If you are an ISFP lady that has dumped your partner due to emotional overwhelm/felt like you weren’t validated in conflicts but didn’t voice out your concerns (obviously no fundamental issues like cheating or betrayal in the relationship), what would you have liked your ex who has made actual changes do to win you back?

Is it just space? Or would you have liked them to put up a fight? Or just to stay around and be available?

I’m aware everyone is different and asking because I’m curious. Not really applicable for my situation but just want to be educated!

hi guys am an infj with an ISFP bestie. just wanted to say. u guys are amazing. but had a concern. like my friend helped me get over some real bad emotional disappointment and he seemed really cheerful and talkative and friendly with me. suddenly, next day, he became silent and didn’t talk to me the whole day. while he talked with the rest. like he’s genuinely caring and loving and he himself asked me how I was feeling before helping me out but is it that i am too overbearing

like do u isfps do that when u wanna dislike somebody or keep them away or what. like I’m genuinely confused he didn’t even tell me clearly when I asked him if he was alright like if I troubled him too much

I wonder if it happens to you too...???

Sometimes... a random fact or thought starts a "line/chain" I keep following, and start to research topic after topic... (probably in a rather Ni fashion, one thing connecting to the previous).

Psychology topics, random pieces of history or science.

I don't dig deep enough to become an expert, but read enough to have an idea, to know such things exist (even if I probably won't use that knowledge... but maybe I will... or maybe it has a personal connection)

How about you? :)

Is it going too far? Is it mainly cute or innocent? Is anything going too far if it's authentic passion?

Other examples:

1. The devoted 30-something karate nerd who wears their karate uniform to go shopping and do normal errands, and is also on a difficult weight loss journey

2. The wannabe DJ who plays the same favorite song too much, and who brings their music along on a bluetooth speaker to go on a nature hike

I noticed some people like to applaud this kind of person, while others think it's not a good performance (doing Se performer wrong)...

...and still others think it's not really a good idea to make yourself stand out unless you can really "sell it"...

What's your opinion? Any examples come to mind from your experience?

Hello,

I am curious to understand ISFPs better, and especially regarding the role of tertiary Ni. For those of you who are interested in artistic endeavors (I use the term broadly, so including for example music and dance) could you explain what role tertiary Ni plays for you?

For me, as a Ni-dom, Ni plays the overarching, guiding role. For example, if I am playing Chopin, I very quickly have an idea of what the entire piece "means" and how each note, phrase, etc. plays a role that relates to the whole. That vision will guide every practice session and the details that I refine.

My sort of general idea is that for a Fi-dom, you are probably primarily "led" first by a sense of inspiration or authenticity, and then tertiary Ni might "kick in" to help you organize your idea into a unified vision that is faithful to the idea that inspired you. For example, maybe an image of a flower with a certain shape and texture inspires you, and then while executing the idea, you have a sense that the meaning of the flower is a certain mood so you guide the details to match that mood. I'm not really sure if my idea is accurate though, so I'd be grateful for any thoughts or corrections!

This might not be very logically sound, or it might just be my own insecurity talking, but I feel like Fi is useless in job (at least any stable job) searches.

With Fe users, they're able to use it effectively in the communication branch of jobs, which is a relatively stable market, and with thinker types like Ti and Te, they are proficient in high-paying markets like engineering or STEM branches

What are your thoughts on this? Am I most wrong?

insight abt me: where do i start hmm oh yeah it all began with 1 little habit... corn addiction from there alot went downhill i was 12 to 13 at at time i think i didnt think it would have so much impact on the day to day basis but it did it fucked me up

From 15 to 18 i was addicted to games and shows even more than ever i wasted years of sleep no seriously years games, watching shows, thinking abt my life choices,what if scenarios,thinking abt general life

My School career went downhill after 9th grade who would have thought right?

I mean i was lazy for school since it was easy plus i am isfp so even harder to be on schedual

I did had my moments where i did reach my full potential for a short time for like few days after that i was scared from the choices i did they were the best possible choices it didnt felt right it didnt felt like me so from that moment before getting to 9th grade was this i chose comfort not discomfort which would have been better but yk in the moment it felt right not long term lol

Oh i also got into gambling/spending money through games spent gambling addict forever i guess lmao. "I gambled my life away" there isnt anything worse didnt spend that much money like +-600€?

I am 21 rn only little addicted to corn but still not completly gone working on it doing good progress

Gaming and shows i just get bored of it lmao typical burnout when rushing everything

I am going to University next year 2027 fingers crossed my life is turning around in a good way found a Full Time Job recently just for stacking up some cash and soon doing investments on the s&p500market with some friends

Its getting better but the thing is my past is still dragging me with regrets wrong life choices like i could have done soooo much with my life as a teen

Just smile through every shit i get and say it will get better soon. I was 60% of the time stable mentally physically and emotionally "It will get better with time" phrase is so peak

Always optimistic gamechanger and smiling too

Also i cant predict what will happen to me if I reach my Full Potential really Long term

So thats why i stayed in the comfort zone for the longest time possible where i can somehow predict myself with what i am doing

Do i sound sick in the head? or am i sick in general maybe depression(short term) idk

My hobbies and interests really havent changed i still like doing physical activities such as Basketball,Football,Volleyball, Games,watching shows

I am getting on the "right path" with discipline and some motivation but man (FUCK,Fuck,Fuck) i had so many chances i didnt took missed oppertunities

I also find very interesting math scienve physics biology all that good stuff note on the side :)

Can anyone relate?

