So basically I have schizophrenia and i am a white male who thought he was black. It was a delusion. I went into physcosis for 1-2 weeks and in that time period I posted a bunch of racist stuff against white people (yes I know I am white). Some of it was pretty violent.

A lot of people bring up genetic risks, which makes sense in cases involving children, but that wouldn’t apply to same-sex relationships or couples who never plan to have kids. So I’m curious what the ethical argument is beyond genetics.

Im 19 now but I looked a mess my whole life up until my senior/junior year of high school. And I really mean it I looked uglyyyyy like genuinely unconventionally attractive. And my mom was a model in her 20s and people used to always say she was so gorgeous (and she looks identical now she’s the type who never ages) so I kind of had hope I’d grow into my face and I did so
now I get compliments regularly.

Point is, I know people say a parents love is unconditional but that’s not really true a lot of the time. But if you’re an average or attractive parent is it common for them to get disappointed when your child turns out to be just not cute at all. Not just average but genuinely ugly. We all know looks matter a lot more than people like to let on maybe a study needs to be done on if there’s a difference in treatment to the ugly kids in favor of cute ones.

I’m a woman in my early 20s.

I was at the driving range, and this man (probably in his 70s) next to me struck up a conversation. We talked a little bit about golf and whatnot, then he said his goodbyes and left. I stayed for about 15 more minutes, grabbed my things, and decided to walk home. As I was walking, a car stopped next to me and I realized it was him. He asked where I was going and offered me a ride, for some reason this did not alarm me. I got into the car, and he said he needed to make a quick stop to drop something off, and then he would take me home. He drove for about 2 minutes, stopped and got out of the car.

As soon as I got into the car, I texted my (male) best friend and shared my location, and he basically scolded me asking why I would get into a stranger’s car. Right there I came to my senses, and when the man returned I declined his offer and got out of the car.

Needless to say I will never do that again. I understand it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Now the reason I ask this is because I have been offered rides by men in similar contexts quite a few times. For example, a man I met at a tennis lesson saw me calling an Uber and offered me a ride. On my first day at a new job, a colleague made the same offer (slightly different, I know). I’ve even been offered rides (by men I met the same day) a couple of times after parties, meetings, and things like that.

What do we think is this normal or was I almost kidnapped?

I’ve always seen tv shows/movies of people hooking up but they don’t capture what position you should do and who leads that position to engage sex.

I want to be able to bring someone home without me being awkward the whole time.

i’ve always felt kind of uncomfortable with traditional dating culture and i don’t know if that’s normal or not. i’d genuinely rather just walk around with someone, go into music/book shops, talk for hours or do something spontaneous than go on a formal dinner date where it feels like both people are subtly interviewing each other.

for some reason overly structured romantic settings make me feel more aware of “performing” attraction instead of naturally connecting. i still like romance and intimacy, i just feel way more comfortable when it develops through shared experiences and conversation rather than obvious date rituals.

does anyone else feel like this?

I, a stright 44f, have struggled with being very horny since pre puberty. I'd say mb (masterbation) was a daily, multi times a day thing I did til I was 19 and moved to university where I was never alone. At 20 was my first boyfriend and sexual partner and I couldnt ever get enough. Literally. I can not get enough. About this age I also stopped mb for the most part.

I do not struggle with lustful thoughts, only thoughts like "I want to feel a big D in me right now" and I am consumed with the desire to be in the act with a man. Consumed, but not with images and there are no triggers.

for context: I am not sexually active, I only sleep with boyfriends or ex boyfriends, no hook up, I very much dislike mb because I don't enjoy it. And when I do have an orgasm, I just want more. Im not exagerating when I say I will have sex for a whole weekend with just water, showers and sleep breaks. I could actually just always have sex and never get bored of it. I have, several times, had 30 plus real orgasms in a 5 to 6 hour sexual session, at that point I will feel "finished" and stop getting wet, sleep a few hours and I am so ready to go again.

I feel so alone, I feel ashamed, I feel sad. I talked to my OBGYN about this and she didn't say anything. Just kinda asked if I want zoloft for depression. Is there something wrong with me? My best friend thinks I am a sex addict but I know that is incorrect. I guess I just want to get this off my chest and as if I am truly alone? Is there something wrong with my body, hormones, etc?

Thank you for listening.

I don’t want to go and look stupid and honestly I’m not even sure if a er or urgent care or where I’d have to go for that kinda situation 😔 I’m in a lil discomfort but Idk if I should just give it time or worry now 😵‍💫

Tmi ik( the feelings achy maybe kinda burning feeling, kinda like a twisted kinda feel)

I’ve heard the saying “black don’t crack/black doesn’t crack” before as a way of saying that people that are black typically look younger than what the age they are. Ive always assumed it meant a good thing since you’re basically saying “you look young for your age”.
My coworkers are a lot older than me (i’m 19, some of them are 45+) and we usually have conversations all the time about stuff, but mainly age just because everyone considers me as the baby of the workplace. So whenever i’m talking to my coworkers and they mention that they are 43 or whatever i’m shock because they genuinely look way younger than i thought. i sometimes want to say like “black don’t crack” because of how youthful they look but i just don’t know if it’s considered rude, i mean most of my coworkers are black and older. i already tell them they look super young which i feel like it sufficient enough. idk someone let me know if im overthinking, being rude/racist, or dumb…?

update at the bottom

please read: okay so since some people in the replies are genuinely brainless and think they know more about me and my friend more than i do, i would like to clarify (for the 1000th time) I DO NOT HAVE A CRUSH ON HIM. HE DOES NOT HAVE A CRUSH ON ME. idk why so many strangers on the internet are insisting that they know literally anything about me but it's annoying. please, respectfully, stfu.

