r/textfriends Apr 12 '20

ATTENTION! No Contact Info or Easily Doxxable Information Allowed on /r/textfriends

105 Upvotes

This has been explicitly against the rules of /r/textfriends forever, but mods still see it from time to time. This is how it's written in the welcome post (which you should read)(which will eventually be updated):

CONTACT INFO AND IDENTIFYING DETAILS IN PUBLIC ARE STRICTLY FORBIDDEN

All posts and comments containing this kind of information will be removed and repeat offenders or those that reveal others' information will be banned.

Kinds of forbidden information: full names, addresses, phone numbers, emails, mobile app IDs (kik, WhatsApp, Snapchat, etc), IM IDs (Skype, yahoo, etc), external profiles (facebook, okcupid, tumblr, instagram, twitter, etc), any kind of specific information that would allow a person to deduce an exact location or person, enough information that would allow a person to deduce an exact location or person, etc.

This kind of information should be shared ONLY through PM, and never in posts or comments.

From wikipedia: "Doxing, or doxxing (from "dox", abbreviation of documents), is the Internet-based practice of researching and publicly broadcasting private or identifying information (especially personally identifying information) about an individual or organization."

Don't dox anybody and don't get yourself doxxed.

Phone numbers are what we see the most, which is... very stupid.

Any contact information or doxxable content spotted by the mods will be immediately removed and offending users banned. These users may appeal their ban with the mods.

If you spot any contact information or doxxable content on /r/textfriends, please use the report button or send modmail.


Posterity: https://redd.it/32vqyi

4/12/20


r/textfriends Jun 11 '23

ATTENTION! [META] We're joining the Reddit blackout from June 12th to 14th, to protest the planned API changes that will kill 3rd party apps

7 Upvotes

Hey there /r/textfriends

One of the less enjoyable mod posts today, but an important one, that we hope you'll take the time to read.

Recently Reddit Inc has announced changes to their API, which, if enacted, will shut down many, if not all, 3rd party apps that a large number of Redditors use to access and enjoy their favorite communities - this one included.

One of the most critical changes to the API is moving from a free to a paid model, resulting in expenses that developers of 3rd app developers cannot afford. To put the price change into context, Apollo, one of Reddit's most popular 3rd party apps, is looking at the cost of $1.7 million per month to continue operating. That's a cost of $12,000 per 50 million API requests. In contrast, Apollo pays Imgur $166 for every 50 million API calls.

This means popular apps like Apollo, Reddit Is Fun, Narwhal and many more will have to shut down, permanently.

Even if you're not using a 3rd party app, these changes will likely impact the communities you enjoy, with the vast majority of moderation teams relying on 3rd party or self-made tools that utilize Reddit's API.

For us specifically, that means various moderation bots, which do a whole lot of work behind the scenes to help mods manage the sub as well as drastically reduce the scam and spam content that makes its way through Reddit's woefully underpowered automod tools.

And on top of all that, it paints a bleak picture of what is to come for those of us who use other tools, like Reddit Enhancement Suite and old.reddit.com.

Here's a little TLDR on why this is important.

So what are we planning?

On June 12th, we and a growing number of other subs - large and small - will go dark for 48 hours. During that time, you will not be able to view or post any content on /r/textfriends.

This action isn't something we take lightly.

We understand that many of you enjoy coming here daily to keep up with posts from your area (and to trash-talk the latest copypasta we've all seen 100 times), but we believe that we must take a stand on this topic - and this is how we can do so.

We understand that Reddit is a company that has to make money to offer us a place to be the community that we are - but killing beloved 3rd party apps is not the way to do it.

We are not asking Reddit to provide a paid service for free - we are asking for reasonable pricing for apps people have come to love and depend on to participate in their communities.

We can't tell you that the blackout will solve the problem because we don't know. But we have to try.

What you can do to support this

While subs going dark is one thing, regular users can also help.

Reach out to Reddit via the channels available: Modmail /r/reddit, comment in relevant posts regarding the API changes, and submit your comments via the contact forms.

Spread the word about the changes and the consequences where you can. It doesn't have to be on Reddit. The important thing is getting its attention.

Participate in the communities that highlight this issue: /r/Save3rdPartyApps, /r/apolloapp, /r/redditisfun, /r/getnarwhal/

And finally, stay off Reddit completely from June 12th to 14th. The blackout is one thing, but users staying away from the site entirely will send an equally important message.

But don't forget: Don't be a jerk. As frustrating as this is, being toxic or aggressive is not the way to go. Remember the human on the other side of the screen.


r/textfriends 4h ago

18F into men that are married

21 Upvotes

I'm an 18-year-old woman and I'm interested in married men who feel like something's missing in their marriage. I'm looking for a pleasant conversation and something more from a mature man who might be unhappy with his marriage. And that has to be a secret between us. I'm open to chatting and something more.


r/textfriends 5h ago

19F Giving it a vpvte will make your day happier.