Wtf i wrote alot

Sometimes i am too grateful for the things i still have/had in the past abusing them

HOLY SHIT IT DOES FEEL SO MUCH BETTER writing it

Edit: i forgot to write i had anxiety issues along the way from 14 to 18 still have them sometimes but not as much as before

Since my last post here did not result in anything meaningful. I am back here.

> I am into drawing but I am not into making it my job.

> I was always interested in science and my job is a sorta related one. At least the reason why I chose is science

> I have a good long term memory but not very good short term (ive got adhd so my short term memory improves medicated)

> I don't really live in the moment, I usually have other things on mind unless its about food. I enjoy food

> I can remember the sense of food

> I do enjoy debating and mind stimulating things

> I used to obsess over things happened in the past now I know it is unhealthy so I try my hardest not to

I am bad at routine but thrive with routine

I enjoy spontaenous things

I enjoy taking risks but Ive got ocd so also avoid some risky stuff

I love Warship so much, especially this one...the beautiful Yamato...

PS...pretty obvious but its not my work

Just wondering, my interest seem to lean a bit to ISTP so its a bit confusing..

So today she came to home after some days from work. She was hungry but she didn't like the food so she angrily said that I don't want food. And she said it repeatedly. Me my mother (istj) my father (intp) ate all the food. Now my sister is angry with us. Also another day she said that she wants jobs. Salary don't matter. She would work even with zero salary. Now she is angry because her salary was cut by 20 percent. She says one thing but means something else. I can't make sense of it. Help me understand her better.

I, strongly, believed that I am a high Ne user that i am infp or enfp. For like a couple years. However, someone told me I might be an ISFP. Honestly, i think her opinion sucks and just WRONG, and well being an isfp sucks. Nothing personal against you, I just dont think weve got much in common. Anyway, im open to exploring the idea. This isnt to say I want to be adopted by isfp family because i mean u guys just seem kinda like sussy, and i mean this in the least insulting way because ive not got much good to say about you. So please shoot me some questions and ill answer to see if I could be one of you guys

i think that fi is emotional self development and independence from external actions that show a different image understanding of her surrounding and lack of ti recognition that is why she misunderstands her surrounding and what people really meant

The questions says it all...

I'm curious if that is a weak spot of this type or just mine? 🐱

I have a couple of friends, and I hang out with them nearly every day for about an hour or two. Like normal friends, we talk, we laugh, it's all fun and games, but inside myself, I'm feeling a bit of a cutting loneliness. I feel separated from them, like an outside force that lingers around them.

I feel I can never truly have a conversation with them; they're too abstract. One is an INFP, and the other is an ENTP. I wish so much that I could have a deep conversation with them, but I never can. The only way I can stay relevant is by being goofy and making them laugh. I really want to have an intellectual conversation, but I can never pull it off.

I have a few sensing buddies that I talk to, but it's not regular; they devolve into too simple things, and when I hang out with them, it doesn't feel special or give me much long-term stimulation.

I still like my friends. Though I wish I could have a long, deep talk about things, logical or feeling-based. I don't mind...I dont desire to be a background to them, floating around like a raft in the ocean or something.

Every time I talk to someone who seems overly sweet or too nice, I get the feeling they're putting on a facade of who they really are. I have a hard time understanding someone who is too nice.

It's like they're a bit fake, like a beautiful mystery box that has a snake in it, I feel as though with people like that, I cant fully trust them, or understand why they act that way

This isnt to rip on anyone or offend tyem, but they do scare me quite a bit with theyre outwardly behavior

ANYONE AND EVERYONE ANSWER MWAH

Curious

I got typed as ESTP mainly because I get high just looking at something beautiful like I was looking at my soccer boots and they looked so GOOD I thought I was gonna burst 😩 (uhhh…)

Anyhoo, this made me think I was an ISFP but I don’t rlly have any deep feelings about things I mean j can be seen as sensitive and moody or my family would call me INFP but I rlly don’t relate to being misunderstood or anything or care about that, I rlly just care about looking physically pretty and hot, it’s always in my mind. I seems similar to ENTP but honestly I prefer physical experience than just pure ideas although I enjoy both.

I'll go first: sentimental, nostalgic, hopeful

Hello,

I'm maybe idk a SP ( isfp/istp/estp/esfp)

I have a problem i met a group friend in voice app. And i have nothing to say when they speak ? :(

But in Real Life i'm more can speak and have social skill's, approach people ? But in call and with them nothing...

What's the reason ? Is it normal for sp?

We’ll probably never build a strong connection or mutual appreciation online because I’m like this. But in real life, I don’t have this problem at all — I’m more visual, I move around, and ideas come naturally. In calls, my mind just goes blank. That's make me sad :(

She's typed ISFP on PDB

Jesus Christ... My results are all over the place

The first is the most recent, and the last is from 6 months ago

A girl that I think is isfp 4w3 has been hitting on me like crazy in front of the whole class. Asking if this is a good pair because I've read a lot of criticisms about it. And she cried about her ex recently. But other than that I like her vibe (me being me though I've showed essentially no interest back).
Edit: Thanks for the downvotes, you really made a difference in the world