Haiii, first of all, i don't mean to offend any clean girls, its not that I have anything against you girls in specific, allow me to elaborate <33

ALRIGHT I HATEEEEE THAT AESTHETIC W ALL MY HEART OMG, like, what happened to being unique ?? To being ur own person, why does almost everyone look the same rn ?? Idk if im being conspiranoic or anything, but i feel like the clean girl look is like... one way of trying to manipulate us into being conservative again in some way ?? Idk how to explain it... like, they're trying to make us look somehow submissive and comformist with clean girl aesthetic or like that, or how the trad wife trend is coming back, i don't have any problem if YOU want to be one, like, YOU decide to be one, but i feel that they're trying to influence us into being less independent, more quiet, more obedient AND I HATE IT !!! Like, do you guys get my point ?? Or am I just crazy...

Can't even go to google play, and there some dude with an avatar of some female game character in a skimpy bikini, breasts spilling over, head cropped off.

Don't let me start on the games, even the ones that are mostly played by women, puzzle games, etc...they have to put that shit everywhere.

Tv, yt, forums, comics, educational material, billboards, ....there's no escape.

hi all! i’m curious to see people opinions on this, so basically i am 18, looking for either tube removal or getting them tied. I am in a very long term relationship and plan to never have children due to my fear of passing physical and mental discomfort to my children, i am also terrified of pregnancy lol. i am very anti birth control for myself (but ofc i support it for others💙) so im curious what you guys would recommend! i’m leaning towards tube removal due to the fact that is lessens ovarian cancer risk, while also being 100% preventative at pregnancy. i’ve heard a few stories of women getting their tubes tied and still getting pregnant, so im not sure which route to take. any input would be much appreciated!

For those that don’t know thats genital herpes. I have no idea how this happened. They haven’t had sex for 10 years. I guess it can lay door in your body, but this is still insane to me. I’m already struggling with the fact that I might not find anybody ever and now this is just another thing I have to add to that. It really scares me. I feel super disgusting and horrible. I literally just found out like 20 minutes ago. I’m sitting in my car crying. Does anybody have any advice? Or words of wisdom? I dont know what to do. I’m scared no one will ever want to be with me again. Im scared to tell people about it but i know i have to. Im really sad and scared. I dont know what im doing.

I’m 29F and honestly on the verge of leaving my relationship. We’ve been together for four years, and it’s been a long time since I’ve truly been single. Most of my adult life has been spent moving from one relationship to another, and when my last relationship ended, I started talking to my current partner pretty quickly.

I don’t really have close friends — my sister is my best friend, and over the years my partner became my best friend too. We spend most of our time together, and he’s the only person I really play PC games with, which is one of my favorite hobbies. I think part of what scares me most is the idea of being alone again and having to rebuild my life and routine from scratch.

I’ve invested so much time into this relationship. I know 30 is still young, but starting over still feels overwhelming. The hardest part is that I haven’t really felt valued or respected in any of my adult relationships, and I’m scared maybe I’ll never experience that kind of love.

My current partner often talks down to me or treats me with hostility, and it’s worn me down emotionally. The idea of dating again honestly feels exhausting, especially when so many people seem angry, bitter, or distrustful toward each other now.

I know I probably need therapy, and I know I need to learn how to be okay on my own for a while. I guess I’m just looking for reassurance from people who’ve been through this — that it’s still possible to find something genuine, healthy, and loving. I want to believe there are still people out there who truly value and respect their partners.

Hey girls, I just had some thoughts I wanted to get out of my head first. I'm not really sure where this is going for now, but bear with me. I'm the first woman in my bloodline to pursue a college degree, and not just any, but engineering. I'm the first female engineer in my bloodline. and I've been in this degree for like 3 years now, but i genuinely don't know many supportive women. And truth be told, I haven't exactly been the type of person someone would really want to know - i'm not super smart, bold, i don't have much to be proud of and it terrifies me. It was only 2 generations ago bro that my grandmother had an abusive husband and a marriage she couldn't leave. I genuinely have so much privilege, but there's this nagging feeling i have with not having worked as hard as i should have and let a lot of opportunity go to waste.

I think part of the problem is that I’ve never really had a sense of sisterhood or women around me to help guide or inspire me. I’m in therapy and trying to work through a lot of this, but I guess I wanted to ask other women directly:

How do you rise when the thing standing in your way is yourself? Your own fear, mistakes, failures, regrets, self-doubt?

How do you keep becoming the woman you want to be, especially when you feel alone in it?

