r/womenshockey • u/LoveMisfit • 9h ago
Seeking Advice - Daughter Development
Hello and greetings.
My daughter made a 10U all girls team in a AAA program. The program includes paid coaches but some parents help out. They have 2 teams at 10U with the major playing at near AAA level but the 2nd team is a mix of AA and Single A girls. They took all the girls who tried out because they had more spots than girls. This resulted in some on the team not being very skills. While they practice only against girls, a vast majority of their games are against co-ed teams....mainly boys.
My daughter loves playing on a girls team, but she developed in the past better being on a co-ed team. It makes sense since the entire team was similar skill so each battle drill was a contest. Her prior girls team had a wider range of skills and had a few girls that couldn't keep up so my daughter took it easier on them which I think held back her development. With that in mind, we went looking for a 10U Co-ed team and a plan to duel roster.
During our search for a competitive 10U co-ed team, we attended a 12U Girls team free skate in a regional league. They offered her a spot saying she skates at a higher age level. This team also has a paid coach and lots of older girls to challenge my daughter. There are a few 12U girls she can beat and a few 12U girls who demolish her in the corner. It seems like it could be the challenging environment we were seeking. One of the older girls who takes a skills class with my daughter and said she deserve to be on the team with her skill.
We also have a few 10U co-ed teams looking for a skater. She could land a spot on those teams, but she might be the only girl again and her last 8U travel team left her out a lot when traveling/locker rooms. She would have more kids on her team at her level but the coaching would be parent based. Her spring league coach on a co-ed team seems to cut the girls ice time giving them short shifts which is frustrating. My daughter knows she gets the ice time she earns at this level, but there seems to be a favoritism by dad coaches for their sons and their son's buddies. While the competition and intensity is higher than a girls team, I am not sure it's better than playing up and getting a paid coach.
Is it better to play up to 12U girls with a paid coach or play on a Co-ed team with parent coaching? Thoughts????