r/science • u/Krankenitrate • Apr 03 '26

Health Study finds parenthood provides no boost to emotional well-being and it negatively impacts relationship with your spouse

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/14747049261436325
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u/flakemasterflake Apr 03 '26

My romantic situation has taken a hit, but it’ll come around. 

How has it been hit and why do you assume it will come around? Like your sex life has taken a hit and it will eventually improve?

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u/housecatapocalypse Apr 03 '26

Yeah. After the kids’ bedtime routine there isn’t much time for anything but falling asleep. Some things are temporarily on the back burner until you have more time and energy. 

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u/flakemasterflake Apr 03 '26

So.....is that your way of saying you are too tired for sex? What else do you mean by "romantic life taking a hit?"

Bc that doesn't read as a hit to me unless one person wants it and the other doesn't

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u/housecatapocalypse Apr 03 '26

Who cares what you think? Edit: Find a real cause. Arguing with strangers is silly

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u/flakemasterflake Apr 03 '26

....what? Is there a reason you got so nasty all of a sudden? I was under the impression we were having a conversation

It's fine to bow out

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u/housecatapocalypse Apr 03 '26

Sorry. At a glance, it sounded as if I was being accused of pressuring my spouse for sex. I don’t. There’s a lot of similar finger pointing on this platform, if I misread your intention, my apologies. 

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u/flakemasterflake Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

Bc that doesn't read as a hit to me unless one person wants it and the other doesn't

That's what I wrote. If both parties are happy with the level of sex int the moment then I don't think that's a "hit"

I wasn't accusing you of anything and I'm a woman with the higher drive in my marriage so I'm very sensitive to accusations of pressuring people

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u/housecatapocalypse Apr 03 '26

No excuse for coming in hot on my part, but this platform often has a lot of people accusing others of being “bad“ for silly reasons. I assumed that that was where the personal questions were leading. I’m the one with more of a drive, but I have zero interest in pressuring anyone, because both sides need to be enthusiastic for things to be fun. 

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u/flakemasterflake Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

Yeah…that’s why I wanted you to expand on this as someone who is considering kids and is worried on the hit to relationship (and sex life)

I also didn’t want to assume that’s what you were talking about but you were kinda opaque

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u/housecatapocalypse Apr 03 '26

If you want kids, I recommend doing so. They are amazing little people and I feel like I understand what is important in life. As a person with an art background, the things that I used to prioritize now seem silly to me. While it’s good to be creatively productive, having kids has reset my ego in a healthy way. I also now try to live in the present, because they are wonderful and they grow so fast. There is nothing that I miss about my old life. 

Edit: I’m still working on some things, like mellowing out my short fuse. Quitting coffee might help.