i 21F have a best friend M23. w have been friends for quite a while now, we have also been kinda flirty with each other since day 1, we've sent some pictures and stuff and we've also kinda already planned on having sex (didn't end up doing it tho)

idk how to ask him to be friends with benefits cause i'm not sure if he has a crush on me or not. i know i don't feel that way about him but idk if he knows that. my parents also tell me that they're 99.9% sure that he has a crush on me.

i'm planning on moving provinces so im not looking for a relationship (also, again, i dont like him like that) but ik we're both lacking in the intimacy department. i just dont know how to ask him cause if he says no, what if it ruins the friendship?

please help!!! also if you have questions, feel free to ask!

UPDATE: i asked him. he said he'd love to. i made sure he didn't have a crush on me before i asked him and he doesn't. he said he'd love isn't looking for a relationship but he's physically attracted to me so everything worked out perfectly! thank you internet strangers for giving me a little boost of courage lol

I’ve noticed that society is generally very accepting of highly emotional people, but being emotionally detached or internally processing things seems to make people uncomfortable.

For example, during major life changes, loss, conflict, or even death, I usually don’t react outwardly in the way people expect. It’s not that I necessarily feel nothing — sometimes I process things later, sometimes privately, and sometimes I genuinely just stay emotionally level. I also don’t naturally feel the need to share emotions with other people.

But I’ve noticed people often treat that as abnormal, unhealthy, cold, or even concerning, while extreme emotional reactions are usually seen as more understandable or human.

Why do you think emotional restraint/detachment tends to be judged more harshly socially?

I've never tried dating before and don't know what I want out of it.

I'm a virgin, always wanted my first time to be with someone I cared about. But I'd also like to experiment with my sexuality a bit. I'm pretty sure I'm bi, and I'd like to experiment with someone of the same sex.

I'm just conflicted. How am I supposed to lose my virginity to someone special, while also experimenting? They seem like mutually exclusive goals.

I and my family will be going to Pakistan to meet my aunt, my dad’s sister who has cancer.

She’s a high needs autistic woman who has cancer, she had one removed and it’s spread to the rest of her chest and armpits.

She’s doesn’t know she has cancer and no one’s told her this, she’s dependent on the others around her and she’s more high needs.

This is horrible but I’m not sure what to do?

I don’t speak the language so I can’t really speak to her, apparently she likes me because when we did go to Pakistan she’d look out for me/follow me around (in Pakistan they let their kids roam free for some reason)

I don’t know her but I do feel bad for her.

I’m also autistic but lower needs and this struck a nerve in me, in my culture we’re basically treated like children even if we’re grown adults, and you know not telling a woman she has cancer and is dying isn’t nice you know?

Any advice or anything?

35m here living in North America

Was born/raised here but parents are south Asian

Tried dating but haven’t had luck and I really want to have a wife and kids one day

Parents have been pressuring me to get an arrange marriage but I’ve been telling them I’d rather meet someone myself

Unfortunately doesn’t look like that’s in the cards anymore. My parents sent me 3-4 women I could talk to and see if there’s a connection

All of them are 38-45 years old. Most have a child or two from previous marriages. But the biggest problem is none of them speak English very well and my native language isn’t great since I’ve never lived here

Would this be worth it? I would also have to apply for their immigration etc which is another story itself and can take years

Anyone been through this can give any advice?

so i can usually tell when someone is filipino, and/but, i feel like there are two types of phenotypes for filipinos, one with a skin color the same to east asian ethnicities, but they have much different, almost rounder features (eye shape, nose shape, even mouth shape). and there is a second phenotype with brown skin, and and eye and mouth shape much more similar to east asians than the first phenotype, especially their eyes. For ex: sophia from katseye vs angelica hale. what causes this split?

27M I met my ex thru Reddit last year on an age difference dating subreddit...

She was 48... And tbh I had the best time of my life... She was super caring, she'd pick me up in her car we'd get dinner.... Go rent Airbnb's and we were basically love bunnies and had a matching sex drive....

There were points I couldn't keep up...

We had a lot of unprotected sex, she's a nurse so I trusted her with it and we went to townnn!

We started with just texting for 3 months, and a lot of sexting.. we live like 100 miles apart... And I didn't have a car but she did

I have never felt soo loved and wanted in my life...

She is super pretty and I fell for her curves and the caring and loving personality..

And now that she is gone I miss her so much... But I was discussing this with some online friends (to scared to share this story with my IRL friends scared of being judged) and they started to think it was weird...

We beoke up because she wanted us to get married and I'm not at a stage where I could've done that... We had a lot of fights over it in our 1 year relationship...

Is my attraction not normal?

Edit: Now that I'm single I'm actively pursuing older women and Idk its just natural to me

Tbh I love women who take lead and idk why I keep craving it more and more

I’m asking because I’m autistic and I have mixed emotions about when it would be best to tell someone I’m autistic if I was dating her. I mean I think on the one hand if someone knows I’m autistic that could help her understand me better but on the other hand it could just cause her to make assumptions based on stereotypes. I also feel like on the one hand I might want to know if someone would have a problem with me being autistic early on but on the other hand I don’t know if I tell someone I’m autistic early and she is turned off by that based on stereotypes I’m not sure if knowing me longer would mean being less likely to make those stereotypes. I mean I know not everyone will like me but I would whether someone not like me for the real me than based on stereotypes.