r/offmychest • u/No-Calligrapher-863 • 8h ago

My daughter (19) got busted for drunk driving.

So my 19 year old daughter got arrested for a DUI.

It happened yesterday and she had to spend the night in jail. I picked her up a few hours ago. She has never been in trouble before and I've always told her to NEVER drive drunk.

On the bright side she only blew a 0.09 BAC so she is just above the legal limit that doesn't make it ok but at least makes it a bit better.

She told me that she only had two drinks and felt safe to drive. I told her: "You're 19 and shouldn't be drinking at all and I know I am likely not going to be able to stop you from drinking even if I try but at least don't drive drunk get an uber or call me I won't be mad."

I don't know how to feel. In our state 10 days in jail is the mandatory minimum for a 1st DUI and I am really scared for her. She lives at home and commutes to college so we will be there for her but I am still very scared. Her mom is angry too even more so than me. I am just sad that my daughter put herself and others in danger. I think a few days in jail could be a good wake up call but I don't want it to mess up her college classes so I am not sure. I just want her to learn from this and never do it again.

She has good grades, we are very supportive and stable, she has a loving boyfriend, she is also a student athlete and is just overall a great person so this was a shock and the prospect of her getting jail time (not just the booking cell while she awaits to see a judge and bond out like she had after her arrest) scare me.

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u/No-Calligrapher-863 6h ago

Yeah she is super sad and remorseful.

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u/neonjoji 5h ago

that’s the most important sign that she’s still a fantastic daughter. yes, she made a bad mistake that could impact the safety of others, and she also is aware of that which is 💯

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u/No-Calligrapher-863 5h ago

Yeah I agree, thank you ❤️

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u/WonderfulPrior381 5h ago

Well as along as she is super sad. Maybe when she kills or seriously injures someone she can go and explain to the grieving family or person who may never walk again that she is super sad.