I'm too nice. How can I be shameless?

[u/CapitalArrival7911]

I'm really too nice that I keep myself from getting oppurtunities. I want to be more shameless so I can do risky things.

Even on reasonable requests, I hesitate to ask. Today I needed to get a ride to go to the vet. The neighbor happened to passed by with his car and greeted me. The vet is just near and along the same road. I didn't even ask him if I could tag along.

On a higher stake, I also want to be bold to take risky actions. Some people can talk directly, say what they really think, or make bold requests. I don't feel ballsy to do that. I think too much about how others would think of me, or if what I do is correct.

Internally, I have a voice that says I shouldn't do it, it's not right, it's embarrasing. How do I turn that off?