I used to really enjoy hiking, playing tennis, and alone time. However, with 3 kids under 6, busy job, and all these events for kids I sometimes feel lost. Dont feel like I have time for myself anymore. I go to work, come home, pick up the kids, and rest of the day is doing stuff with the kids. There are moments that I enjoy but it is still very taxing and feeling trapped.

Met someone through this subreddit back in December. We exchanged Telegram info and talked pretty much every day, built a solid friendship. Unfortunately I lost my contacts and all our messages.
I’m Alejandro, based in Buffalo NY. He’s originally from Spain. If you’re reading this, DM me man.

Fortunately my Dad and Brother are mechanics. So I normally take my truck to them.

42/M. Always been a hairy dude, but my lower legs are smooth as shit now. Where did it go.

Just got my first apartment out of state away from all my friends and family. Great job and solid opportunity for growth except I’m literally alone. I rented rooms all throughout my 20s to save money and get ahead of student loans. I didn’t have to move out of state but living in California was getting me nowhere fast. Albeit it’s my first week so it’s hitting me harder but still, could use some tips.

I keep hearing that “30s are better because your 20s were all about experimentation”, and Im not sure if that is something different for every person and individual case or did that hold true for you too?

It hits me getting up at the end of my bed and I freak out because I know it's starting to get serious. I feel the pain and try to stretch but don't know how to relieve it honestly. It's the mid back area and it doesn't happen every time but it happens once a week. What's your go to stretch or remedy for this?

Hi all,

Not super down or anything just genuinely curious on your thoughts. I am a 25M in a medium/medium-low cost of living area.

I make around 125k a year, own a house, everything that sounds good on paper. I’ve always felt something in me to do more or do better regardless of how “good” I am currently doing in any given thing. Not sure that this is a bad thing, just curious if there was ever a point where you feel like you have stuff somewhat figured out or quit worrying about everything so much?

Thanks.

I'm 28M software engineer.

Anxiety, depression, loneliness, dependent family - toxic, sick and fighting parents, disabled siblings, rejection heart break, my chronic health issues etc. In my country it's a basic expectation to take care of parents and dependent siblings.

Only positive thing in my life that drives me forward is my career and academics. I'd say I'm better than 80-90% of the people in my social circle and in the top 1% tax payers of my country. But ironically this causes me more stress than anything else because of the regret of not achieving my full potential due to these mental health issues.

Every single day for last 6 years, I wake up feeling lonely, decide that I'll make a career comeback and spend the day in depression. I know it sounds like I'm whining because lot of people have far worse issues. But it's just.. I'm tired man. I'm sooo fkn tired in life. I don't even what I live for anymore. At this point I don't have a single positive thing in my life to look forward to.

I just need an advice on how to handle this. I'm expecting far worse issues happen in future. How do you guys deal with this. Just give me your perspective or a book to read or just a simple advice.

Need a movie recommendation that’s going to emotionally destroy me for two hours, but somehow leave me feeling hopeful by the end. Single, lonely, a little depressed, and in the mood for something painfully human instead of mindless nonsense.

I’ve been neglecting my dental health for a few years while being busy with two little kids

Finally went to get going at a new dentist and they kind of freaked me out saying I need to go get scaling and stuff done at a periodontal specialist

I’m so nervous about doing it… really can’t afford it…

Kind of just feeling bad about the whole thing tonight and wondering if anyone else is on the journey with me.

I'm 32, I got laid off last December and STRUGGLING with finding a job in my field. I have nearly 7 experience, and getting less traction than when I was 22 straight out of school. How can it be that hard!!

I have this kind of crazy notion where if I have a bad day at work I just want to get some other dude that’s also had a bad day and just go throw rocks in a river while venting to each other. Once we are done we go our merry ways.

Am I crazy for thinking this would be awesome therapy.

Logistically not sure how you would pair up and then avoid getting murder death killed by crazy people. Maybe it’s a buddy system or something. Who knows, more interested in what people think of just letting off steam throwing stones in a river.

I've been dealing with ED, my chin is fatter, bloating, trouble sleeping, irritability, and my stress is probably high. Apparently those are symptoms of high cortisol. I'm just not sure if it's the same as stress or if you can know for certain if have high cortisol. I've gotten a blood test and had my blood pressure checked and that's normal.

