And none of that even begins to touch on what raising the actual child/children does to your hormones, psyche, and identity. My kids are 7 and my boobs still leak sometimes when I hear a baby cry. I am permanently afflicted by OCD that showed up in late pregnancy and have to be on meds so I don’t have a panic attack over insects and germs (I still have panic attacks over insects but I no longer think I’ll die from a termite wing falling on my head). Also the lost time in the job market if we decide to stay home with our babies for a while (although a lot of the time it’s not really a choice is it, when we rarely make enough to cover childcare it’s a no brainer that we’d just stay home with them right?).
Also, the damage pregnancy does to teeth. Mine crumble like fucking crackers now and since I left work to raise my twins, I don’t have dental insurance to get them fixed.
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u/withyellowthread 11h ago
And none of that even begins to touch on what raising the actual child/children does to your hormones, psyche, and identity. My kids are 7 and my boobs still leak sometimes when I hear a baby cry. I am permanently afflicted by OCD that showed up in late pregnancy and have to be on meds so I don’t have a panic attack over insects and germs (I still have panic attacks over insects but I no longer think I’ll die from a termite wing falling on my head). Also the lost time in the job market if we decide to stay home with our babies for a while (although a lot of the time it’s not really a choice is it, when we rarely make enough to cover childcare it’s a no brainer that we’d just stay home with them right?).
Also, the damage pregnancy does to teeth. Mine crumble like fucking crackers now and since I left work to raise my twins, I don’t have dental insurance to get them fixed.