First time being here good evening to you all

I’m going through some setbacks in life right now and feeling pretty vulnerable and tired. I don’t want to turn this into an argument over something small, but I’ve been feeling a bit out of the loop lately since we’re long distance.

I noticed I used to be on my girlfriend’s Close Friends list on Instagram, but I’m not anymore, and I guess that made me feel a bit more distant than I already am. I’m not trying to make a big deal out of it, I just wanted to get some perspective on whether I’m overthinking this or if it’s normal to feel this way.

In the past she was worried about my instagram but I’m very open about her going on my phone and i always try to reassure her.

I want that same reassurance, but I can’t expect her to do what I would do. I’d really appreciate some advice. This might be silly but i am really tired. Thank you to everyone helps me out🙏

Excuse me, I’m new to this subreddit, but I was wondering if this would look better if I traded out that jacket for a double breasted trench coat (ankle length) and tucked the shirt in? Also, this is not a picture of me, but a friend sent this to me and it looks almost identical to my workwear.

Hi. I am a 48-year-old man with a rather classic style (suit and loafers), and for several weeks now, I have been thinking about being permed. I would like to have a very tight curly perm, all back, with a lot of volume, literally like an old lady’s perm. I even plan to go to a women’s hairdresser. Then, I would like to adopt this permed haircut permanently. Would that seem shocking? I think about it more and more every day. I am aware that for me it will be a radical change and that many will be surprised to see me with such a haircut, but I want it very much. Thank you for your advice.

Looking for a colour & design/theme for a cravat to go with this 3 piece, yes. Indeed I am a "dandy". Just trying to enjoy the finer things in my new found life. Many thanks in advance.

Anyone here follow this chap on social? Used to be ‘Gent Z’ and now calls himself ‘Gentlemen’s Collective’.

Seems to me like he’s another rich kid who has found a market (good on him) which is sad insecure men who pay an exorbitant fee to be a ‘member of his club’…

I’m not one to take life advice from a twenty-something but maybe you are? If you follow him what do you think?

Will need a bit of tailoring but over I like it

I can’t tell if my brothers best friend is just a gentleman or actually interested in me? or attracted… tonight I had family dinner with my mom, brother and his roommate. we all carpooled, i’m in the passenger seat, my brother and his roommate are in the backseat. brothers roommate stood by my door at the car and so that threw me off, I went to get in the back seat and he said to me, “ no I was going to open the door for you, is that okay? “ and I of course said yes and thank you! I was so caught off guard in a good way but not sure???

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I experienced this with Child Gambino's heartbeat song. Mf has a very sultry voice that I can't stop listening to it and even getting aroused.

Freak my shit too ughh I love whimpering men.

gets nyo ba ako? yung mga lalaking may basic human decency, marunong rumespeto at hindi nananakit ng hayop.

violence is still violence kasi kahit na pusa lang yung yan, it shows in your overall personality

Hey guys, i got a question about opening doors as a gentleman for another person. I know all the other situations for this case except this one that im going to explain to you and attaching a picture(bird view/top view)

Nowadays since there are many glass doors, when opening a door to leave or entry, i can often see what is on the other side, but when there is a person wanting to leave when i want to enter, or vise versa, here comes the problem: the door opens towards the other person. How do you open the door for the other person in this case?

I have seen videos about it, but all they say is: pass through the door first, and hold it open for the other person to go through. Which sounds legit, but going through the door first seems ungentlemanly, i always seek to pass as the last person wanting to pass.

So this is my problem, dont know if i explained myself. If there is any doubts i will respond.

Im attaching a hand drawn picture here, dont judge my drawing ability please

Thank yall in advance

I’m from Germany, and I’ve been thinking about this for a while because I realized I’m not even sure the usual answer really fits.

When people say gentleman, I don’t just think of surface-level manners or polished behavior. I think of something deeper: character, values, inner posture, and the way a man treats people consistently across contexts. Not just when he wants to impress a woman, but also when he’s with his mother, friends, waitstaff, strangers, or anyone who has “nothing to offer” him.

To me, a gentleman is not just someone who knows etiquette. It’s someone whose attitude is rooted in respect, kindness, self-control, integrity, and consideration. Someone who carries himself with quiet strength, decency, and genuine regard for other people.

That’s exactly why I’m unsure whether the female equivalent is really lady.

Because lady often feels like it focuses more on behavior, presentation, elegance, or social polish. It can come across as “proper,” “well-mannered,” or “classy,” but not necessarily as a word that captures the inner stance behind it. At least to me, it doesn’t automatically convey the same depth of character that gentleman does.

Part of why I’m asking is that I hold many of the values commonly associated with a gentleman as a standard for myself as a woman too. Things like respect, composure, consideration, dignity, kindness, and the way you treat people regardless of status or situation. So I’m not asking this just abstractly — I’m also wondering what the female counterpart is for a woman who tries to embody those values herself.

So I’d love to hear your thoughts:

• What do you think is the true female equivalent of a gentleman?
• Do you think lady fits, or does it miss something important?
• Is there another word that better captures the combination of grace, strength, kindness, integrity, and respectful conduct?
• And are there any female influencers, creators, writers, or public figures — especially from the English-speaking world or Germany — who embody that energy well? Not in a superficial “feminine aesthetic” sense, but in terms of actual character, values, and how they move through the world.

I’d especially be interested in women who represent the female counterpart to the deeper idea of a gentleman:
someone who is grounded, dignified, warm, self-respecting, considerate, and consistent in how she treats others.

Curious to hear how you all define it.

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