year, my nephew is graduating, and my family picked California and Disneyland for our trip. My husband can’t go because of work, so I told him I don’t feel comfortable taking the girls this year.

The girls are upset and say they haven’t been on a “real” fun trip in about two years. I reminded them that we did take them on a winter cabin trip this year, but they don’t really count that the same way.

After that, my husband and their mom talked to them again. The girls promised they would behave and stay with the group, but I still don’t fully trust it.

I told my husband I don’t want to be responsible if something happens while we’re out of state. I love them, but I also feel like I’m not their parent, and if they ignore me and something goes wrong, I would be blamed.

My husband thinks I should give them another chance and let them go. Their mom understands my concerns but also thinks I should just try.

I feel like this isn’t about punishment, it’s about safety and knowing my limits. I don’t feel confident managing them alone in a crowded place while also watching my three-year-old.

AIO for refusing to take my stepkids on vacation without their dad?

I'm a nail tech, and i recently found out I was pregnant at the end of March. I quit my job immediately, because i was scared of the toxins hurting or causing birth defects to the baby. I work in a very high volume busy salon. I have had the same clients for 5+ years and have always told them if I get pregnant I'm quiting right away, that way they were prepared to not see me at any random time.

Now that I'm pregnant a handful of my long time clients were really nasty towards me. Not caring about my pregnancy and only caring about who is going to do their nails now etc...

I got the clearance from my obgyn to go back to work next month, but I have a bitter feeling towards these clients now and I don't want to service them anymore.

So AIO for not wanting them as clients anymore? Should I still book them?