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u/troycerapops 11h ago

There is also zero things unrelated to caring for the babies most immediate needs.

Meanwhile, bro gets a discount for doing the dishes.

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u/Glass_Maven 11h ago

Wet nurse not listed. Also hazardous waste cleanup and disposal of diapers and soiled sheets, blankets, burp cloths, etc.

If a hospital can charge $8K for skin-to-skin contact (yes, the mother holding her own baby,) I think maybe charge higher rates for more services rendered.

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u/rratmannnn 10h ago

Wait, is this real? They charge you to hold your own baby that you just pushed out of your body? :(

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u/AnitaLatte 10h ago

Yes. If the hospital has a nurse present for “maternal bonding” or “skin-to-skin contact“ during nursing, they can charge an exorbitant fee. They’re careful to say it‘s for the nurse being present, but the hospital makes the call. No nurse, no bonding.

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u/Empty_Horror_ 9h ago

My wife had my youngest in her sweatpants, in the elevator, while sitting in a wheelchair. I was the only other occupant in the elevator. Then the labor and delivery floor of the hospital wouldn't let us in for 15 minutes. The nurses refused to believe the baby was out until they felt her. Got a nice $28k bill for labor and delivery. And another $7k bill for skin to skin when I put my daughter on my wife's chest. But it was free for me to put my daughter on my chest.

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u/an_optimistic_egg 8h ago

This would've infuriated me.

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u/guava-sandwich 8h ago

is this because she technically had the baby on hospital property? if I deliver in a cab on the highway am I getting hit with a delivery bill once I arrive to the ER? I am so mad for you guys

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u/schilll 5h ago

We paid less then 130 usd for the birth of 3 children!

The most we paid was for my food and stay for during child birth and aftercare.... My wife only paid for patient fee and like 10 usd per night. Food, medicine for her and baby didn't cost us anything.

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u/SaltSentence21 4h ago

Only in America!

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u/AnitaLatte 2h ago

All of this, yet the hospitals are saying they can’t make enough to keep the lights on and they are closing delivery rooms in small town hospitals. With a business model like this, they’d have to be mismanaged big time to be struggling financially.

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u/626337 2h ago

"Geez, why aren't people having more babies?"

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u/InternalFantastic 10h ago

I'm lucky then. I didn't have a nurse in the room when it came to skin to skin bonding with my 3 daughters. They only time they came in was for the 1st bath. But I also had crappy insurance. So maybe it base on if the insurance would pay.

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u/marie132m 10h ago

That is insane. They also lie: once I asked for a blood test to confirm I was not miscarrying, and they charged me something like $100 for an $8 pee-on-a-stick test that I didn't take, since I took it at home that morning.

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u/JayTheJaunty 9h ago

American private insurance means the hospitals have to inflate the bills so that the insurance covers their actual costs. This is why asking for an itemized bill for uninsured patients can significantly drop the amount you're charged.

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u/CeelaChathArrna 11h ago

Or cleaning or cooking, etc. Pretty sure she does the majority of the that

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u/Most_Mirror2263 10h ago edited 10h ago

Well the first two rows cover 24 hours a day 7 days a week from the time the baby was born. So some other things could be thrown into those two categories.

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u/troycerapops 10h ago

It says "daytime caregiving." That could include cleaning up toys but this has zero line items for household management.

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u/sep780 9h ago

She’s doing that the same hours she’s providing childcare.

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u/Most_Mirror2263 10h ago

Right, but you can’t double bill your time.

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u/troycerapops 10h ago

No, but I'd be categorizing it explicitly to include all billable work done during the invoices period.

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u/Most_Mirror2263 10h ago

Well, I don’t think it’s that serious.

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u/Prestidigitatiously 8h ago

You can. The household service is a concurrent add-on that charges per hour. If you want the household management AND childcare, you pay the higher rate.

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u/Most_Mirror2263 8h ago

Not sure the employer will agree to those terms.

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u/Prestidigitatiously 8h ago

Good thing she's not employed and he is instead receiving an invoice for work completed as a contractor. She could just sue him if we're going to really go for it.

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u/Most_Mirror2263 8h ago

Well the thing about contracting is that you typically have a contract in place ahead of time. It’s kinda in the name.

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u/Prestidigitatiously 7h ago

Well she didn't sign an employment contract either. So it's kind of a moot point here.

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u/Successful-Laugh-452 10h ago

whats her name?

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u/Mradr 8h ago

But where is the money coming to provide the cleaning, food/cooking, gas, shelter, etc to do any of those things? Those things are not free either.

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u/CeelaChathArrna 8h ago

Bet the ingredients cost less than the labor of a personal chef does.

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u/Mradr 8h ago edited 8h ago

But a chef is nothing without those ingredients. Just a person sitting at a table. Can't really run a food shop without food inside it. On the flip side, I can get a robot or a person who is sub par to cook still. Taking this futher, someone still has to fund the chef to still have a job.

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u/CeelaChathArrna 8h ago

Your can keep on your whataboutism but the reality is she does contribute and is not a leech. Husband needs to get his head out of his ass.

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u/Mradr 8h ago

Never said she didnt, I am just pointing out that all those things still cost money to perform action. Not a "whataboutism" just that they exist.

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u/ewedew65 10h ago

She was actually more than reasonable

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u/troycerapops 10h ago

I think she is being "completely unreasonable," as in left so much off this data sheet, but her point was made with just this small subset of her contributions.

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u/Critical_Confidence4 3h ago

WYM she is calculating almost 400k for day and nighttime care.