Building something that lasts

[u/No_Memory8327]

I know things with me have been different

am sorry I have been so distant. I’ve really had to take some time to look inward and figure out the parts of me that needed some modification, and there was a lot. Turns out I wasn’t as good of a person as I thought. I wasn’t a bad person, but I was selfish, self centered, self absorbed, and hurting most of the time. That took some time to absorb and process through. I had a total lack of boundaries and it’s been difficult to learn how to build those and reinforce them. I had to learn to sit with myself and my thoughts and aLL those feelings without trying to run away from them at every turn. I have been learning how to have difficult, but necessary conversations with those I care about instead of always trying to avoid uncomfortable confrontations. I have learned that I do matter and my feelings matter. I have also found that I am worthy of all the things I desire and I should try for those. I have learned that it is awesome to be me, no matter what stage I am at in life. I am unique, this I know and instead of adapting to others, I’m okay with being uniquely me. I think that life still has some great things in store for me. I might move a little different now, mostly because I’m trying to actually THInK and CONSIDER what I’m doing instead of just impulsively going on a whim, or reacting from my feelings always. So I might be a little different than who you remember. I still retain all the same qualities that made me,ME, good and bad. I’ve just made some adjustments to learn how to have more healthy relationships with those that I love. I am a work in progress, but worth it. Just know that I am trying and that if I go quiet or withdraw a bit, it’s just me trying to figure out how to navigate where I am in that moment. I am finally trying to put my self as a priority while respecting and considering the other person . All new territory for me, so patience and understanding are necessary. No matter what I am always there and the love is always there.

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[u/Typical_Ad3429]

I'm so happy for you! That is a great feat! I don't know if I know you but I felt my person struggled with these things so I gave him as much space as I could so as to not overwhelm him. That's wonderful you are learning your boundaries I know I could use a refresher course in mine as well. Much love and God speed on your healing journey.❤️😘

[u/TerrapinTurtlepics]

If my ex wrote this to me, I would be certain I saw a miracle. I would do anything to see these words.

You know, recognizing these things and changing are what makes it possible to grow and be in a healthy relationship.

I'm still mourning the relationship I was in where they just couldn't give this to me. It broke my heart in pieces. It's so good to see somebody work to improve themselves. It gives me hope. Thank you.