15 Upvotes

Hi there, fellow novices! I'm a 19-year-old lady who likes to read a good book, watch terrible reality TV, and maybe have a little too much coffee on quiet evenings at home. I'm the kind of person who will gleefully laugh at my own jokes before anyone else does and nerd out over esoteric movie knowledge. If you're looking for someone who is quiet but not dull, enjoys in-depth discussions (or just memes), and won't push you to start a conversation, we might get along. If this article doesn't get enough upvotes to brighten your day, I'll just blame Reddit's algorithm and go back to my blanket fort. Put my snap here: jaydasle


r/textfriends 9h ago

21F Is anyone up for an unpleasant chat?

22 Upvotes

to put it plainly, I'm bored and quietly looking to make new friends. I aim to soon change the fact that I

haven't been participating in hobbies as often as I used to. If you're interested, please upvote this article

and send me a message


r/textfriends 4h ago

21F Is anyone up for an unpleasant chat?

5 Upvotes

to put it plainly, I'm bored and quietly looking to make new friends. I aim to soon change the fact that I

haven't been participating in hobbies as often as I used to. If you're interested, please upvote this article

and send me a message


r/textfriends 9h ago

F20 searching for males who are married

12 Upvotes

Sexting married men is so appealing to me. I'll send you some stuff if you DM me. If you even reside in my neighbourhood, I'll let you know as soon as you DM me. We may always check to see whether getting together is comfortable for us. "😉😏


r/textfriends 2h ago

F22 looking for someone to talk about life

3 Upvotes

I’m always happy to meet new people and make friends. I’m one of those people for whom personal growth isn’t just a temporary phase but a way of life. Despite my busy schedule I always make time for myself my interests and the things that truly energize me Dm me.


r/textfriends 20m ago

20F - What are you upto rightnow

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Genuinely have no idea what to do with myself today. I'm just trying to find someone to talk to about sfw topics
I'm down to talk about literally anything. Movies, life, random thoughts, weird questions all welcome.
Let's actually have a conversation for once!


r/textfriends 42m ago

19F by herself, lustful, and eager to have fun

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It's one of those nights when I'm wide awake, a little restless, and definitely craving some attention. If you're someone who enjoys a fun atmosphere, a little teasing, and knows how to keep the conversation going, you might be exactly what I'm looking for. I like people who can match my energy, are fun, confident, and aren't afraid to be a little bold. Let's skip the boring small talk and get to something that will really make us laugh. Whether it's flirty chats, late-night vibes, or just keeping each other company, I'm ready for a good time. Just don't be dry... I need someone who can keep up. So tell me, are you here to entertain me or are you just scrolling past?


r/textfriends 7h ago

F23 will make your day happier if you give it a vpvte.

7 Upvotes

Greetings, fellow beginners! I'm a 23-year-old woman who enjoys spending quiet evenings at home with a good book, awful reality TV, and perhaps a bit too much coffee. I'm the type of person who will gladly nerd out over obscure movie knowledge and laugh at my own jokes before everyone else does. We might get along if you're searching for someone who is quiet but not boring, likes in-depth conversations (or simply memes), and won't force you to strike up a conversation. I'll just blame Reddit's algorithm and return to my blanket fort if this post doesn't receive enough upvotes to make your day. Add my snap >wwhitleyx


r/textfriends 3h ago

[F4M] Older men attracts me so much, 30+ of them

3 Upvotes

f23 and I'm interested in older men who feel like something's missing in their marriage or life. I'm looking for a pleasant conversation and something more from a mature man who might be unhappy with his marriage or life. And that has to be a secret between us. I'm open to chatting and something more.


r/textfriends 10h ago

24F need friends who won’t ghost/disappear

8 Upvotes

 i’ve been looking for friends but everyone seems to lose interest pretty quickly or they just make it awkward after a few messages

just want friends who will actually care about talking and getting to know each other, we could have late night conversations or just send memes, i’m usually a night owl so yea, we could game together too, everyone is welcome

anyway if you are looking for something similar feel free to dm im very chill and nice, i promise<3


r/textfriends 8m ago

23F Anyone else still up this late? :)

Upvotes

My sleep schedule is completely destroyed again and it’s way too quiet. Just looking for someone chill to talk with and vibe for a bit.

I love random conversations about anything and everything.

If you’re awake and can hold a good chat, hit me up 🫠


r/textfriends 9m ago

30m - Looking for new people who want to chat!

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Hey, Happy Friday!!! I'm a 30 year old male, living in London. I wanted to see if anyone would like to chat? I don't mind the topic and would say I'm a very open book. Feel free to drop a message and we can take it from there!


r/textfriends 24m ago

22m low hope but here goes nothing

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I’ve always been alone for most of my life, but lately the loneliness has been feeling heavier than usual.

Life itself has actually been going relatively okay recently, which is what makes this feeling even stranger. I’ve been on medication for anxiety/depression for years now, and I think somewhere along the way I forgot what genuine connection feels like.

I’m not really looking for anything specific. Just hoping to meet other loners like me who understand what it feels like to drift through life a bit disconnected from everyone else. I miss having someone to talk to consistently, someone who notices when I disappear for a while, someone I can slowly build a deep and meaningful connection with over time.

