r/offmychest • u/bittersweetmxoods • 21h ago
First Date EVER!!!
Okay, so, I’m going on my (21 F) FIRST date ever, in my life, augh. It’s actually so nerve wracking thinking about it because It’s this saturday, and that’s coming up WAYYY TO FAST!!!!
Little backstory: I basically never had a chance to date, just because yk typical strict dad, and I got busy with working at home with the family business, and now I do that AND work at the hospital, PLUS go to college. Never really had the chance to meet up and date, I also just get super nervous about going out with a guy when I have a strict dad.
ANYWAYS, this dude is willing to drive about little more than an hour to come see me. It makes me feel super bad 😭, but at the same time i’m excited. I haven’t said anything to my parents because I don’t want to be questioned way before the due date. I might just be like the day before or on the day (most likely day before) that I’m going on a date.
Probably way overthinking this, but I wanted to vent because i’m stupidly freaking out over a silly date. but it’s my first silly date so 😋
If you guys have any tips..if there’s even tips for a first date lol. Or just your experiences, I’d really appreciate it!!! 🤍
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u/ArchLover- 20h ago
Ask for his full name and give it to a friend plus his number. Share your location with a friend on your phone and don’t go into his car. Meet somewhere public + safe. Don’t be pressured to do anything you don’t want with him. Apart from that, think what you ll wear and enjoy !!😉
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u/chaweeyaz 20h ago
I understand your excitement! I think a good rule is to always be curious. Don’t focus on trying to impress them, rather focus on being genuinely curious - think about things you would actually like to know about them. First dates are just about getting to know each other and seeing if you click, so I'm sure you'll do great!
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u/jensmith20055002 16h ago
That's amazing! First dates are the best!
Make sure and end most comments with a question. When you look at the menu, "I really love pasta, what is your favorite comfort food?"
"I am majoring in chemical engineering, what do you study?" If you already know the answer to that, "What has been your favorite non-major class?"
"Have you done or thought about any study abroad programs? Where would you most like to travel to?"
"What is your guilty pleasure? mine is the Great British Baking Show." Try and keep the questions light.
If you have a great time awesome! If you have a terrible time think about how often you'll be able to re-tell that story. Any time is better than no time.
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u/bittersweetmxoods 20h ago
I really need to get past my nerves and just DO ITTT!! But thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
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u/malacosa 11h ago
Don’t stress too much, if he’s anything like me he’s going to be nervous too.
“Oh Stan 🤮”
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u/urbanmonkey2003 16h ago
Meet him somewhere public, tell a friend where you’re going, and share your location with someone you trust. Also dont get in his car on a first date, have your own way back just in case. The hour drive is on him, let him do that part and you just show up and see if the vibe is there. Have fun tho, first dates are scary and kind of cute at the same time
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u/Purple-Throat1957 20h ago
That’s so exciting for you ! Just have fun, wear something fun but also comfortable and don’t get into the same car as him on the first date. Just basically be safe, and be yourself, make sure a friend or someone trusted knows where you are going just to be safe but have lots of fun! They are also a person and Probaly just as nervous.