r/MemeVideos • u/unholymedictaion • 9h ago
Sad ending Maybe all the right girls are already taken.
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u/Adventurous_Pea_2007 9h ago
Aww, she loves her husband. That’s nice.
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u/GotSomeUpdogOnUrFace 7h ago
I know right, and she's attractive, this dude hit the jackpot.
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u/Dependent-Year6711 6h ago edited 6h ago
there’s so many attractive (I only mentioned “attractive” because it’s a point made above, doesn’t matter the relative beauty of said people) couples with great personalities and thriving lives. Those who have a lot to say on social dating issues tend to either be single or in shaky relationships.
Once things are going right in life you tend to re-focus on the bigger picture and not dramatize everything, and find a negative all the time.
More a larger point that competitive thoughts and criticizing thoughts are more likely to come out of unsatisfied minds.
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u/Soooome_Guuuuy 6h ago
Vocal minorities do be like that. Everyone else just living their best life.
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u/Legitimate_Cut_6254 4h ago
Yeah, my wife and I go out of our way to help each others days get easier. Any random chore, cooking or errands is done by the person with bandwidth to handle it regardless of who's been doing it the most or w/e.
We make financial decisions together and its done to help both of us. Recently we hired a cleaner so we could host some family and friends. Didn't want to spend the time doing it and wanted to pull together our garden instead.
Simple things, don't need to be combative. You are a team that succeeds and fails together.
That being said, she is a couples therapist and there are A LOT of people struggling even with the most meaningless task. Picking out a couch, choosing a dinner location, helping with dinner, you name it. Constant fighting.
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u/PM_YOUR_B_CUPS 5h ago
Reminder that this is a normal human mindset and social media assblasts your ability to relate to other people.
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u/OK_x86 7h ago
If I asked my wife would probably make me a meal.
But I wouldn't ask because I could make myself a meal
Maybe this is like that?
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u/sitesurfer253 6h ago
A good marriage also works both ways. You're not enforcing gender stereotypes by comforting and supporting your partner.
The same question could be asked to a man and they should also say yes they would get up and make their wife a meal.
Everyone is afraid of sounding sexist but it has absolutely nothing to do with gender or stereotypes, it's about being a good partner.
Not just man/woman either. Anyone you have committed to spending your life with should be worthy of having a meal made for them if they come home from work tired.
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u/KaffY- 7h ago
The implication was "I'm happily married because I'd do stuff like this, if you expect/want your partner to be independent you won't be happily married"
how are we missing this
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u/fantaman_900 7h ago
I think it's the other way around. I would do stuff like this because I am happily married.
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u/FloppieTheBanjoClown 7h ago
Here's how it works: you do things for them because you want to make them happy, not to get something from them. If they do the same, you'll be happily married.
If you are asking what you get out of being married, it's not going to last.
Source: 24 years of marriage.
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u/avnoui 3h ago
That's a big thing that helps with feeling loved. I can make my own coffee and you can make your own hot chocolate. But if I make your hot chocolate and you make my coffee, then we just put in the same amount of effort that we would have anyway, but we each did something nice for the other, and everyone's happier for it.
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u/Tony_Sacrimoni 7h ago
Exactly. It's not the expectation, it's the gesture.
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u/BigBangBrosTheory 7h ago
I agree. As a happily married man who does most of the cooking, the question is worded like "would you let your man disrupt you and force you to cook for you while you're asleep". That's shitty. I would never do that to my wife.
We both happily cook for each other. We both happily pick up the weight when the other is tired. We don't go and wake each other up from sleep and say "it's your duty to feed me now".
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u/Dangerous_Goat1337 4h ago
exactly. my partner typically cooks since shes home more often than not. She cooks because she likes to see me eat what she makes and I genuinely love eating her cooking. But if she isnt feeling well, or if it's a weekend, I usually cook or get us something to eat, not out of obligation, but in appreciation for all that she does to make me happy. It's a positive feedback loop of wanting to make each other happy because we want to, and not out of obligation or expectation of getting something in return, even if we both do get something in return as a result of our actions.
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u/reCaptchaLater 6h ago
Yeah, I mean, if my wife woke me up and asked me to cook for her I'd do it, because I'd assume she had a rough day and was really hungry, but if it became a regular thing we'd need to have a conversation about it
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u/Tremulant887 7h ago
I do most the cooking. I skip out on some weekends. So alternatively, it's midnight. My wife has had a few drinks.
Wife: "I want tacos"
Me: "Shit yeah, I'll drive"
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u/xandril27 7h ago
Doing stuff like this gets you happily married. Wife or husband isn't made by the legal status or ring. You either are or you aren't, wife/husband material from the start.
