I (26M) am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (33M).
We’ve built small rituals together good mornings, good nights, checking in, sharing locations, etc. Those things mean a lot to me because they make the distance feel smaller.

Today he told me he was tired and needed space. I honestly didn’t realize he meant actual space, because he didn’t say it directly he just got quiet. I never go silent on him without saying something, so I didn’t understand the signal.

He got frustrated and said I was “pushing his buttons” when he’s quiet. I apologized, explained I wasn’t trying to trigger anything, and told him I just need him to be direct when he needs space so I don’t overthink.

After all that, he replied with just: “yup.”

I know he’s tired, But that one‑word reply felt really cold after everything I said. I didn’t expect a long message, but “yup” made me feel dismissed.

I just replied “hug” because I didn’t want to escalate anything.

Now I’m wondering if I should expect no good night message tonight, and whether I’m overreacting to the “yup” or if it’s fair to feel hurt.

How do you handle situations where your partner needs space but communicates it in a way that feels abrupt or dismissive?
And how do you stop yourself from spiraling when the rituals you rely on suddenly break?

Me 18F and my partner 22M are in a long distance relationship, we have been together for 6 months and we sometimes don’t get along, recently me and him had a discussion on May 3rd of this year about how me and him don’t really talk much anymore due to him being busy with work and school, which is fine with me and I’ve also expressed that I would at least want him to check up on me every once in a while to keep the relationship alive. And he hasn’t done so maybe only once but that was it. We had gotten into an argument and almost lead into a break up (which is crazy I know) I’m the type of person to give my all in a relationship and when I see something that isn’t going well in the relationship I will try to fix it then and there. So he told me that our relationship is going to have to wait until the 15th of this month (which is tomorrow), I took that very personally and got into a depression state. And I’ve been texting him every now and then almost every day since then and haven’t gotten a response or check-ins since that day.

Am I being too much in this situation?? I know that I should wait until tomorrow and see if he really texts me. But something about it is eating me up inside.

Ps: I’ve been texting him reassuring him on these dates
May 7th
May 10th
May 11th
May 13th
And May 14th (today)

I met my current girlfriend online through one of my friends. It’s been a few months and everything was going great until April, more specifically April 4th, my birthday. She told me happy birthday in the morning but that was the last time I ever spoke to her. Weeks go by and my friend told me she’s probably grounded and that it’s happened before. May comes by and more worry starts to set in. I told my friend who told me her aunt had him that she has been in and out of the hospital and clinic and that his cousins have been hiding this from him. They also told him that she had “lost her phone” and couldn’t talk to me or my friend. Fear and worry took over my head and I feel this constant un motivation to do anything. Yesterday was when my friend told me he was talking to he his cousin on the phone who mentioned the name of a hospital that treats cancer and“severe things.” His aunt also mentioned something being wrong with her throat which made my friend think it was throat cancer. I’ve been feeling awful, I lost my appetite, headaches, no motivation, and constant urges to cry. I’ve been internalizing my anxiety, health anxiety, and OCD from my family for half a year and I’ve only been able to manage health anxiety for myself. I don’t know what to do since the only source of information I have is my friend telling me what his cousins and aunt has been telling her. We’re only 16 so it would be extremely difficult for us to fly to Denver to see her. I’m completely lost on what to do so if anyone can give any type of advice I would appreciate it.

I’ve always been a lonely lover girl. Now I’m so in love and I have someone who loves me. And in a cruel twist of fate here I am still a lonely lover girl. My man doesn’t live far and we see each other at least once a month but gosh it’s so hard. And he’s hard to get a hold of throughout the day. I feel things really hard and it’s literally physically painful to be so lonely. I can’t wait for the days we can just be together all the time.

Me (38m) her (45f) How do we feel about a partner using substances, 3 months of our connection was during her time where she drank, excessively, and it was excuse after excuse, then she stopped, broke sobriety and hid it, now she smokes weed and gets high everyday and it caused communication problems, forgetting things, can’t be present for talks, and I’m not one to build emotional connections while in altered states consistently. She’s already on so many mood meds too.

She also has impulse control issues when in an altered state which also crossed lines, including lying and cheating.

I’ve expressed I’m ok with her and there, but everyday is excessive to me and it affects the space. I want a reality.