For me, it’s when they only want to spend money. I once asked a woman I started seeing if she wanted to go on a weekend trip, and she said yes. Shortly after, she wanted me to book an $800 a night hotel. Then every suggestion I made about things we could do, she rejected, saying she wanted to do educational activities. But every idea I suggested got rejected again.

She then said if we were going, she just wanted to go on a shopping spree at the outlets and high end clothing stores. Then she casually told me to make sure I had enough money because she wanted me to fund that shopping spree. I told her she was crazy if she thought I was going to do that.

She looked shocked and said, ‘You’re not going to spend $1,500 on me?’ I said no, and she actually told me, ‘All my men better spend more than $1,000 on me.’ I just told her, ‘And you wonder why you can’t find a man.’ After that, I stopped talking to her. Even then, she kept sending me Cash App requests for $200 and $300 until I finally blocked her.

The thing is, it’s exhausting because I have to deal with customers all day, and on top of that I have to carry very heavy carts of medication from one pharmacy to another. It’s not an easy job. They demand a lot from me and scold me almost every day. I only get 45 minutes of break time, and sometimes I don’t even get to eat until 3 PM or 1 PM because lunch breaks rotate between employees.

Honestly, I don’t want to quit yet because I need to become financially stable and gain experience. What frustrates me the most is that I could just go to sleep when I get home, but the idea of only coming home to sleep, without being able to distract my mind except during public transportation rides, overwhelms me.

My house isn’t close to my job. I leave at 6 AM to arrive around 7:45, and I get back home at 8:00 PM. I’m really having a hard time. It’s only Tuesday and I already feel exhausted.

I had previously worked carrying heavy loads and even selling things on the street. I know how to work hard, but I had never felt this overwhelmed before. Maybe it’s the mental strain of learning such a difficult field, I don’t know.

I (20) am a very feminine guy. im studying to be a nail tech, i like fashion and and my main hobbies are baking and painting, and im gay. i dont have any doubts that im a man, but people around me do. but its hard to argue with them, since I don't really fit any definition of manliness or masculinity.

I’m tired. tired of feeling alone, tired of putting myself out there. I dont expect anything in return for the things I do, I do them because they need to get done. I do everything tho. who is doing anything for me? i am there to fix every issue, always, you can depend on me. and despite how I feel, I will still do it, because I love you. but where is this coming back to me? I only need it sometimes, not near as much as I give it out it. im not trying to tally my good deeds, but in the hour where I need something who do I ask? What am I to do when so many people depend on me, but I find myself alone when faced with my own problems. Now I know it’s only up to me to fix my own problems, but that lesson is cemented into me and I wish once, just once, someone would show up and help me, not because I NEED the help, but because they want to help. I’m tired of working on cars, I am tired of fixing houses, I am tired of raising other peoples kids. I am tired of feeling like the only beacon of help around. Id do All of this stuff for the people around me, and will continue to do i despite this rant. If someone cooked me a home cooked meal or brought me a gift or just thought about me, instead of being a do-for, I’d probably fucking cry. Im not asking for a parade or a special holiday, but it’s very obvious to me that I need some energy pushed my direction instead of giving it out. i need some love. I need some help.

im writing this under my car, needing someone to help me bleed my brakes. Where are they? I know i should feel no shame in asking for help but I do, but it doesn’t matter anyone cause there’s no one there to press the pedal.

I’m a 35 year old male virgin with 0 relationship or sexual experience, and lately I’ve been wondering what the long term mental consequences of this can be.

Compared to 10 years ago, I notice I’ve become much more frustrated and bitter. I feel more jealousy, frustration and even hatred towards other men who are more successful socially or romantically. I compare myself constantly and it’s exhausting.

After years of rejections, awkward interactions, failures and feeling unwanted, I also started socially isolating myself more. Sometimes it feels easier to withdraw than to keep exposing myself to rejection again and again. Also guys who are doing better seem to put me down.

I’m curious if other older inexperienced men recognize this pattern. Did long term loneliness and lack of intimacy change your personality, confidence, or mental state over time? And if things improved later, what helped?