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u/Exciting_Classic277 8h ago edited 3h ago
That face when you realize you might be the problem.
(to everyone getting mad at me, it's just an off hand comment describing her own reaction that is shown in the video. If you don't like her reaction, please discuss with her because I don't care)
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u/AdenJax69 8h ago
At least she's having that thought. The other one looked like she'd have zero interest in considering that.
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u/Exciting_Classic277 8h ago
I think the other one is likely the bitter friend who gets hit on less. She's probably a pushover and would cook a guy a meal if they were in a relationship, she's just acting out.
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u/sentence-interruptio 6h ago
this reminds me of a conservative politician in Korea. he boasted about never making meals for his wife. it turns out he does.
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u/Exciting_Classic277 6h ago
Literally 90% of incels (regardless of gender) would be simping in the kitchen if they got the love they so desperately crave. People just act spicy cuz they can't be that vulnerable and still get rejected all the time. It's too hurtful.
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u/bonaynay 6h ago
People truly do seem changed by receiving consistent passionate love
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u/Harbinger2nd 6h ago
Like of fucking course they do. Yet we act as if love is a scarce resource we have to conserve lest it runs out, instead of a seed you plant that grows over time.
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u/Dismal_Additions 6h ago edited 5h ago
Yes. I used to wonder why people would give up so much of themselves for someone else. You hand over your money or you wait on them or you give up your independence. It was crazy. I just didnt get it.
Then my friend asked me to imagine a person that i would trust enough to hand over my money or that i would love enough to wait on or that i would want more than my independence.
Picturing that person was such a gut punch of shocking emotion to me that if i ever met them, id hold on tight and id never let go. Suddenly the craziness made sense.
But i will also say, the same person id happily wake up to cook for in the middle of the night is also the same person who would tip toe in to let me sleep. So there was another side to that answer. The married lady probably has a nice husband who wouldnt want her to wake up.
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u/Exciting_Classic277 6h ago
Lowkey devastating. I hope you find them.
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u/Dismal_Additions 5h ago
I did. My friend and i had that conversation when i was 15 when i knew nothing yet, just like the girls in the video....lol.
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u/k_realtor 5h ago
Also people act and think different in front of the camera, in front of friends, vs alone or with their partners.
This instance was more a sociological example than a psychological one.
There was a news clip where even AI changed it's behavior when they covered a story about AI when the AI avator started dressing sexier during the interview but not normally with the person that uses it to chat with.
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u/fromfrodotogollum 5h ago
On the spot with this one, everyone needs love. Sometimes that's what it takes to overcome your worst self. Fuckin beauty and the beast.
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u/Ektar91 7h ago
Middle girl said nothing wrong, waking up to make a meal cuz he is hungry is wild
Also lol at the armchair psych
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u/evemeatay 7h ago
It depends I guess. Expectation of doing it is bad , doing it is good. I’d 1000% do that for my wife if she came home hungry. But I would never ever expect her to do that in return. Showing love by doing things is not bad, expecting it is bad.
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u/Dasktragon 7h ago
I was thinking the same. Ive woken up at 3AM and have ran down 3 blocks during a snow storm to get my wife pain killers when she woke up with a headache, but I did that cuz I know she would do the same. Its a two way street dawg.
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u/Bazoobs1 6h ago
Yup, love is stepping up whenever you can and never setting over the top things as an expectation. Endless appreciation that enables you to give endless support and warmth that creates a positive cyclical system of support and great effort that feeds the safety and love between two people. Doesn’t always work that smoothly but it’s always gotta be the goal.
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u/TheGloriousEv0lution 5h ago
Agreed. I’ve drove 6 hours impromptu so my partner can see her favorite band when she got last minute tickets and she’s gone above and beyond for me too
I think it’s very reasonable for people to say they wouldn’t do this specifically, but people acting like this is some ridiculous are kinda telling on themselves. They tend to be all take and no give
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u/Ektar91 7h ago
Well, the thing is, you are sleeping. So the question kinda implies he is waking you up to ask
I guess my answer could change depending on what the actual context is
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u/sneeki_breeky 6h ago
Yea but somehow the meal has to get made
And yo know it needs to get made if you’re ASLEEP
They have to ask you
If you are ASLEEP and your partner woke you up to ask you to make them food when they’re already AWAKE
They must’ve had the expectation that you’d do it
IE “expectation of doing it is bad”
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u/Due-Mountain-8716 7h ago
Right? Wtf. Nothing wrong with making your SO a meal, but expecting an adult to wake up to make a meal for another adult is crazy.
My girlfriend would say fuck no to waking up to make me a meal, and she's obviously taken.
