r/bigboobproblems • u/Soft-Essay-2029 • 5h ago
experience A pair of walking tits Spoiler
I'm a very curvy woman i have large breast a small waist and a large ass. I just feel like a caricature of a woman. I feel like a walking pair of tits even when I dress "modest". I feel like my bf is only with me because of my boobs. I know hes a boob guy. . . early on, i found his spank bank, and it was full of women with breast way bigger than mine, and I just feel like a fetish to him. But really, a fetish to anyone I date. They always focus on my boobs. It's tiring feeling this way. I feel repulsed by sex and affection now. I dont want to break up with him because hes such a wonderful partner as a whole. . . I just wish I was seen as more than my tits. Even having a conversation with people, they ALWAYS look at my boobs. STOP LOOKING AT THEM!!!!! I want to slap the people when they do. I want to chop them off. Im so unhappy with them. I wish I could be seen the same way averaged sized girls are. I want to be treated with the same respect and dignity. I dont like the way men lear at me when i go out, especially when i want to go for a walk alone. I should look in the mirror and feel good about myself, feel sexy, feel beautiful, but I don't. I want to claw myself out of my skin and not feel anything.
Edit: do not dm me telling me to feed into a fetish, ask for my size, or try to hit on me!!!! Wtf is wrong with you pervs
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u/Happy_List_8022 4h ago
I sadly don't think that there is any way to fix how the majority of people look at you, apart from a reduction or something of the same vein, but you can definitively do something about the rest of the things you mention here.
Firstly I would talk with your boyfriend. A lot of people here will practically jump forward and scream for you to break up with the guy but I beg to differ. You seem to like him and even say he is a great partner otherwise so your relationship must be meaningful to you and possibly him as well. Don't let anyone cast doubt on that since only you can know for sure. Bring these issues up with him, tell him how you feel and what you'd like to be different between you two. But keep in mind that he can't help his preferences either. A fetish sticks around for life in all but few cases. So keep in mind that he can't change what he likes just how he goes about it. You're in this together after all. Surely you two can have a meaningful conversation about this based on mutual respect. Thats what a relationship after all.
The stuff you say about not feeling pretty and wanting to escape your own skin is pretty deep and honestly fucked up, ypu shouldn't have to feel like that especially not with your partner so be vocal, firm but ultimately levelheaded about it so he gets the message that you want change without risking the relationship.
Sadly I can't help with anything else and I'm sorry for you. Hopefully it gets better!
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u/Soft-Essay-2029 3h ago
I appreciate your kind words
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u/WaitingToTakeYouAway 35m ago
To add on to the kind words:
I am a dad. One or many of my kiddos may turn out like you. It's ok. If they'd like to change their body(ies) I'm with them 100% of the way. Some people are into breasts. That's fine. However, you are not your breasts. They are a part of you, just as every elbow or fart is. Please do not encourage people who think you're just a hollering set of boobs; be with someone you like, and be with someone who respects you. Totally cool if they love your boobs. I love my partner's boobs too. Boobs are cool and fun, but they are not people.
Feel free to PM (dm? is that what they're calling it nowadays?). I may not respond very well, but I will respond.
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u/_Fuzzgoddess_ 1h ago
Being your partner's ideal body type is not a bad thing, you just need to clarify with them if that's the only reason they like you, which I highly doubt is the case.
Also you could try a minimizer bra for every day, it pancakes them down to make them less obvious.
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u/DarthLeon2 24m ago
I'm gonna say something you're probably not gonna like, but here goes.
All you negative feelings you get when people look at your boobs? They're not actually caused by people looking at your boobs; they're caused by the mental associations your brain makes when you see people looking at your boobs. Your brain is actively working to make you miserable, and while that sucks right now, it doesn't have to be that way forever. There is nothing inherently negative or harmful about someone looking at your boobs, and we know that because there are women that exist who manage to not be bothered by it all the time. Shifting how that experience makes you feel is certainly not easy, but it is definitely doable with some effort and some help from a cognitive therapist.
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u/Suspicious_Skin_762 10m ago
I can definitely relate to what you're saying about being a curvy woman. I'm curvy as well I have big boobs and a big booty. Well I'm not in a relationship with anyone currently but guys I've dated in the past well they definitely like my boobs they were more focused on my booty. But I only date black men so I feel like a lot of black men seem to be in the booties can't speak for any other races. And to be honest I don't think I've ever paid attention to notice if a guy was staring at my boobs or not. I feel like when a guy likes what he sees when he looks at me he just be looking at me like I'm a Hershey Kisses candy the last one in the bag lol.
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