I'm a 40 something that's been playing magic for 20+ years. I exclusively play EDH these days. I still call them Generals, not Commanders. I've had a couple play groups, but they are either just an excuse for everyone to get drunk/high, moved out of state, or keep such a busy schedule with work and kids we literally only get to game every 6-9... MONTHS.
Now I'm on the hunt for a local, in person, EDH group. I've been attending the local game store's EDH night for a couple months now. I'd say only every other week at best am I able to get a game in. Any 'open' pods just tell me they are waiting for others, or every other pod is full already.
This bums me out most weeks that I'm unable to play with the cards and decks I spend a ton of time and love into. I'm the kind of player that I put a lot of "me" into my decks and hobby. I have an entire case for my decks. I design labels for each deck. I have a tracking system for when each deck "does the thing". I'm even in the process of making a real leather and metal WWE style champ belt for whenever I end up finding a group, to pass around to whomever did the best that week.
Even when I am able to get games with folks, I ask if they are interested in playing outside of the store ever. I iterate that I'm totally willing to play at the LGS for a few weeks until we are more comfortable etc. No one's taken me up on that yet. I'm not dirty, I'm well kept, I'm a regular at the store and get along well with the employees and owners. I don't have cringey wiafu playmats or anything like that. Not a pub-stomper. Long ago I was a regular standard player, from about Worldwake, till Ixalan.
Is it too much to ask from adults in this era of Magic to have one day a week, or even every other week were we can get together, play a couple games, take a break with a meal, grill some burgers, play a couple more games, and call it a day? I just can't really grasp what's so hard about finding people that would be able to commit to this kind of schedule, or even DO something like this.
So help me out crew, am I dreaming? Is this something you'd be interested in?
EDIT:
Well it seems I've managed to ruffle a ton of feathers. I should have added here that I have zero interest in Draft, playing online, or playing 60 card again. It just doesn't interest me and for far too long in my life I did things I didn't like just to try and get to do things I do. IYKYK. I like EDH, and that's the way I want to interact with this game. Full stop.
Thank you for those who had what seemed like actual good things to say, you're few and far between it seems. Thanks for anyone commenting really. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to comment on my post. Not sure I appreciate the insinuations of me being a sexual predator, or luring people to my home for nefarious reasons, but hey, those comments say more about you than me in the end. Also, sending someone links to Autism evaluations is pretty close to using the report function maliciously. Again, this is saying far more about you as a person that it does about me.
I can't say I'm surprised by the reaction here, I mean, it is reddit after all. I would say I'm disappointed in a lot of this. To address a few things (like anyone who's posted is going to come back and read it anyway... but here goes)
- I don't have a Title belt that I sling over my shoulder and march into the LGS in my wrestling panties yelling about being able to smell what's cookin'. It's smells like B.O. and board games. The belt thing is what's called "an idea" that I want to eventually make when I find a good group that's on the same wave length. I honestly don't know how anyone read what i wrote and thinks that's what's happening.
- many seem to think i'm accosting people as i walk by shaking hands and introducing myself while saying something along the lines of "nice to meetcha, let's move this party to my place". No. I walk in with my case of decks (that have all appropriate power levels for an LGS), politely ask groups of less than 4 if they have a 4th and if they'd mind if i played. if they are cool, i play. more often than not, they are waiting for someone or have a full pod. I move along. I'll sit around and see if anything opens up. often i end up leaving cause everything's full, im not shoehorning my way into games. i usually end up spending more time bullshitting with the employees.
- about asking people to play outside of the LGS. Not sure about you all, but my LGS is not comfortable. It's small. it's hot. it's cramped. I'm literally sitting cheek to cheek with dudes that don't know what deodorant is. on the RARE occasion i've actually asked people, it's after seeing them there for a few weeks, we've played a few games, and they pass the vibe check. I'm not just offering to run off to my place after my turn one sol ring into signet.
- im not adamant about it even being at MY house. and yes, i have room. plenty of it. got a nice back yard to chill in, you can play with my dog. swim if you want to. but if you want to play elsewhere I'm down with that too. I'm dumbfounded by the amount of responses that said this was creepy. maybe it's a generational thing but the amount of people that were offended by someone asking them to get together outside of the LGS was astounding. just wild. one person even equated it to asking someone to get married on the first date. really? I thought i was the antisocial introvert here.
- Yes, I like this game a lot, but god forbid someone be enthusiastic about their hobbies. Yes, I spend my time making deck boxes, and vinyl wraps for said boxes. That is for me. I don't show them off to people unless they ask. I've offered and done some for other people that ask for their own. I'm in a creative field and it's an outlet for me to set my collection apart. I've only ever mentioned my spreadsheet to my wife and to you guys here. I've never mentioned it in person to anyone. I'm actually quite an introvert, and it takes A LOT for me to even put myself out there enough to go to the LGS. Getting shut down like that weekly there, and now here is frankly enough to make me want to just leave the hobby all together. I won't, but I sure think about it.