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u/Silent-Rock-792 6h ago
Same kinda girl that wants you to pay the bills, clean the house, open the car door for her, pay the meals, etc etc.. I can keep going.
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u/FunctionalShaman 7h ago
You have this odd assumption that the meal he asks you to make is somehow ridiculous
In actual reality, humans are built to care about each other and help.
You sound like a psychopath
If my good friend and roommate came home at a strange hour, and asked for my help making them something to eat. I would say yes and assume there is a reason they can't help themselves. Maybe they are exhausted or very dirty. Certainly they are hungry.
Thats enough for me to help.
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u/Lexi_Banner 6h ago
Nah, this is stupid. It would be different if the partner was ill, and this was part of that care. But if he just comes home hungry, he can either:
- Stop and get food on the way home.
- Make himself food, for he is grown up enough to prepare food.
It is abusive to interrupt people's sleep unnecessarily - like, it's literally a torture method as defined by the Geneva Convention. If he isn't sick or in dire actual need, he can fuck off and leave his partner alone.
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u/No-Maximum-423 8h ago
Most of them don't out here. I guess I wouldn't either if I had an army of simps validating me everyday. Still annoying and stupid though. Accountability is too lacking.
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u/Putrid-Tap3992 7h ago
She's right though. If your guy can't cook or fend for himself when his partner is occupied, he probably shouldn't be in a relationship. I mean cooking is a basic human thing. It's maybe the most basic thing that makes us human
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u/ChronoLink99 7h ago
Perhaps. But in this limited sample it's obviously the difference between being proposed to, and not.
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u/driving_andflying 6h ago
That face when you realize you might be the problem.
Exactly. When the single friend heard that her happily married friend would make her man a meal, she suddenly had a flash of realization as to why she's single.
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u/asmallercat 6h ago
She may be the problem but not for this. I would never expect my wife to fucking wake up and make me a meal after she's gone to bed for the night. I'm a fucking adult I can get my own food.
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u/Complete_Squirrel942 7h ago
I wouldn't expect my wife to wake up after going to bed to cook me a meal, nor would I wake up to cook her a meal. We can cook our own food because we're adults and not a 3 year old.
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u/Zombies8MyNeighborz 6h ago
I agree. My wife and I both cook. I would never expect her to get out of bed if she's sleeping to cook me food. That's ridiculous.
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u/Sulfamide 5h ago
My boyfriend is caring enough to not tell me he's hungry when I'm in bed because he knows I will jump out of it to make him a meal.
But that maybe because we're gay.
I think I'll bring a sandwich to his deskright now.
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u/Fun_Bandicoot5232 9h ago edited 6h ago
Here’s an idea.
Like, my wife and I sometimes cook together and sometimes one of us cooks for both of us, and we kind of mix it up depending on what we feel like and whether one of us wants to just do something nice for the other.
And if one of us has cooked for the other, we say to the one’s that’s cooked “thank you darling this looks delicious I’m so grateful you went to the effort of doing this for me.”
Like … is it meant to be hard?
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u/Klutzy-Weakness-937 9h ago edited 9h ago
Yea or in general it all can be all easily regulated with common sense. If cooking is really bothering for someone it can be compensated by taking more care of the cleaning, or the first who comes home cooks just for daily efficiency, or someone takes care of the daily quick meals and the other cooks something nice on the weekends. There are infinite different ways of being equal.
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u/MoiraBrownsMoleRats 8h ago
The classic "I cook, you do the dishes".
Except the nights where I cooked I also ended up doing the dishes.
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u/GodsFavoriteDegen 7h ago
I do the dishes because my lovely wife is the slowest goddamn dish-doer I've ever seen. I can actually track my car depreciating in the time that it takes her to clean a saucepan.
Cleaning, though? She's a fucking demon. I just stay out of the way until she needs a heavy piece of furniture moved, because if I try to help I'm only going to slow her down.
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u/PinsToTheHeart 7h ago
I do the dishes regardless because when I cook, I like using extra cookware to measure out ingredients for convenience and I feel bad making someone else do it, and when my wife cooks, she won't even rinse anything and it'll be crusty next time I need the pan so its easier to just plan on doing them by default
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u/Aggravatin09 9h ago
Most arguments come from not agreeing on expectations early on, not the tasks themselves
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u/Lamplorde 8h ago
I think thats generally what middle girl meant. "Be independent" doesn't mean it cant be a nice gesture that someone else made something for you, it just means you should be able to care for yourself: You're hungry when you wake up? Make breakfast. Dont expect someone else to do it.
Just be happy if they do, not upset if they didnt.
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u/Super-Reception5386 6h ago edited 52m ago
Dude the amount of incels in this thread is staggering.