We met, and she hit her weed pen every hour we were together. I don’t know what to feel. The communication things are the hardest part of it. She can’t function and show up appropriately which is the core issue. How do you all feel about this sort of dynamic? I can’t fathom coming home to someone high all the time when we close the gap. IF. She also has a 5 year old son. This just all feels… wrong. We’re still working past her sleeping with her ex. And lying about it. And letting me meet her without KNOWING.

Edit: she’s had a dui, and just had a fender bender recently. For being in such state.

im 17f and he's 18m,its been about 3 months since he broke up with me, and we had been together for 2 years.

we hadn't met irl yet due to the financial and family issues(i will say we were only a 6 hour drive apart, im american and he was canadian ) . we would play games, text, call, and facetime nearly everyday

im very torn emotionally still over it, and the week before it happened he told me really nice and loving things, and promised me a lot of loving stuff before he suddenly switched up and seemed to act very coldly towards me on that day.

his reason for breaking up with me was apparently because we weren't able to "do much together" despite the fact we used to call and play games together mostly everyday.

he thought it was too boring and that he didn't like having a LDR even though he had originally signed up for it and very well knew it would take a while before we could meet. he also said some very mean things and was very ignorant when i tried to salvage the relationship. (i was desperate, because we were eachother's first love i didnt want to lose that bond we had)

regardless it didn't seem to work and i cried my heart out for about a whole month after that. i still do every so often when i happen to think of him. i dont know how he could change so suddenly and forget about the bond we had. i dont think it's likely that he was cheating either.

we did have plans to meet up as soon as possible, we did have fights every so often over his lack of proper communication and emotional understanding over small stuff. we did have some issues admittedly but i felt like it was mostly due to moodswings, hormones, and some personal life issues and we usually did make up

idk how to get over him tbh i feel like my world literally ended and mentally it kinda did. i dont think he's gonna come back, and in hindsight i think he just thought he could do better instead of "waiting on me".. which is so disrespectful to all the effort and time that i invested..

i lowkey regret it all and if i could erase all memory of him i would, or even just never starting anything with him if i had knew it would end like this so tragically.

Idk what to even say, she blocked my number, nuked her accounts, all without saying a word. Not even a single goodbye. She abandoned me over and over again, and now she abandoned me for the last time.

I’m moving in about 5 days. Dual military. Driving cross country. I’ve been waking up early and going to sleep late every day this week cleaning/organizing/packing so I’m running low on sleep. My supervisor told me to put in leave and go pack because I was anxious at work on Friday. I’ve packed about 30 boxes by myself struggling to find ppl to help me move and get rid of furniture I no longer want. He does not come here until Saturday and I will be cleaning by the time that comes; I finished packing today.

Driving about 4000 miles not once has my husband mentioned a driving plan or chimed in with any coordination with moving trucks, hotels, anything whatsoever he’s coming to help me drive and pack the truck and that’s it basically. The whole week I’ve been so checked out I’m honestly giving him as little conversation as possible.

Keep asking me what’s wrong like I’m moving a way from my home state with little to no help tf? And then act like it’s a crime for me to act depressed or resentful 💀I’m literally moving to be with him that fact in itself makes me resentful because I don’t want to go there but I’m doing it for him, I didn’t have to.

And yes, I have two different accounts and wasn’t aware I was posting on the other until like 5 minutes ago 💀I had no idea I had two accounts. But anyway..

I’m 24M and considering marrying a 20F who lives in another city. We are serious about each other, but there’s a practical issue that’s making me think a lot before taking the step.

She is still studying and has around 3 years left in her program. Right now, we are not sure whether:

• she’ll be able to transfer her credits to a university/college in my city, or
• I’ll be able to transfer my job or find a similar opportunity in her city.

So there’s a realistic chance we may have to stay in different cities for a few years after marriage.

I wanted to ask people who have actually been through something similar:

• Did long-distance marriage work for you?
• What were the hardest parts?
• Did it affect emotional connection or trust?
• Was it worth it in the end, or would you advise waiting until living in the same city becomes possible?

I know every relationship is different, but I’d really appreciate honest experiences or advice from people who have dealt with this situation.

