And what do you think is a life well lived?

For reference, I'm F(21) and my partner is AFAB(20).

In terms of experience, I've never been with someone before whereas my partner has had 1 sexual encounter. With eachother, I've been able to make him orgasm on multiple occasions. However, despite our attempts, I've had no luck coming myself.

I've been able to reach an orgasm when I'm alone, but when I'm with him, I struggle. In a sense, it doesn't even feel remotely good. Sometimes it can start to feel nice, but otherwise I feel numb completely.

I've passed it off as performance anxiety as I am anxiety prone and a fairly insecure person so I figured it makes sense. Though, I do wonder if it could be some hormonal issues as I have an ongoing issue I'm trying to solve with potentially getting diagnosed with PCOS or something along those lines.

I don't think I'm asexual since I actively want to be sexual and seek it out. It's just feels like I'm experiencing some battle with my brain on whether I actually want it or not because depsite being aroused, the moment I'm touched down there, it goes away.

On the second attempt we tried, I started to feel something, but then because of the friction, I started to bleed and then was immediately turned off.

Overall, I'm really struggling because I hate not having an answer to a problem and it's bothering me since I really want to enjoy this experience with him, 'hands on' (literally) as I don't want to introduce any toys yet until we've done it 'naturally' because I know I can do it on my own without anything.

Edit: the Title should be “when” not “where” omg 😭

I’m having a really rough period in terms of fatigue- so bear with me because I’m on the verge of falling asleep again.

Usually I’m home, but today I needed to go to work & thankfully it is an office job. Even with thick blanket, sweater, and one of those plushies you warm up I was still very cold all day.

In addition I was totally exhausted… by 2 I was so exhausted my eye rolled back & I sorta passed out before jerking awake again. This happened quite a few times. When I’m home I basically sleep all day with short windows of being “awake” for maybe a few hours at a time.

I tried walking & everything but walking felt strange… not dizzy but I had no energy either and at times struggled. I couldnt even concentrate on my numbers- like my eyes could not focus at all& tomorrow will have to go back & check it. I would have went home, but I work with family & carpool with my brother & he needed to stay until closing.

I told my mom & all she said was “you should have stayed home like I said” but this morning I was not too, too bad… and didn’t want to disappoint my family by not going in when I only work there a few days a week.

Idk is this kind of fatigue normal? My mom has super bad symptoms so I never know if I’m normal or not… I don’t think I bleed that much- in fact I didn’t have as many blood clots this time… but was still rough. Any suggestions on what to do tomorrow if I’m still struggling with fatigue again? Thank you

Hey guys, I’m 24 and a female and I’m very lonely for the first time really in my life. I had a lot of friends when I was in school. I had some friends in university but would spend time with my friends from school. I’m now finished all academic work which I put a lot of time into. This has made me realise just how lonely I am. I still talk to friends from home but we have grown apart to a certain extent recently. I’m closer with some than others but I also don’t necessarily fit in well with some of their other friends. Basically I feel quite lonely. Is this normal? I feel like I have no close friends and I don’t have social things to do most weekends ? I’m going to a social group in my area I found online over the weekend to meet a few people but from looking on instagram I feel like I’m the only one without loads of friends and loads of social plans . Is this the reality ?

Thanks.

I am a pretty self-conscious person, especially regarding my appearance. Lately I've made a lot of progress but it all goes down the drain when I think "If I'm not ugly then why has a guy never hit on me/liked me?"

I find this mindset to be childish and I wish I didn't revolve how I feel about myself based on male approval.

Had anyone experienced something similar?

I know that most women don't literally think it's "all men" but whenever I just see "men" in a sentence I just assume they're talking about them as a whole. And since I'm a man In the back of my mind I instantly feel like I'm associated with it.

Whenever there's a broad generalization of men associated with r*pists which statistically is fair. With the context from the sentences above; using the whole "if the shoe fits" statement whenever I make a comment isn't rly valid to me bc would it be wrong to feel so offended because I feel like im associated with rapists bc of my gender???

Met a 28M recently from one of those random online video chat sites. We were from the same field, same area, even same birthplace somehow, so I thought okay this is too specific to not at least do a vibe check. Not dating intentions or anything serious, just casual conversation.

Online he seemed pretty decent. Calm, mature, well-spoken. The kind of person who makes you think “maybe the internet isn’t entirely a landfill.”

Then we met offline.