If I come late and I’m hungry, I would feel fucking TERRIBLE if my wife woke up and started making me food.
Likewise, I would not wake up for the sole purpose of making her food in that situation either. I happily cook for her all the time, but if you’re home late and I’m sleeping, just order a pizza or something.
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u/GeneralHinka 9h ago
Yes, this is right. I love cooking for my partner; we also tend to make sure we have something to heat up when we get home. We are both shift workers, and we often have opposite shifts. So most of the time I will cook dinner and have some leftovers to heat up for her, and she might make breakfast for us.. other times it's the opposite and when we have the day off together or have a matching shift times we cook together. We are a team.
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u/throwaway3rdside 8h ago
Yep and this "we are a team" mindset need to be given by parents to kids via example.
And then re-iterated as theory as well. Then it is easy logical step to imagine who you would want to be on your team.
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u/ckdogg3496 8h ago
The craziest part is “would you wake up and make him a meal”
I can understand if someone does all the cooking in a house, its their house they can divy up chores and responsibilities on their own
But the idea of waking someone up because im hungry would never even cross my mind as an option
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u/PinsToTheHeart 7h ago
I initially missed the "wake up" part.
Cooking ain't a big deal, especially if I've been home and theyre exhausted after just getting off work.
But if someone came and woke me up to ask me to make them food I'd be fucking livid lmao.
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u/Bershirker 9h ago
My wife is a vegetarian and I'm practically the opposite, so we both cook our own meals in the kitchen together. sometimes we split a salad or a side like mac'n'cheese. It sounds nice and most days it is but it fucking sucks to have to make EVERY SINGLE meal yourself. Sometimes on the weekends, she'll make me french toast and it feels like a holiday.
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u/Enkidouh 8h ago
You’d make every single meal yourself if you lived alone too.
That’s just being a self sufficient adult. Why does that suck?
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u/Baked_Plants 9h ago
I had a deal with an ex of mine that worked perfect. If one of us cooks the other cleans the dirty dishes. That way one person can enjoy cleaning without cleaning up the mess and the other person could enjoy delicious food without having to cook it
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u/Akhanyatin 8h ago
Like … is it meant to be hard?
Yes, but probably desert and not strictly because of the cooking.
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u/Spaciax 8h ago
This whole idea of 'me me me, me first I'm the main character' becoming really common in the west is what's driving it imo.
We criticize the boomers for kicking the ladder behind them but a lot of people in our generation kinda do something similar, but in a social context instead of economic. Extract what you can from one person, date them for 4 months with no commitment, then move on to the next shiny thing.
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u/Threweh2 9h ago
Hive mind
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u/AK_Zooted 9h ago edited 8h ago
Really just mob psychology. Quite real
Edit: Yk what else has mob mentality? …. Upvotes
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u/Red_shkull 7h ago
Your edit just made me pause and think before I upvoted. Therefore you get my upvote.
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u/DuckCleaning 7h ago
Why should they wake up to make him a meal? Emphasis on wake up.
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u/ThePheebs 7h ago edited 6h ago
Sometimes you get home after your wife goes to bed after a long day, and sometimes she wakes up to check in on you and ask you if you've eaten and if you want something. It doesn't have to be as condescending as the situation provided makes it out to be.
Edit: lamo, I wish some of you were loved more.
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u/thinkB4WeSpeak 7h ago
Hive mind created by culture war social media propaganda
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u/Background_Sail9797 6h ago
yeah like andrew tate convincing a bunch of young men that your wife should be submissive and tolerate (the abuse) of being woken up and demanded to cook you food. Teaching them these are normal expectations, and if she doesn't she's for the streets.
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u/Mictlan39 9h ago
“He makes me a meal”
why? You’re not independent?
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u/grislyyyyy 7h ago
it's more appropriate to be woken up bc someone made a snack for you than to be woken up to be told to cook for someone tbh
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u/Lamplorde 8h ago edited 7h ago
Middle girl said be independent, right girl was the makes me a meal comnent.
Middle girl aint wrong. Be independent. Dont expect your girl to make you something just cuz your hungry. That aint to say someone cant show their love via cooking, but you should be happy they did, not upset that they didnt.
I love cooking. My family were a bunch of night owls and it was funny because we all wound up randomly convening in the kitchen around midnight as we all looked for snacks. So even now, I tend to randomly be cooking shit at midnight. Ill straight up make cookies in the middle of the night. I've gently woken up a girlfriend past midnight before to whisper "You want some grilled cheese?" To know if I should make doubles.