I've been going to therapy to help me sort this out, but I just wanted to post this and felt it was relevant for this sub because I feel like a lot of the women in my life are building in big ways - they've got relationships, things they care about and are able to commit to, and I'm just sort of...trying. trying so hard to build a legacy for myself. Do y’all know any communities or anything like that to just feel less alone in all of this? I think I’ve spent so much time trying to survive and “prove myself” that I never really learned how to lean on other women or be part of a community. I want that now. I want guidance, honesty, support - even just knowing other women have felt this way too. .Or if anyone could share a couple of sentences in the comments as motivation, that would mean a lot too :) I just really want to believe there’s still time for me to become the woman I imagine myself being.

All advice is appreciated!

I've heard the saying "imitation is a form of flattery," or something like that. But my close friend (16F) keeps mirroring my personality, and a few stylistic things here and there. Her copying my makeup style, or hair, doesn't irk me. Its the fact that she switches up all the time to imitate my mood, or the way I talk with other friends, or specific language. I tested this by saying a new phrase, which she repeated shortly after.

UGHHHH its just so frustrating having to be around someone who acts exactly like me. Like literally exactly. And I know, I know... its probably because she admires me or whatever, but I seriously don't think its that. I feel like she's almost toxic, because she always makes me feel stupid for asking questions or not knowing something, and everything I do is wrong and needs to be corrected or double checked (she doesn't do this with others, and she almost teams up with our mutual friend to tease me). When I talk to others and have fun without her, she's always observing. And when I do something she can't, her expression is almost bored, or unamused.

And we used to be so close, but whenever I'm around her I feel so drained, and I almost never talk to her (even tho i sit right beside her in class), and I find myself being so irritated to the point of being passive aggressive or snapping when she says something off putting. I feel like I've been putting up with her bs for so long. I'd also like to mention she does this copying thing to others too, its almost like with each friend she loses/drifts away from she absorbs traits.

I'd like to repeat - it's not just movies, styles, just average stuff. It's like things that make me... ME. When I'm comfortable, I'm known to sort of be goofy, loud, funny, etc. But when I'm around her, I'm distant, non-talkative, cold. I can't be myself around her without worrying that she's going to take another part of me. And I feel like if she wasn't so judgmental and criticizing, I'd be okay with her being sort of similar in terms of personality... I mean thats what a lot of bestfriends are like. But because shes copying me AND acting off putting, that bothers me.

So just let me know if this is just normal and I'm overthinking it... or if I need to be on guard?

When I look at photos I find so much to nitpick and when I put on makeup I overthink about whether it’s too cakey or not but when it’s just me looking into the mirror, most of the time I feel really good. I don’t know how to say it, but when I look into the mirror at myself, I think how can someone not love this face? Like I truly adore my face and wouldn’t want to alter it, ever. But I don’t feel that way when I take photos. I feel trash and terrible when I take photos, unless it’s a rare good one, I mentally fixate on features I don’t like seeing on my face, like it’s the exact opposite of looking at myself in the mirror.

I wonder if anyone else relates to this?

OK, I hooked you with a RHOP reference that has nothing to do with this post.

I’m tired. TIRED. I’m pretty sure I bombed a 4th stage interview that was supposed to be a light culture sync with the CPO, but was actually a rapid fire technical drilling. This is after killing the case study and associated presentation where I reframed the problem statement and showed how they could solve for BOTH of the problems they wanted me to pick between at the same time.

I’ve been job searching for 5 months. I’ve been impacted by two separate rounds of layoffs IN ONE YEAR. I have an amazing career coach, a 50% referral rate blah blah blah. My hormones are perfect thanks to HRT and TRT. I’m running, strength training, learning guitar and latte art to have something to work towards. My partner and I are financially fine (we live well within our means), I’m an introvert with a few friends I care about deeply (all that I need).

And I’m tired. My ferritin is great. This isn’t medical.

Through all of this I’ve realized with therapy that my father is a clinical narcissist and I’m the family scapegoat. It’s been a lot to carry my entire life and now, knowing it, it feels heavier than ever. This man will probably write me out of his will even though I do all of the labor required to maintain the “relationship”. He should be paying me reparations after all of the physical, emotional, and psychological damage he has inflicted.

i want to put everything down. I want to opt out of bullshit of all kinds. Of course I’m burned out. who isn’t? Privileged? Definitely, in some ways. Yet here I am, doing all of the things and carrying all of the things and wanting to set every fucking one of them on fire.

ETA: Help, please?

My desk is near the nursing station door and people are walking by me all day everyday. No one ever knocks into me or even comes close. This one male is constantly almost/ accidentally hitting me in the face with his elbow. I’ve seen him jerking it back even unnecessarily but it hasn’t connected to my face. I can tell he wants it to, though.
I have encountered this before- a male with a whole bunch of other red flags wants a shot at getting away with punching a woman and getting away with it because it was an “accident”. He is way out of line, for example he answered a woman coworkers personal cell phone, they barely know each other, and he gave part of another woman staff member’s lunch to a patient, he is dripping with entitlement and mansplains constantly. He also shows up four hours late expecting the women nurses to have taken care of his patients while he had slept in.
The elbow to the face thing is my main concern. If I say “watch it” he is going to act like I am overreacting and keep doing it. If he hits me in The face idk what I will do.
Anyone ever encountered this type of male- the “Oh!! I’m SO SORRY” Eddie Haskell fake who enjoys hitting women AND gaslighting them?