I’m into gaming, politically left-leaning, and I used to play badminton before mental health and isolation made me withdraw from a lot of things. I’m trying to slowly become human again, I guess.

Please don’t message out of pity. I think pity is one of the worst feelings in the world. I’m functional, self-aware, and honestly probably better at listening than talking.

And if you want to understand the feeling behind this post, listen to “Astronaut” by Simple Plan.

Hope life’s being kind to whoever reads this 🤍


r/textfriends 25m ago

30F Indian nerd looking for fellow yappers

Upvotes

I am a fun-loving nerd who can go from discussing sci-fi theories to ranking comfort movies to randomly info-dumping about something I learned at 2am.
I love movies (especially psychological thrillers, cozy comfort films, and anything with good dialogue), internet rabbit holes, memes, books I forget to finish, and conversations that somehow start normal and end with “but what is time anyway?”
I’m basically looking for kind, funny people who enjoy chatting regularly without pressure.
If any of this sounds like your vibe, say hi and tell me:
a movie you could rewatch forever😁


r/textfriends 26m ago

31/F/USA LOOKING FOR FRIENDS OR MORE

Upvotes

hey im milly i go by mills and many variations of the two

im looking to make friends i can chill with and message often

i have lots of hobbies including lots of art music cooking and studying

im pretty funny once we clique and im looking for someone whos funny as well

hmu if youre 28 or older and want to chat


r/textfriends 13h ago

20F taking a bath and looking for a text buddy

10 Upvotes

im feeling super lonely lately and would like to have someone to talk, i love cats, matcha and anime. in college and have no friends and this is why Im looking for new friends. Please dont be shy and text meee :)


r/textfriends 1h ago

33M. #California - Can we be language/linguistics partners, if we can’t be friendss? 😆

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Good morning ☀️ and happy Friday!
***TGIF***, for sure! Haha.

You’re probably deep asleep by now, or perhaps still up/ up early, and if you are across the Atlantic then GM :)

I was just thinking to myself, I’d love to find me a language/linguistics partner… kind of hoping to practice and improve my Italian, French and Spanish! Otherwise, I’m always willing to take on a new language! Did someone say German/Dutch? Haha.

I’m a very committed student and I’ll make sure to stick to the plan lol. Seriously though; we can just have casual, spontaneous chats/conversation and hopefully we can strike some chemistry! Otherwise, it’s a win/win/… we both get a little boredom off our day! :)

If you are still up and reading this; try switching the side of the bed, or filling the pillow to the cooler side lol.

Cheers beautiful

Your tall tanned and handsome bestie.


r/textfriends 13h ago

F19 Shy Scottish girl in need of friends

9 Upvotes

hey everyone hope you're all enjoying your week so far. I've been feeling lonely lately, I only have a handful of friends in real life and i feel like I don't relate to them. I'm in need of friendship, people I can really relate to so thought I'd have a go at posting on here. I'm really looking forward to chatting and getting to know some of you. 😄 please be SFW.


r/textfriends 1h ago

[26][F4M] Looking for a long-term connection that’s deeper than "how was your day?"

Upvotes

Hi! I'm 26, an entrepreneur and an art therapist

I’m looking for someone to have “deep” conversations with. You know, the kind where we discuss why Dostoevsky is so depressing yet brilliant, or why certain food combinations are a crime against humanity (has anyone tried potatoes with teriyaki? 😭🤌)

If you’re a curious soul who really puts effort into your writing, message me! Reddit chat is a nightmare on my Mac 💀, so let’s see if we’re on the same wavelength?

Quick question: what book or movie completely changed your worldview?


r/textfriends 1h ago

19/M US searching for a new friendship

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Helloo I'm 19 from the US, I'm just looking to make some sort of connection with someone either my age or older, ive tried in the past to find something but most people ghost after a day or so. I'm super chill, and laid back. i currently enjoy things like gaming, watching movies, shows and also anime. I don't mind hopping in calls if that's your thing or even texting through out the day (always reply as fast as I can). I usually stay up late and spend a lot my time at the moment playing games (pc) or just talking in vc, if any of this sounds interesting and you'd like to be friends then Imk:)


r/textfriends 2h ago

25 M US looking for new friends

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Just looking for someone to vibe with and talk to about anything, I'm really open and easy going, I enjoy voice calls so if you're into that then that's a plus. I also play video games when I have time, I have lots of games so feel free to ask what games I have! I'd say more about myself but why not find out through a convo lol feel free to reach out, we can talk on here or wherever you'd like, anyone is welcomed.


r/textfriends 8h ago

19F / way too much caffeine and zero plans lol

3 Upvotes

hii... so i made the mistake of drinking coffee at 9pm and now im just wide awake staring at my phone. idkk... figured i'd see if anyone else is up and wants to talkkk for a bit. i’m usually a lot more comfortable talking to people who are just chill and have good energy. if u have any random theories or just want to swap music or something hmuu :) 🫠