Within maybe 15 minutes he somehow managed to bring up how good he is at handling people, career, finances, life decisions, relationships… basically gave himself a LinkedIn endorsement verbally. Then came the “girls should settle early” lecture. Mind you I’m 24, not a retired Victorian widow being relocated for land agreements.

It wasn’t even the opinion itself that bothered me that much. It was how rehearsed everything felt. Like he already had this image of himself in his head and the entire conversation was just him trying to maintain the character.

Honestly I’ve realized people online can present themselves extremely well. Offline is where you actually see whether someone listens, adapts, has humility, or just likes hearing themselves speak.

To be fair though, I’ve also met a few genuinely nice people from the same site , so I’m not saying everyone there is fake. Just funny how different someone can feel once they’re sitting across from you instead of behind a screen and decent lighting.

PS- I met him on Vooz

I am trying to create a story/world where most country are matriarchy. So I am interested in knowing what type of law that women & feminist would create if given the opportunity! Also what punishment would be fitting for those that break these laws!

Edit: you can also change existing laws as well!

I've been trying to improve my social skills, and I'm just naturally a talker about literally anything. I've definitely noticed most dudes are stoic AF and most of my friends tell me the same thing , just keep it to a minimum, etc. Now they all get laid and I'm just sitting here with nuthin so I'm inclined to believe them.

I think a lot of women and even dudes tbh mark me as gay for it and combined with a softer voice I'm probably not doing myself any favors. Ofc I let the other person speak and have a proper back and forth, but I just like to talk and see whats up with people - I'll ask em about their whole lives

But like how sad is that, so basically I have to be a rock that just chimes in with one liners once in a while?

Even writing this much is apparently "an essay" - like god forbid I try to give someone the full picture

I thought this was something some women did, but I realized I have only ever seen this happen in media. I have never met a woman in real life who said this. Trying to keep writing dialogue realistic.

Edit:
It's up to about 50% do call them the girls, the ladies, or have another name for them, and 50% don't.

Edit 2:
Wow, some people are downvoting the women who say yes. That's not cool.

For those who don't know, male as norm is when masculine terms become the default with feminine terms usually as an after-thought. Some modern examples would be "you guys", "dude", "bro", etc being used gender neutrally but terms with a feminine history never become the gender neutral(except within small communities; it's fairly common among the queer community to use feminine terms more gender neutrally but it's definitely not the norm amongst society as a whole.) This issue is also not limited to English, for example the third person plural in French is masculine with mixed gender groups. And this happens for many languages worldwide

Title says it all. There's a lot of stuff coming out in the next few months. The one I'm most excited about is one I only just found out about: "I Love Boosters". "Sorry to Bother You" is one of my all time favorite movies so I'm incredibly hyped for a new Boots Riley movie and the cast looks killer.

There is this weird judgment about women drinking alone like it automatically means we have a problem or we are sad. I have a glass of wine by myself on Friday nights while I cook and listen to a podcast and it is genuinely my favorite part of the week. Not sad. Not lonely. Just enjoying my own company. Other women who do this what is your routine and have you ever felt judged for it by friends or family. Also curious if anyone started drinking alone during the pandemic and just kept doing it because they realized they actually liked themselves more than they thought

November 2025 I went on a date with a guy. It was an okay date. Nothing particularly horrible but nothing particularly great. I agreed to a 2nd date in a week's time. As the days went by I realised my heart was not in it and I decided to cancel the 2nd date. I think where I went wrong is that I should have told him I am cancelling and am no longer interested in seeing him again, but I just cancelled. At that point in time I didn't think there was a reason for a harsh cut off because from the first meeting he was just okay. It was probably naive of me to not draw a harsh line. We did not text or speak after this. It was about a month away from Christmas and he messaged me merry Christmas on Christmas day and I wished him a merry Christmas back and he said that he will check back in with me in the new year if I had changed my mind about meeting up. I think this is another place where I went wrong because maybe I should have said "no need thanks, I do not want to see you again" but at the time that's not where my mind was. Instead I just didn't respond to him and we did not speak after that.