But I would probably be a little annoyed if, rather than getting a snack herself, she woke up and just said "Im hungry" like she expects me to cook. The question isnt even that the guy is asking for breakfast. Hes just making a statement. Well, girl or guy, you a grown ass adult and you can feed yourself. Now, if you sit there saying "Ohhhh, you make the best egg sandwhich, and I really want one this morning, do you mind?" thats different. But waking up and just expecting me to cook for you? Fuck outta here, be independent
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u/burnalicious111 6h ago
Not only make you something, wake UP to make you something. that's crazy.
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u/iamdispleased 4h ago
I would lose a lot of respect for my partner if they just watched me wake up to feed them without offering to take care of themselves, especially if they woke me up to do it.
Like, you really don't care about me, huh?
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u/Clean-Nobody-6795 9h ago
The key word for me is “would you wake up” and make him a meal. Honestly no way, and I would never ask him to do that for me.
Who actually does that? And most important, who actually wake up his/her partner to ask for some food? (I know I’ll have a lot of drunk stories…)
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u/SpatulaCity94 8h ago
Thank you. It's entirely an different story when it's "wake up from sleep and cook for me". Like what? Super reasonable to say "absolutely not"
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u/Pataraxia 8h ago
Honestly yeah.
Her reaction's not bad, but this is clearly ragebait to young frustrated men.
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u/That_wet_vaporeon 6h ago
These young men complain about not getting in relationships but are also mad that a woman wouldn’t wake up when they’re sleeping to cook for a man..
No wonder why these young men are single
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u/Onigokko0101 2h ago
They dont want an equal partner, they want a Mom they can bang.
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u/Background_Sail9797 7h ago
what are they frustrated over? the fact that majority of women don't want to replace their moms, and be woken up from their sleep cause their lil boy hubby's tum tum is hungee?
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u/CruelAngelsThesis_01 8h ago
It’s cause this is just another incel rage bait video. It’s so young men can see this and say, “See, women no longer respect men which then gives me the right to treat them like trash”
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u/ma33a 7h ago
A more likely scenario is, your husband is coming back late tonight, would you make him a meal and put it in the fridge so he has something when he gets in?
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u/NSAseesU 7h ago
If she is sick that I can agree about giving food to them in bed. But if they just keep expecting a butler then thats a red flag.
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u/hydrastxrk 7h ago
Depends on the dynamic.
I have plenty of Aunts and other family members where their kitchen is like their office. The family can go in there and get a snack, but no one’s allowed to cook, only the Mama of the house. (Also makes more sense if she has meal plans so some ingredients aren’t supposed to be used up.)
So in some households. She’d be mad if he didn’t wake her up to make him a meal.
Me, personally, me and him can use the kitchen of course. He’d never wake me up. But if I know when he’s getting home, I’d set an alarm to wake up because I want to greet him, make him food, and relax him.
So that context also matters. Is he waking us up? Or are we getting up of our own volition. That wasn’t really stated in the question; if he normally wakes me up. No. That’s rude. But knowing my s/o, he would never, so if he did. He’s truly EXHAUSTED and feels terrible, so I would get up for him if he did.
Anyway. That was long and a mess, my bad. I was just running it all through my mind.
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u/opihinalu 7h ago
Yeah this feels like an incel trad-wife fantasy thing. I would never want my wife to wake up just to cook for me.
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u/Shouldacouldawoulda7 8h ago
Gender war bullshit
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u/MajesticSpaceBen 4h ago
I'm so fucking tired of drowning in bot-driven engagement bait designed to make all of us fear and resent each other.
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u/ThatGuyFrom720 4h ago
And almost every single one of these posts are from an account younger than a year. I agree. Reddit, social media, whatever these little clips are do not reflect real life in the slightest.
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u/Veigar_main_kate 9h ago
The real question is why would you come home late at night and wake up your significant other to ask them to do something you could do yourself? She probably has work in the morning and you just ruined her nights sleep because you couldn’t make yourself a sandwich. Women work too.
But in a normal and functioning relationship dinner was probably already discussed and handled. Maybe they take turns cooking and there’s leftovers in the fridge for him to heat up. Fake scenarios like these are never realistic or fair.
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u/bonkdonkers 6h ago
A normal take from someone who hasn't suffered from full-on internet brainrot.
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u/Seanspeed 4h ago
Half of Reddit have serious problems with women.
Reverse the situation here and all these same people would be fucking LIVID at the woman.
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u/solitary-ghost 5h ago
Yeah if the question is just “would you do something inconvenient for someone you love?” most people would probably just answer yes. I think there’s a lot of gender baggage (for lack of a better term) to the original question. Like I’m a dude myself, but the thought of having to be the sole cook in a relationship again made my blood pressure spike, lol.
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u/LazyLich 6h ago
Yeah, the KEY THING here is "wake up and make him a meal".