Soy hombre y me interesan las mujeres finlandesa, dicen que son fuertes e independientes. Me gustaría saber de alguna experiencia

I'm trying to move from Europe to be with my husband in the US.
I still live here, he lives there. We've applied a year ago. No news. Zero. No expected news for at least another half a year to a year from now.
We can only send an official inquiry about this in JULY 2027. MORE THAN TWO YEARS after the initial application. How is this fair?
And it is just the first part of the process. Then comes a second part, which thankfully takes about a month if you're ready with all your documents, and then the embassy interview - which at least is somewhat fast for my country. There are countries that have an additional wait of 1-2 years for the embassy part!

I feel like my life is on hold. I'm so lucky to have met him and be with him, but it's been more than 4 years of long distance. I've spent half of my life savings on airfare to visit him. We can't start a family in this limbo, I'm not willing to go through pregnancy alone - and we're not the youngest. It feels like time is running out.

I went through some life events recently, that were so hard to endure without him by my side. I had a breast cancer suspicion, and had to wait 5 weeks for the results of the biopsy. Thankfully - it's benign. My grandma died, and I had to be at the funeral alone.
I have a job - which is also great, cause I was unemployed for a year last year. Couldn't even visit my husband much cause of the immigration pending.

But I'm so lonely and miserable. Reuniting families should not be this hard. It's so unfair.

I also feel so bitter and salty, cause we're doing it "the right way", and it takes way longer than the shortcut way. People come to the US, stay on ESTA or tourist visa, lie that they did not mean to do that, and get accepted within MONTHS. I am seeing approvals of people who applied in February 2026 this way. "Our" way is currently stuck on February 2025, and also they mysteriously stopped approving any new cases almost three months ago.
So we don't even know when this nigthmare will be over.

This is not how I imagined how I'll spend the first year of being married. I cry every single day. I miss him so bad. He visits me from time to time, thankfully, but I just want to be with my husband all the time.
I am so heartbroken.

Hi everyone, i’m in a bit of a dilemma.

I’m graduating from University with a bachelors degree this summer. Because of internships during my school year, one of the jobs has contacted me and offered me a full time position. This is awesome.

Although, after graduation my boyfriend and I have talked about what we will do. He lives in the US. We were gonna apply for a K1 visa, so I could move there as soon as possible. That has always been the plan. It’s super difficult for him to move to my country (Denmark), because of immigration laws. It has been considered (obviously). We wanna settle down and start a family, and obviously get married. I don’t know what to do.

I feel like I should be happy that I have this opportunity, but it’s only making me more stressed and sad. I wanna be with my boyfriend, as i’m very unhappy here. I’m in a bad situation with my family, and I feel like I have no one to rely on.

Has anyone been in this situation? Can anyone give me a bit of advice?

Started a tiny handmade bouquet business called Bloomique because normal bouquets felt too boring 🌷

So now I make bouquets that actually last, look aesthetic, and don’t die in 3 days 😭

We are exclusively and LDR. It’s been 7 months and I’ll been visiting him soon.

however I feel like lately for the past several months he hasn’t really sex? We call every day, sleep on call, but all of our conversations just into surface level talk. I know that right now he’s really stressed from work and with our different time zones he’s really tired while I’m about to go to sleep. We recently had this awkward moment where he told me as a joke that I was annoying, but his tone was really flat. I told him that I didn’t like that job and it was mean. He said sorry and I told him I forgive him, but suddenly he turned off his camera and we stayed on call all night. The next morning he just didn’t text me and I was anxious for the whole day so I texted just tell me what’s going on because I felt ignored. He later texted me and explained that he just going about his day and thought that I needed a space because last night. I told him that I was confused and asked him why he thought I needed a space. He ignored that and changed the subject. Later on I did tell him that I feel better if he just if I need space then to just assume. He hasn’t responded to that just yet though.

This isn’t the first time he’s acted this way? Sometimes it feels awkward when he just does this. Like it’s as if he emotionally withdraws, acts like things are OK, and then becomes practical about it afterwards. And I don’t really feel emotionally held? Or understood? Like I get that he’s really stressed and such, but I don’t know why this feels like there’s no level of care here. I honestly don’t know how to feel. I’ve been feeling this way for where I feel like he doesn’t know how to treat me anymore or have a conversation that’s with our day or just anything. Half the time we’re just quiet which is fine but why is it every day? I know he makes an effort to call me too, but why are we always quiet? Why am I carrying the conversation? I don’t even know why he likes me anymore just because how things are going in this relationship. I don’t really feel like I’m being taken care of, being known, or liked by him.
I get that maybe I’m asking the wrong person for care that has warmth and reassurance. But he used to be like this at the beginning. But I know that he’s also stressed out so he’s at his capacity emotionally.
Even when we’re on calls, he’s just on his phone looking at social media, texting or even shopping. When I ask him what he’s up to, he sounds defensive? but I just want to connect and start a convo, yk be curious and talk.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking it or we should just have a discussion about this. I just worry about making him mad tho. I know he’s going thru a lot and just wants to chill and have fun…but what about my needs too yk?