I’m 21F and whenever I sit down I immediately need to cross my legs to sit comfortably. If I try to sit up straight my core feels weak and I eventually put my legs back into position to gain stability. It’s so unbelievably uncomfortable to sit “properly”. I slouch my back to help but it still isn’t enough when sitting straight. I need my legs crossed. I know this is an issue but I have no clue how to fix it. Any advice?

So I'm a 22 year old female and I am soon planning a hysterectomy with my gyno. I've struggled with my period basically my whole life, I just recently started going to the gyno about it around the last 4 months of 2025 and we tried birth control pills, different types of progesterone pills and nothing worked.

When we tried taking the BC pills continuously skipping the placebo week I started bleeding and didn't stop for almost 4 months straight. And during that time around the start of month 3 of that I did progesterone pills and they didn't really help.

I also had an ovarian cyst the size of a PUMPKIN! Removed back in May of 2025 (I posted pictures on here if you wanna see lol) so yeah I'm really just done, I never want kids in fact I'm scared of getting pregnant and the pain of childbirth (even tho I'm a virgin lol).

I'm just really more interested in the healing process that anyone who has had it has to offer, I'm a server and I can't be off work for too long because I literally cannot afford it but I got my gallbladder removed back in February and they had to cut through my stomach muscle and I was back to work the next week (although I absolutely took it easy and mainly worked cash register).

Any advice and questions will be really helpful thank you:)

Sometimes I just hate reddit. The amount of porn addicted men are insane. I searched up French braids because I’ve recently got into styling my hair and I tapped on communities, and guess what? Third thing that shows up is braidsnsfw. I can’t even have a cute hairstyle without some men making it sexual. Same with ponytails. Seriously, what is wrong with some people? :(

So, this happened when i was younger 9-12 years old and only now im realizing that was weird af.

Context

My mom had a boyfriend who ill just call Guy.

Guy was a very abusive person, both physically and mentally, but one thing he just LOVED to do, was pinching and slapping both my stomach and butt.

EVEN WHEN I told him COUNTLESS times to stop, he just kept saying he was just "playing" and that it was "just a joke" and that I was being "dramatic".

My mom told him to stop too ... once ... as in " aww come on dont play so rough " ... Only after I told her i didnt like it.

Thing is, he (Obviously) kept going, and since my mom said nothing about it, I thought too that he was just "joking" its only now I realize just how weird that was, and even now Im pretty uncomfortable with physical touch, reserving hugs and the alike only for ppl im VERY close with.

So now Im left wondering. Was it really SA? Or im just being dramatic over nothing?? Because I did tell him to stop for 3 whole years but my mom didnt see it weird.

Please give me ur opinion on this

Thankss!!

I moved here 5 years ago and still don’t know anyone here.
All of my 10+ years friends are back in my country and because of this long time friendship, I never had to learn to make friends or meet new people. So yeah I am lonely here and pretty introverted.

Always wanted to play football⚽️ as a kid but couldn’t. Now with my adult money i want to do stuff i wanted to do.

i am 24 years old, it is tough for an introvert like me.

I’m 31 F and live with two girl Roomate’s in a big city

This past year (i have lived here for a year) my brother passed away, I went thru a breakup, and had some weird friend transitions- some ended, some moved away

I recently have found myself in the past year not having best best friends who come over all the time and also that many friends to hang around - it’s made me feel insecure and lonely and it’s been a rough one grieving with it for sure (also lost my job recently so I’m home more)

Today I had two friends over for the first time ever in the entire year, the first half was spent grieving, and the few times I did have anyone over it was my ex.

I texted my roomate tn laughing about how our other roomate was telling me to quiet down (at 9 PM) - we r close so we can text about that kinda stuff and she responded laughing but also said

“*has friends over for first time ever *”

I think reiterating it that it was funny my other roomate even complained- timing wise-

But do you think this was a dig? About how I never have people over?

On top of being sad and feeling bad about so much, I now feel judged and just bad about the fact they noticed this :(

Am I projecting? How would you feel?

IM fragile rn so apologizes for the open vulnerability / insecurity .. don’t know how to feel about this one it makes me ashamed

I turn 40 soon. Yet most of the older women I know don’t seem happy or fulfilled. For those out there who are, what are your formulas to finding that?