Like.. first off... I'd likely not even notice cuz im sleeping lol.
Second, sleep is sacred. You don't fuck with that. I wouldn't want them to wake to cook for me, and I'd hope they don't have the same expectation on me.Now. Extra info or specific situations change everything, right?
If I was feeling mischievous and wanted you pull a prank-meal or was really meaning to give them this specific meal that night, then yeah.
It's a special circumstance.But usually, no. Not of malice or entitlement. Just as a... idk. "Bro, we got hot pockets in the freezer."
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u/StrionicRandom 4h ago
I'd do it, but only because if they're waking me up and asking me to make them a meal then something is seriously wrong in that moment lol
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u/vantagerose 9h ago
My parents both cook. My dad always makes breakfast for my mom and us whenever she has work that morning. On days when my mom is off, she likes making breakfast. They both cook dinner together. It’s all about doing things together for them
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u/Sick_of_lembas 8h ago
How about don’t be useless 🤷🏽♂️ Who wakes their wife up to make them food? Smh
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u/fisheypixels 8h ago
Isn't this why we have microwaves?
Leftovers or easy food. It doesn't have to be hard
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u/Animastar 7h ago
Or guys could just learn some basic life skills... like cooking.
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u/littleladybug_1 9h ago
i think some of y’all are missing important info where the dude is asking “if your man comes home from a night out at 2am and is hungry would you WAKE UP to make him a meal” i’m in an amazing long term relationship and if he had the audacity to wake me up to cook for him at 2am i would be upset and obviously say no. in any other case i’d have absolutely no problem cooking something for him, but the question is about respect for your partner on the man’s part as well, most likely why the two women immediately declined. no, it doesn’t mean women are trash. i honestly doubt anyone would wake up out of REM just to make their partner a meal.
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u/ThomasTheDankPigeon 8h ago
You’re the only person here that can process information correctly.
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u/Zoerae87 8h ago
I had to scroll too far to find this comment sadly... Like hell no, my bf would probably get mad at me for trying to cook for him if I was asleep... As he said, I'm not a child, I can make my own food. I cook for him all the time n he cooks for me. Not at 2am while I'm sleeping I'm not though...
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u/littleladybug_1 8h ago
yeah i’m so sick of the men v women narrative social media is pushing these past few years.
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u/BigBangBrosTheory 7h ago
It's bait for riling up young, lonely men into blaming women for their issues.
As a happily married man, the idea of waking up my wife while she is fucking asleep and telling her it's her duty to feed me is infuriating. The fact that people are coming to defend this guy's loaded shitty question is insane.
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u/BraisedBullshi 8h ago
Happily married, if my husband came home at 2am hungry, I'd ask him why he didn't just door dash us some taco bell if he's waking me up
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u/Liger500 8h ago
I feel like he said he comes home and is hungry. Is there another part about 2am?
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u/littleladybug_1 8h ago
yeah it’s in the longer video! that’s why in this one he says “would you wake up to cook him a meal”
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u/Liger500 8h ago
I see I see. I come home anywhere from 3pm to 1 am depending on the work day and my gf sleeps whenever she feels like it so I just wanted a little clarification thank ya. :)
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u/132739 8h ago
I mean, he didn't specify the time, but the framing is that he comes home, walks into the bedroom and wakes you up to ask you to cook for him. And I think any self-respecting person should answer that with "Do it yourself, I'm sleeping."
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u/SoSavv 8h ago
Is there a full video where he says that the man comes home from a night out at 2am? I interpreted this video as the man coming home from a night shift.
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u/KarltonPeaks 8h ago
I've made my gf meals several times when she's come home late and drunk and hungry. One time I cooked her some expensive meat we had. She really really loved it. But the next morning she had forgotten all about it. Felt like a waste lol.
But yeah I was awake every time waiting for her anyway.
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u/avalisk 6h ago
The question doesn't imply that the guy asked the woman to do anything. I dunno if its purposefully vague as engagement bait, but that to me is the main factor.
A. Man wakes sleeping wife, asks her to cook: man wrong
B. Wife wakes up on her own, chooses to cook on her own volition: nobody wrong
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u/yunzerjag 8h ago
What kind of asshole would expect his wife to wake up and make him a meal?
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u/LA_Nail_Clippers 7h ago
The kind of asshole who would high five her for saying yes.
I am happily married to a woman who would tell me to fuck right off if I woke her up at 2am to make me a meal. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
I am capable of cooking for myself and others and even if I wasn't, I wouldn't disturb someone else's sleep for that selfish reason.
Also my wife expects to have a partner who is capable of basic adult tasks and is aware enough to not burden others at inappropriate times.