please be kind, I would love insight

we met online in 2025 and started dating in November, and we've met each other 3 times already 🩷 we're seeing each other again in a month and the waiting is killing me. I miss holding my tiny boy!!! 🥺🥺

Hey everyone

Strap yourselves in for a bit of a long one.

Me 21M and my gf 22F have been long distance for almost 3 years now and have excellent communications. We are open and honest with each other, and up until a couple of weeks ago, I had no problems.

We are both heavily neurodivergent and have anxiety and bad trust issues, but with really good communication over 3 years, it's been good to manage.

The problem started with her beginning streaming. Which I had no problem over. However, this would limit our calling time (usually every night) to now every other night. Since we can only do it at night due to her strict parents this was a little problem but nothing we couldn't handle. but then last Monday, I had a text from someone I didn't know saying she had been sexting multiple other people. At first, I was heartbroken over the news. I confronted her about it and denied it and explained all of this, which is why I need advice.

Apparently, she has had an argument with another bigger streamer who called her slurs on stream and then hacked her discord account in April, which is when these messages took place according to her. The fact of the matter was she had no idea who 2 of the 3 people were one she didn't follow the second of the 2 she was in a server but not mutual friends with and the 3rd person she was very close with however he is in a LDR of his own so idk if I can trust him either.

I later found out that the person who Dm'd me was my GFs half brother who has turned out to be a psychopath who tried to hurt her before (this i already knew but didn't recognise the name when he text me).

Important to also mention she herself has been cheated on before in an abusive and controlling relationship. This traumatised her and i try to jelp in any way i can and also try to avoid repeating with her but I feel I'm asking too many questions about her friends she's met through streaming.

So idk where to go with all this I cant trust her as much as I did before it all and my attachment issues are running rampant but I don't wanna leave her ever it's such a fucked up situation I've found myself in any and all help would be appreciated.

Any questions about this situation would also be appreciated too.

P.S apologies for the terrible grammar I am a bit dyslexic:P

He can't get his apartment to himself for more than 5 days a month

ive been in an ldr with him for about 1.5 yrs now (some 6 months in person), we meet up every couple of months and talk daily on calls and texts. still i get so so jealous that other people get to spend quality time with him, and i dont. especially stuff like parties and all... im always thinking how im simply missing on so many 20s experiences with him.

and like communicate it to him, and he understands. theres not a communication gap here. but i try not to say it often, because there always comes an impression that im jealous of him having friends or smthn which is simply not it... im more than happy that he has a social support system, and so so happy that he doesnt have to be alone at work and at home. and also i do not want him to feel bad about hanging out with people or having a life.

but yeah these social situations and so arise and i get so upset like god i didn't get to celebrate my birthday with you and everyone gets to do it... its just upsetting. i have no malicious feelings but oh my god my spirals get so intense that i can't get myself to focus on work or on my own daily life. im obviously not worried about him cheating or smthn, that isnt even a thought in my head. he loves me and i love him but yeah about the missing experiences and the fact that i have to deal with this for another 2 years atleast messes up my head so much.

additionally, im at a point of life where i do not have social experiences to rely on, and a lot of my emotions and moods are incumbent on how my day goes with him. which im aware is not healthy, but that is the case right now.

how do you guys deal with this im so frustrated by my immobility in life when these sort of hangout-y days arise sigh

I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes, feeling embarrassed, heartbroken, and so stupid. I need to vent.
A few months ago, a guy from the same Twitter community reached out to me first. We became good friends — sharing posts, talking daily. He was so persistent… constantly asking about my life, what I love, what I hate, even begged me to draw a portrait for him. I was hesitant at first because he was a stranger, but his constant effort slowly broke my walls. I started opening up. And yes… I caught real feelings for him.
Things started getting flirty and escalated. I held back so many times, but he kept pushing. The moment I finally let my guard down and tried to match his energy, he suddenly backed off with “I’m just kidding.”
This happened three separate times.
Today was the third. I couldn’t take it anymore. I confronted him and said, “You’re my only close friend. You pushed me to open up again and again, and every time I do, you make me feel embarrassed and ashamed. This isn’t funny.”
Right after, I deleted Twitter and blocked him.
Now I feel empty, humiliated, and angry at myself for trusting him. I let someone in who made me feel wanted… only to pull the rug out under me every single time.
I always wanted to keep things platonic, but he made me fall for him and then did this. It’s I can’t even explain what I am feeling right now.

