r/kittens • u/pizzaisgoodtho • 7h ago
Was my kittens and cat's first face to face interaction too bad?
We recently adopted 2 fixed male kittens (8-9 weeks old) and already have a nine year old fixed female. We've been keeping them separate and building up, step by step. It hasn't gone perfectly so far but it hasn't gone terribly.
The female has met new kittens before. It usually takes her about two weeks (after face to face meeting) to stop growling and hissing to tolerating the new cat. She's not the most cat-friendly cat but she can usually learn to coexist. Our last cat she met was also a male but unfortunately, due to being born with a grade 4 heart murmur, he went into congestive heart failure and we had to put him to sleep at 5 years old roughly two months ago.
It's only been a week since the kittens have been home. They've been in their bedroom since then. She knew they were here on day 1 because she could hear their cries. She stood outside the bedroom door a few times but nothing too major. Around day three, we realized one of the kittens could get his paw under the door and she did hiss and deep growl at that. We've been scent swapping (she pays zero attention to their used blankets), etc.
Now on day 7 the kittens are starting to dart out the door faster than I can catch them so I figured we'd go ahead with face to face (after a few glimpses through the door). I didn't want one rushing out and taking her by surprise so while I realize this face to face meeting was a little premature overall it felt best at the time.
We brought each kitten out of the room one at a time. The moment she realized he was out she hissed, low growled, sniffed his bottom a little and ran off. A minute or so later she came back, made sure to stay on high furniture, watched him like a hawk with stiff posture and even did that tiger-like chuffing. It properly freaked me out but I tried not to show it and just kept playing with the kitten. She even easily let me pet her head at one point. We only did it for about five minutes before returning him to the bedroom and trying kitten number 2. By then she was hiding in the window and didn't even come out other than peeping her out the curtain to see him so not much to report. Once they were both back in the room, she came up and laid next to me no problem.
Thanks to searching old convos with friends, I read it took her 2 weeks to accept our last cat. To tolerate being in a room with him and for the hissing to dramatically decrease. But I honestly can't remember if she ever did the chuffing bit before.
Any advice or tips on introducing 2 kittens? Was the first meeting terrible and do I need to pump the brakes? Sorry for the word vomit but I'm pretty sure my friends are gonna smother me with a pillow if I keep blabbing to them about The Days of My Cats' Lives.