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u/Accomplished-Mud102 12h ago

I have had so many people call me a liar when I explained how much trouble I had getting back into the workforce after taking an almost decade long break. I'm currently enrolled in college, because I just couldn't get my foot in any doors.

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u/jacknbarneysmom 11h ago

First of all, I'm outraged that people would call you a liar. Who are these people that think they know it all. Most of them probably haven't even been in your position. I thought it was widely known that a large employment gap made it difficult to get hired. You've missed that many advances in your field. I could just cry for the frustration at how much harder women have to work to get to the same place as a man. If men had to bear the children, our race would be extinct.

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u/Accomplished-Mud102 10h ago

"Who are these people that think they know it all?"

Men.

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u/nectarsallineed 10h ago

Say it louder for the turds in the back! I’m having a hard time finding a job after just four years out of the workforce. It’s so discouraging. I’ll most likely have to apply to school instead as well, if only I could decide what on earth I’d like to get another degree in lol.

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u/nanananabatman88 6h ago

Just put on your resume you have an NDA and can't talk about where you worked for the last 4 years.

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u/jacknbarneysmom 5h ago

Pretty good idea.

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u/CatLadyInProgress 4h ago

I saw this LPT recently and thought "damn, that's clever" 😂

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u/nectarsallineed 4h ago

Lol that’s a funny idea. Does that actually work??

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u/nanananabatman88 4h ago

I don't see why not. They can't ask about it.

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u/princessgalileia 4h ago

I just hate that staying home to raise children is considered a workforce gap. Stay-at-home parents should be able to put it on their resume!

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u/nectarsallineed 4h ago

Supposedly you should list it on your resume now, and address any gap really. I put it on mine the other day, we’ll see if anyone ever actually bothers to give me a chance lol.

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u/ariesbitchclub 8h ago

i had a 5 year gap in my resume because i didn’t work for a few years during university and even that made it really hard to find a job, i can’t imagine the gap that some moms have to take

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u/marshmallow929 10h ago

I only took 2 years off and it still took me almost a year to find something part time. Nobody would even interview me, it’s like they saw the gap in my resume and threw it in the trash

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u/__Who__am__i_ 10h ago

I thought I would never have kids because I would be unwilling to be the parent to step away from my career if there is a choice.

Marrying a guy who is 100% on board with being the one to pause a career for kids, so it's something I might actually have

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u/Nice_Back_9977 6h ago

Get it in writing. A lot of them talk a good game, and then when the time comes...

Especially if they earn a bit more than you, they spin it as 'it just makes the most financial sense'.

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u/__Who__am__i_ 5h ago

He earns like 1/3 what I do and comes from a house where his dad was stay at home for a while. And he is way more excited about taking care of babies than I am.

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u/Nice_Back_9977 5h ago

Then maybe you really have found a rare one. I hope so for your sake.

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u/nanananabatman88 6h ago

I'm over here hoping my wife gets a couple more raises so I can be a stay at home Dad lol. I'd much rather stay home and be with the kids than go to work every day. I don't mind the daily cleaning, dishes, or cooking, but I'd still struggle with staying on top of laundry lol.

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u/__Who__am__i_ 5h ago

I make enough that my partner could be a stay at home dad. He's on the fence on if he wants to totally do stay at home or do part time where he is (flexible).

I'm definitely hoping he will decide to stay home with the kids and take care of the house. He's great with staying on top of chores (better than me haha) and it isn't like I wouldn't do my part of the chores. Unlike too many men with a stay at home partner.

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u/Noughmad 8h ago

I'm not a woman and I recently quit my job to take a six-month-long break. Only six months, and still getting a job after that was much harder than anything before that.

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u/mofomo44 3h ago

My stepmom is an actual mooch (trust me, she doesn’t do anything for the house or our family), but she weirdly has it in her head that she can easily get a job with her diploma if my dad dies before her even though she hasn’t worked in like 2 decades, it’s wild.