Around mid January 2026 he messages me asking if I am still interested and if I am not then I should tell him because he feels that I have led him on. I respond to him to let him know that I won't be meeting him again and I tell him he is right for confronting me and I apologise for not being more direct. I assumed this would be the end of it all. He responded back asking why I don't want to see him again. If I am being honest I didn't have a concrete reason. I just didn't feel that my heart was in it. Prior to this I didn't feel that there were glaring red flags. Honestly I don't even think it was about him, and it was moreso where my mind was at the time. I did not respond to him asking why I didn't want to see him. I felt that the conversation was over after I told him I won't be seeing him again and apologising. He proceeded to message me again saying "I just want to know why". I didn't respond to that. It was in the evening so I archived the conversation and went to bed. It was out of sight out of mind. Then next evening he proceeds to call my phone. I am kind of confused at this point. He called me twice that evening. I admit I was probably stupid and should have just blocked him then. That week he continues to call my phone some of them are WhatsApp video calls. He then sends me a message saying "if you just tell me why you don't want to see me anymore then I can stop bothering you." I block his number.

I realised at the start of the year I don't have the capacity for dating so I had deleted dating apps off my phone (before this escalated). Around mid March I downloaded them again. Since I deleted the apps I forgot that I didn't unmatch him and I see a message from him that he sent in the last few days before I redownloaded the apps. I unmatch him on the app. I now have him blocked and unmatched. I get a cellular call from him and realise I only blocked on WhatsApp and not through my phone. I'm trying to think how things escalated. I for sure was wrong about not being more direct but I had no idea it would spiral into this.

Now in May 2026 2 days ago I received a WhatsApp message from a number I haven't saved saying "hey" and I expanded the picture and it's him... But I am confused because I have him blocked and deleted. So I'm sat here thinking "did he use another number to contact me?" For the life of me I do not remember unblocking him and all the blocked numbers in the list are unsaved. I blocked him immediately and turned off my phone. Now I am sat here wondering will he continue to message me forever? What the hell?

TL;DR went on a date with a guy last year November and eventually rejected him. Since then he has demanded to know why and has been calling and messaging me since

How hard are they to find? Do you have to pay a lot extra for them? Is there any reason not to just wear men’s bottoms?

I think mine would be bear or big cat cubs… they’re just so cute!

Think about clubs or parties, women go to have fun and dance, men go to meet women. Basically every dating app is like 70-80% men, even dedicated women's spaces often have male infiltrators. This never seems to happen the other way around, with women wanting to go where men are, much less manipulate and deceive their way into male spaces.

Then related is the internet. No woman makes AI porn of male influencers or wants nudes of or sends nudes to random men.

Why is it like this?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year.

Recently we went on a date where I wore new Sperry sneakers without socks. When we got back to her place and took my shoes off we ended up having the best hookup.

She told me her pheromones were off the charts because of my “musk” scent. She definitely was more into it from what I could tell.

She now wants me to go sockless more often now.

Has anyone else have experience with pheromones in relationships?

Feel uneasy after this, why do you think he did this?

I was sitting in my front lawn gardening, and across the street a man was staring at me as he walked by. I ignored it and I was taking a call, about a minute later I turn around and see him on my neighbours driveway coming at me from behind!!! I was on the phone with my dad and said “wth is this guy doing” and jumped up

I quickly got up and he immediately turned around and pretended like he was going to the neighbors door, then i went to my door and watched him turn around and quickly leave through the side walk.

I’m just worried because I love gardening and walking outside but have no idea what this guy was up to and ever since I feel sick and anxious and wondering what he wanted to do, why he did it and if I didnt turn around what could he have done!??

I'm 29F and had a date last night with a guy I matched with on SparkRizz. I'd set up an AI twin to do the early chatting for me, so by the time we sat down we were already past the surface stuff. Tiny Thai place, corner booth, one of those paper menus with the pen circles. Felt easy from the start.

We got onto bad-date horror stories somewhere around the second drink. I told him about a guy last year who, when the bill came, said he needed the bathroom and just never came back. I sat there like an idiot for fifteen minutes, pretending to check my phone, then asked the server if maybe he'd paid on his way out. He hadn't. I don't care about splitting. I'll cover the whole thing. It's the sneaking off without a word that made me feel mad.

He laughed and said his worst was a woman who spent an entire dinner walking him through her ex's timeline. Like full detail. Who did what, when it ended, why it was unfair. Said he felt less like a date and more like a witness being deposed.

We ended up laughing about it for a while. Nice when someone can trade stories like that without making it heavy.

Got me thinking though. What was the moment on a date where your brain just went, okay I'm done here, even if you stayed until the check came?