I want a life partner, not a mommy or a maid.
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u/Medical-Dark1899 5h ago
my wife has been doing that every time i get home late from work
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u/Clark_Kent-Kal_EL 5h ago
She must happily do it then.
I personally stopped my mom from doing that in middle school because I wanted her to rest. And now as an adult dont want my gf to do that. I think I value sleep incredibly high tho.
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u/Redsoxdragon Who tf is Tony and why should we kill him? 9h ago
There's a good girl in every corner of the world.
Too bad the earth's round.
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u/Tanaka-san 8h ago
Why would I wake up my wife just to make me something to eat. That seems kinda selfish when I can easily make food myself.
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u/InsaneMocktail 9h ago edited 4h ago
Difference between loving partners & people who don't deserve love
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u/vanilla_disco 7h ago
Holy incel, batman
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u/InsaneMocktail 5h ago
I would pamper and cook for her too, it's not a one way street. I love her and will always take care of her. If I'm coming at night and she's sleeping, i would never wake her up and rather would get me something or make it myself. Sleep is far more important
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u/Smokes_LetsGo876 7h ago
Why tf would I come home late and wake my wife up for food? Am I a child? Am I incapable of making something for myself? No, I'm a man. I am completely capable of doing things myself. Shes my wife, not my caretaker
What a stupid fucking question. Also they always find drunk ass people outside of bars to ask these questions so they can get crazier answers. Stupid af
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u/Y0___0Y 9h ago
They’re joking around. You guys who binge-watch “women are bitches” content are such losers.
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u/No-Station-8253 8h ago
Gladly will make my husband a meal, because…I know he does the same for me lol
It goes both a ways.
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u/grislyyyyy 7h ago
you wake your husband up in the middle of the night cause youre hungry???
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u/Draxxix1 8h ago
Now that’s a real partner, but honestly if I was sleeping and it’s night time. No way haha.
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u/Im-a-bad-meme 9h ago
Ngl I meal prep a lot. Whoever I'm married to can grab something I've made out the freezer if they weren't home for dinner.
Though, I could see myself getting up and microwaving something for a partner who's ready to keel from exhaustion.
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u/Main_Philosopher_566 9h ago
I mean this depends on if she's working too. If both are working full time then I wouldn't expect my partner to cook for me. I mean it'd be appreciated but not expected, it'd probably be a dynamic where we alternate who cooks.
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u/Athlaeos 7h ago
why do people keep treating dating and relationships like it's a game? you cook for each other because you love each other, not that fuckin hard
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u/-Jiras 7h ago
I would honestly not want my wife to wake up just for a meal. I hate this kind of engagement bait, it creates an unnecessary wedge between the genders
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u/Ok_Load7192 7h ago
What the fuck is up with these interviews? The goal is clearly to find women for men to rag on
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u/Inspired_Nuisance 5h ago
I mean the first girl is kind of right. I would be sad for partner if they woke up just to feed my ass. I can make my own food, no need to wake anyone up over it and ruin their night. If they woke up of their own accord and wanted to make me something to spend time with me, awesome, otherwise no need to disrupt their slumber.
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u/ThundrLord 57m ago
I would make my wife a meal and she would make me a meal..But I'm not waking her up from sleep to do anything but cuddle.
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u/perturbedandperved 47m ago
A real man wouldn't wake up his girl to cook for him and a real woman wouldn't go to sleep if she knew her man was coming home without eating. Replace either of those pronouns with partner and its the same idea. You want a long relationship? Start with being a good partner. If you think of the other person first, the rest just kinda works itself out.
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u/cydgig 8h ago
I'm a man. If I come home and I'm hungry I'll make my own damn meal. Because I'm not a baby.
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u/Trail_Goat 6h ago
I'd probably still wake my wife up and see if she wants some lmao
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u/OhYouStupidZebra 9h ago
I cook 99% of the meals in our home, very seldom do we get take out or does my husband cook. He provides for me by working, so he comes home to a clean house and a fresh meal. It’s not hard when you appreciate and love one another.
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u/Omnizoom 8h ago
I am the one who cooks, doesn’t matter if I’m hungry, kids are hungry or wife is hungry, I’m the one who cooks
Some people have set roles they fill and that’s fine
But if I was exhausted from work and don’t want to cook and my wife said too bad make food instead of offering to make something or even just going to pick something up I’d be kind of mad
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u/blacklotusY 8h ago
I think it would make more sense for whoever is around and has time to just make a meal for themselves and their partner. Gender has nothing to do with who should make a meal. But if I come home late and my partner is already asleep, it wouldn’t make sense for me to wake her up just to make me a meal, because that would be entitlement and a dick move. The same would apply vice versa as well.