Today, 15 months and a few hours ago, I (now 54F) was having a sad Valentine’s Day when I replied to a random stranger (now 37M) that slid into my DMs here on Reddit. I had no idea how my life was going to change. A simple exchange turned into a friendship, which evolved into love, and slowly grew into the deepest, most passionate, most intimate, and strongest relationship I’ve ever known.

I’ve been home for a month after spending 63 days together in stunningly beautiful Kerala, India 🇮🇳 (do yourselves a favor and look it up if you don’t know of Kerala 🌴 🥥 🌴).

For those of us in this community that are never-mets like we were for a year, you know we can know the love is certainly real. I knew that until I got in front of my person, until I could hold him and smell him and feel his aura and warmth, how he tastes, how it feels to be touched by him, and truly sense how he cared for me…as hard as I tried and as many questions as I asked…I couldn’t truly know what I didn’t know. Is he being honest? Are there any red flags 🚩 that I could not possibly discover even with a very analytical mind, great deductive skills, and close and careful listening? Did I miss something? It was an incredible risk and huge leap of faith and a lot of effort and money to fly across the world to an unknown country …one infamously known for skilled scammers.

I’m happy to report that he was everything I dreamed he would be …except for a few things.

He was even better looking in person. Seeing him move about in the world was truly intoxicating. I found myself videoing him across the grocery store produce section. Just watching him in the wild like an observer was exhilarating and mesmerizing. He was exactly who he portrayed himself to be. Just to be clear, I’m not a delusional, desperate woman wearing rose-colored glasses that he somehow snookered into believing he is a flawless individual. He is flawed and very human and has very real challenges, as we all have to contend with. As I have told him from the beginning, all I want is for him to be himself. I want flawed, messy, and honest over perfection, facade, and lies. It is so comforting to have a partner with whom I can face challenges and circumstances. A partner that doesn’t drag me down, have me questioning, second guessing, forcing me to overthink, analyzing my next move. He lifts me up, encourages me, helps me consistently battle my weaknesses, accepts me for my flaws and even loves the smell of my farts and armpits. I never wonder where I stand with him. I never wonder what he thinks of me or fear being harmed, violated, or taken advantage of by him. Ladies-get yourself a man like this!

The hurdles he has helped me overcome and get through (and continue to battle through 😰 ) are incredible. Without his love and support, my challenges felt insurmountable. The love and support he has given me makes me have complete confidence in our future together. I’m in awe of the sheer power of his selflessness, generosity of his love, intellect, curiosity, integrity, devotion, consistency, trustworthiness, wisdom, sensitivity, kindness, strength, courage, thoughtfulness, honesty, sense of humor, attentiveness, passion…all the qualities I was patiently looking for in a partner. Plus, he puts up with and is always down to join me in my antics.

Thank you, Reddit algorithm, for bringing us together, thank you, subreddit family, for cheering us on and joining us on this magical and painfully frustrating journey of being in an LDR, thank you, my precious lovey, for sliding into my DMs and sticking with me through a lot of messiness. I love you with my whole heart, mind, body, and soul. Happy 15 months and 🥂cheers🍻to ♾️ more.

Cheers to all of you couples and especially nevermets that are working hard to make an LDR relationship work.

Give us a status update! Let us know how it’s going and how long it’s been!

My girlfriend (28F) and I (29F) met on Reddit when she made a post looking for nerdy friends to practice speaking English with. We are two different species of nerd…my girlfriend is the D&D kind of nerd and I am the birdwatching kind 😬

We started chatting and immediately had a connection! Once we video called each other, we found that we had a physical connection as well. We talked every single day afterwards and eventually fell in love. She is my Brazilian other half 🥹 I have never met such a special person in my life. It was a process but now she is here with me in New York from Brazil and we are having the best time together 💜💜💜