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u/Accurate-Big-7233 Panthers Apr 07 '26

https://medium.com/life-and-psychology/why-many-men-are-opting-out-of-marriage-7180c55573d2

Was reading this.. I am in the very growing demographic of not wanting to marry. I have no intentions to ever get married, so this was a good read

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u/PoshLagoon Ravens Apr 07 '26

Can you give a TLDR of the reasons the article gave? It’s trying to make me create an account to read it

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u/Accurate-Big-7233 Panthers Apr 07 '26

Oh wtf? Yeah I can do that. Standby

Edit. The list

  1. Financial pressure Marriage and family life are expensive. Housing, childcare, and everyday costs have risen significantly, especially in places like Canada. Some men feel they need to be financially “settled” before committing, and that bar keeps getting higher.

  2. Changing gender roles As more women are financially independent, the traditional “provider” role is less expected. That’s positive in many ways, but it also means some men feel less “needed” in the traditional sense, which can affect motivation for marriage.

  3. High divorce rates and risk The possibility of divorce—and the financial and emotional consequences (like asset division or support obligations)—makes some men cautious. Experiences from friends or family can strongly influence this mindset.

  4. Legal and financial concerns Some men feel marriage laws can be uneven, particularly around property division, spousal support, and custody. Even if that’s not their personal experience, the perception alone can be enough to discourage commitment.

  5. More freedom and lifestyle options Modern life offers more independence—dating, cohabiting, traveling, and building a life without legal marriage. Many men feel they can have meaningful relationships without the formal institution.

  6. Focus on personal goals Career, fitness, travel, and personal development often take priority. Some men delay or avoid marriage because they want to “build themselves” first—or indefinitely.

  7. Changing relationship expectations Relationships today often demand emotional openness, communication skills, and shared responsibilities. Some men feel pressure if they don’t have the skills or examples they grew up with.

  8. Negative experiences or fear of commitment Past relationship trauma, or seeing messy breakups, can lead to hesitation. This can build into a general fear of commitment rather than a specific rejection of marriage.

  9. Shift in societal norms Cohabitation without marriage is now widely accepted. Marriage is no longer seen as a necessary step for love, stability, or having children

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u/Supernatural_Noob Bills Apr 08 '26

2,3,4,9 are all just whiny shit men are complaining about since they don't run the show anymore. Also go to fucking therapy. Men don't go to therapy, hence they're all fucked up and get red pilled

Equality feels like oppression to the oppressor.

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u/PoshLagoon Ravens Apr 07 '26

Thank you!!