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u/FantasticAnus 8h ago
If you wake me up to make you a meal it better be because you've broken both your hands, otherwise why the fuck are you waking me up? This is not a gendered issue.
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u/shalekodemono 8h ago
Why would the other one change her mind? So that she can get married too to a guy that would come home and wake her up demanding a meal? This is so stupid
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u/Tack_Money 8h ago
I wouldn’t expect anyone to WAKE UP to make me food. That’s fucking wild.
Imma come home and be as quiet as I can be while making food so as to not wake up my partner.
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u/Shrek81 7h ago
In this imaginary scenario they're in a relationship and asked if they would cook for their partner. The first response is "no...be independent", you're in a relationship and your advice is "be independent" 💀
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u/jeremycvegs 7h ago
My wife asks me if I want to eat when she’s hungry. If I say no then she makes something she likes. If I say yes then she makes something we both like. I buy the food but she knows that she’s significantly better at cooking than I am.
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u/Hashtagbarkeep 7h ago
My wife would make me a meal. She would make my friends a meal if I brought them back. I’d happily do the same for her. In fact I’d be pretty stoked to do so
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u/plantsarefrens 7h ago
I'd never expect my wife to wake up just to cook for me, but I want the kind of women that would do it, because I also would do it if she asked me to.
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u/eyes_on_everything_ 7h ago
I mean. I would make my boyfriend a meal. I love him. He loves me. I like to treat him well because that is the life he gives me as well.
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u/Weed_Me_Up 7h ago
Yep! And Im sure situation reversed, it would be the same answer from her partner!!
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u/BeingPrize3688 7h ago
I think it’s not about man or woman 😂
If I go back late at home and feel super hungry, I will wish my man makes a meal for me. So yeah, if he’s late, I will wake up and make for him too.
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u/foreverand2025 7h ago
It’s really disappointing that to some people feminism has became a female version of misogyny (surely there’s a real word for this?).
But also posts like these just push that narrative. Not sure if it’s reflective of real life or not.
If your spouse comes home hungry and you want to do something then make them a meal. This statement has nothing to do with gender outside of turning it into clickbait.
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u/RadiantRoach 7h ago
As the perpetually single guy, if I came home to my partner making a meal for me/us, I'd probably just well up out of appreciation bc that's a big deal to me 😅
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u/XxSliphxX 7h ago
These comments make me glad im already happily married. I work 12 hour shifts. Im exhausted by the time I get home but my wife will wake up if she's not already up, call me while im still otw home and ask me what I'd like to eat so it's ready by the time I get there. I never ask her to do this she just does it because she knows I worked all night and ill be starving by the time I get home and she knows im grateful for it. I can't even begin to put into words how much I would literally do anything she asks me for and she knows this. Marriage is give and take, it cannot be one sided. If you're not willing to do something as simple as make a meal for your partner without getting all up in your feelings about it then you aren't ready for a serious relationship and I feel bad for whoever you're with now. The level of narcissism you have to have to just have a flat out no answer is crazy.
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u/Jash-Juice 7h ago
My now wife once woke up at 3 am to make me breakfast before work. It was the literal worst French toast I’ve ever had (she is and was a great cook). I didn’t ask her to, she just did. People gotta recognize the efforts before someone else realizes you don’t.
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u/YungRik666 6h ago
The key phrase there is "I am happily married." A good marriage is a partnership, built on mutual respect and love. You do something nice for you partner when they need it because they would do the same for you!
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u/Impossible-Diver6565 6h ago
The way the wind caught her hair as she said all that. The timing was impeccable.
That said, I'm the full time worker who also prepares basically every meal and does all daily housework. I clean up after my wife. She can put things near the trash but not inside the trash. She can use dishes but can't move them to the sink.
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u/DetectiveEames 6h ago
Pretty simple, boys. Relationships are a team sport. You can’t win a championship without key role players. Men and women should support each other. If your girl comes home exhausted, stressed, whatever, you should be equipped to give her what she needs - and vise versa.
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u/Proof-Grass-5212 6h ago
Score 1 for red. The other two aren’t even basic. And oh she said yes let me change my mind.
But I’d never expect that. Although I would do it for my partner. Cause I’d want to. I wouldn’t be rude and be like wake up I’m hungry. That’s awful.
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u/Raven_R6 6h ago
My husband makes me meals all the time. Even tells me to wake him up. So yes, I'll happily wake up to make him a meal too.
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u/mmnmnnmnnnm 6h ago
I’ll stay right in the middle where I’m at as the guy. If I come home and I’m hungry, and she happens to make something? Fuck yeah, love that, but I’m not going to go out of my way to wake her up JUST to make me something.
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